# God help me, one of my girlfriends is crazy. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 4, 2011, 10:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342 "2011-01-04T10:48:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/21 "2011-01-04T16:58:05Z")
> [@Stan\_Shmenge](#): > > It is very hard for me to understand her irrationality. Understand her irrationality? You’re not going to. She’s ill and needs treatment. > [@Stan\_Shmenge](#): > > I am, um, a bit much to take so they both are kind of relieved that I don’t want to be with each of them all the time. What, you have a giant penis and a harem of women and you’re still finding things to complain about? ---
**Author:** ![shamblesmaybe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/50afbb/32.png) [@shamblesmaybe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shamblesmaybe)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2011, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/22 "2011-01-04T17:09:10Z")
Strong weed is something that can trigger serious mental issues in those susceptible. If you’re her friend/lover whatever and she’s suffering from paranoia you should try and stop her smoking it, obviously this means that she won’t be buying it for you either. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2011, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/23 "2011-01-04T17:31:48Z")
A common side effect of getting high on pot is paranoia - she’s not doing herself any favours by smoking up if she’s tending that way to start with. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2011, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/24 "2011-01-04T17:43:56Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Hey, cool, finally some insight into the female mind that’s skeevier than Dr. Drew’s insistence that every woman with a high pitched voice was reacting to some childhood molestation. I thought that was Adam Corolla’s theory. Adult women with little girl voices are crazy, though. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2011, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/25 "2011-01-04T17:49:49Z")
Maybe. I thought it was Dr. Drew’s and that Adam was the one who thought it was kind of bizarre. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2011, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/26 "2011-01-04T17:55:00Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > A common side effect of getting high on pot is paranoia - she’s not doing herself any favours by smoking up if she’s tending that way to start with. Seconded. I stopped smoking weed because every time I did I got paranoid. Even if it isn’t the underlying cause, it certainly won’t help if one has a tendency towards it. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2011, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/27 "2011-01-05T01:17:41Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Maybe. I thought it was Dr. Drew’s and that Adam was the one who thought it was kind of bizarre. Back in the day when I used to listen they would have a contest and try to figure out the background just by hearing the voice. On very rare occasions it was just cause it was a small woman. Usually they were dead on. ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2011, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/28 "2011-01-05T01:51:31Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > A common side effect of getting high on pot is paranoia Indeed. Don’t smoke with her anymore. ---
**Author:** ![AnalogSignal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/analogsignal/32/1085_2.png) [@AnalogSignal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnalogSignal)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2011, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/29 "2011-01-05T04:43:16Z")
> [@kanicbird](#): > > One thing that seemed to help is get to her inner child, at a age that is before that pattern started, usually age 2-6, but may also be non-verbal (infant), and have her be comfortable being her child with you. **kanicbird** could write a book that Oprah would go nuts over. ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2011, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/30 "2011-01-05T05:39:18Z")
I have a very good friend who is the same way. I don’t sleep with him, but I do ride with him and probably am closer to him than anyone else and I do love and care about him. I’m the one who bails him out of jail (usually for assault), I’m the one who takes care of his stuff when he’s in jail or in the hospital. I’m the one who lends him money to buy petfood or gas when he’s broke. He’s on disability because of his mental and physical problems. Its really hard and sad, he’s like 50 or something, so I know I can’t change him. I just ignore his paranoid ramblings and deal with the situation. For example, a month or so ago, his dogs got out of his yard, ran off and got lost. My friend had been in and out of the gate all day and was working in his front yard. Dogs are in the back. My friend was sure that someone let the dogs out, and when they didn’t come back for dinner, he was positive that someone had not only walked through his front and side yard to open the back gate…they had put leashes on his big, unruly dogs and got them out in the 15 minutes he was inside. My friend wanted to spend all of his time telling me about the conspiracy. I got in my car and drove around looking for them. It happened on a Saturday. I called Animal Control, but not trusting that the guy answering the phone actually saw all the dogs in the back (not being paranoid here, just thinking that there are so many dogs going through there that nobody could be expected to know them all) on Monday, I left work early to look at the dogs. My friend’s dogs were there. I lent my friend the money to bail them out, dogs are home and my friend is now convinced that someone not only took his dogs…they drove the dogs 10 miles away and kept them over the weekend. So…what I’m saying is that there is nothing you can do to change how your friend perceives things. You can talk yourself blue in the face and it won’t sink in. Just let her ramble on, and when she lets you talk, say positive things. My friend: I know this and this and this neighbor got together to steal my dogs. Me: But at least they are safe at home now. You’ve put a padlock on the gate so it won’t happen again. My friend: its probably the same people who threw the rock at my windshield. (from what I saw…he had a chip in his windshield and it cracked when it got cold) Me: thank goodness you had glass coverage and didn’t have to pay for that. Are you going on the run next weekend, I think so-and-so will be there. If you even suggest that you are buying into her delusions, you are validating them. Don’t do it. I agree with the others, don’t smoke pot with her anymore. You won’t be able to stop her from doing it, but it might make your time together more enjoyable. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Conqueror\_Worm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@The\_Conqueror\_Worm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Conqueror_Worm)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2011, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342/31 "2011-01-06T21:59:09Z")
Regarding gold prospecting, especially in the San Gabriel river; much luck to you boyo. Remember the old adage, if you want to grow rich during a gold rush, sell shovels. Seriously, especially in So Cal, your best approach to prospecting is to just look at it as a good excuse to get outside and get some exercise. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/god-help-me-one-of-my-girlfriends-is-crazy/566342.md?page=1)