# Going on a first date with a cute girl i met online. any advice? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 26, 2015, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238 "2015-08-26T22:24:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/61 "2015-08-28T00:21:37Z")
> [@minlokwat](#): > > Well it sounds like someone definitely dodged a bullet. Seriously. If I were to give advice here, it would not be for the purpose of helping justjake succeed. Wanting to have sex is fine, but the way he wants to do it makes me think he’d be putting some poor sap in for a lousy time. If I gave advice, it’d be for the purpose of helping the woman avoid said bad time. Fortunately, looks like he’s got that covered without my help. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/62 "2015-08-28T00:29:38Z")
You had a date planned and you fell asleep! Wow. Either you have narcolepsy or a drug and alcohol problem. Who the hell falls asleep with a date planned? I can’t even fall asleep after working at it. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/63 "2015-08-28T04:25:30Z")
You must not have wanted to have sex that badly if you missed the date due to falling asleep. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/64 "2015-08-28T04:35:05Z")
> [@justjake](#): > > update: > > Didn’t go on the date. I fell asleep and she started messaging me back really slowly and we never planned anything. > > Might try tonight and if not tommorow. Gotta decide and try to gauge her real interest level. > > Think she might be one of those online attention whores “time wasters” and will just “oh lets meet” _5 days later_ "oh something happened hehe. " Just curious. She said “hi” to you, on line, and you thought things were getting really serious and thereafter you forgot to tell her about the date you had with her? Am I close or something? ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/65 "2015-08-28T05:34:33Z")
Is “swimming” a euphemism for coming up for coffee? ---
**Author:** ![choie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/choie/32/7829_2.png) [@choie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/choie)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/66 "2015-08-28T05:52:13Z")
> [@justjake](#): > > Think she might be one of those online attention whores “time wasters” and will just “oh lets meet” _5 days later_ "oh something happened hehe. " Dude, I feel you. There’s nothing worse than one of those online attention whores who post shit just to get you all riled up when they’re actually just stringing you along for their own weird jollies. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/67 "2015-08-28T07:16:53Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > You had a date planned and you fell asleep! > > Wow. Either you have narcolepsy or a drug and alcohol problem. > > Who the hell falls asleep with a date planned? Somebody who just made up the whole story? ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/68 "2015-08-28T07:42:58Z")
> [@choie](#): > > There’s nothing worse than one of those online attention whores who post shit just to get you all riled up when they’re actually just stringing you along for their own weird jollies. Actually, when I tried out Tinder I had an experience much like that. I had talked to the girl a good amount via text as well as over the phone (she was definitely real), and she had been very flirtatious and clear that she was interested in having sex with me. Yet whenever I would push for a time we could actually meet up, she avoided committing to it. And she said two things that were giant red flags: that she still saw her “ex” sometimes, and that every few months she would delete the Tinder app but that it made her feel good getting attention from guys on it. I gathered that she was probably still committed to this relationship of hers and was never truly interested in meeting anyone through the app but was just using it as a kind of ego/self-esteem boost. Pretty shitty, but there are women like that out there. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/69 "2015-08-28T14:27:20Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > You had a date planned and you fell asleep! Be reasonable. LOTS of people take a nap after jerking off. ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/70 "2015-08-28T14:40:45Z")
She told ME she was dying to put out but the wank never showed. You snooze, you lose. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/71 "2015-08-28T14:48:20Z")
What an anticlimax. So to speak. ---
**Author:** ![Dustin\_the\_Wind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f1d935/32.png) [@Dustin\_the\_Wind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dustin_the_Wind)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/72 "2015-08-28T15:58:35Z")
> [@Ukulele\_Ike](#): > > Be reasonable. LOTS of people take a nap after jerking off. My thought exactly.:rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/73 "2015-08-28T16:10:49Z")
Ask if she knows anyone who’s hiring. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/74 "2015-08-28T16:32:23Z")
The OP needs to switch to the day shift and quit wearing khakis. That way he won’t fall asleep and his pants won’t be so tight. ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/75 "2015-08-28T18:09:04Z")
> [@justjake](#): > > i have. i just wanna have sex. Isn’t that what Tinder and OKCupid and Hinge and stuff like that are for? Or Craigslist or just you know, going and meeting a chick in a bar? Going out on a date with hopes of first-date sex seems like the lowest-percentage way to go about it that I can possibly think of, other than asking nuns out or something like that. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/76 "2015-08-28T19:05:54Z")
> [@justjake](#): > > I don’t have a lot of money Step 1. Get money. Step 2. Fuck bitches. ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/77 "2015-08-28T19:41:10Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Step 1. Get money. > > Step 2. Fuck bitches. Isn’t the Scarface method First you get the money then you get the power THEN, you get the women? ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2015, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/78 "2015-08-28T22:05:10Z")
**Drunky Smurf** comes from the Carter school of poundin’ vag. ---
**Author:** ![justjake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a587f6/32.png) [@justjake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/justjake)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2015, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/79 "2015-08-29T01:06:57Z")
Apparantly shes working today until close (9 pm. so literally in a few minutes) and i haven’t heard anything at all from her all day. She talked to me briefly earlier today and the last thing i asked her was “oh damn. you should see me when you get off:)” in reply to her saying “yes i am. close” (she is closing at her job) Honestly, i really like this girl, and i’d really like to go on a date with her. If she doesn’t respond in a bout another 35 minutes then that means she officially ignored me. I don’t believe she lives farther then that from her job, on top of younger people constantly texting and driving and just texting at any occasion in general. She probably has her phone right there. I’ve noticed a severe trend with women online because they get to “pick and choose” their “ken doll” online and at any moment anything is said o done they don’t like at all whatsoever they drop you and find another fish. What’s my best chance at this point of seeing her? What should i do? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2015, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238/80 "2015-08-29T01:11:46Z")
You started a new thread just for this?? 😕 This is really just a continuation of your other thread. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/going-on-a-first-date-with-a-cute-girl-i-met-online-any-advice/729238.md?page=5)