# Goodby it's been a hard battle. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 28, 2000, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479 "2000-04-28T02:59:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/1 "2000-04-28T02:59:00Z")
Today was the end to my best friend’s suffering from leukemia. After two and a half years she’s gone. The last four months have been Hell for her. Bad for friends and family. Since Sunday gasping breaths, and intervense pain medicine. Today the lungs gurgled from the fluids. That was the worst point for us. Move on dear friend. Your suffering is done, and you will not be forgotten. Death is a parting for now. Those not with you, you will meet again. ---
**Author:** ![abderian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de0a6/32.png) [@abderian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/abderian)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/2 "2000-04-28T03:02:00Z")
Oh, that is rough, Phobia. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/3 "2000-04-28T03:02:00Z")
I offer you my sympathy and hope that her family and friends will be comforted during this time of sorrow in the same way that you are finding your comfort; knowing that she has moved on and the battle is over. God bless and keep you. * * * \*\* _Sigh_. So many men, so few who can afford me \*\* _Original by Wally_ _I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it._ Homepage: [www.superlativeandsassy.com](http://www.superlativeandsassy.com) Occupation: Temptress Location: Ultra, California Interests: surpluses, excesses, abundances, extras, lagniappes _profile by UncleBeer_ ---
**Author:** ![Highlander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Highlander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Highlander)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/4 "2000-04-28T03:18:00Z")
Phobia, please accept Melin’s and my deepest sympathies on the loss of your friend. There really isn’t much that can be said at a time like this. We are sending your way warm thoughts and hugs to help you through your grief. ---
**Author:** ![Nanno](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Nanno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nanno)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/5 "2000-04-28T03:24:00Z")
I am so sorry that you had to go through this, you brought back memories of my husbands death one month ago today. I know what you are feeling, the sounds, the last breath. But they are no longer in pain. Nanno ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/6 "2000-04-28T03:29:00Z")
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![CanadianSue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@CanadianSue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanadianSue)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/7 "2000-04-28T03:33:00Z")
I too am holding special memories tonite. Five past midnight is the anniversary of my mom’s death by breast cancer. I too was with her at the end, a blessed moment of her finally being at peace. Hold your friend’s memories close to your heart Phobia and she will be with you forever. * * * Give your children these two things: One is roots, the other, wings - Wally Wally He’s our Man ---
**Author:** ![SingleDad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9e8a1a/32.png) [@SingleDad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SingleDad)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/8 "2000-04-28T04:03:00Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![dragonlady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/5f8ce5/32.png) [@dragonlady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dragonlady)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/9 "2000-04-28T04:35:00Z")
I lost Michael five years ago and have always wished I had the chance to say goodbye. I guess the lesson is that there is no good way to lose someone you love. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [April 28, 2000, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/10 "2000-04-28T05:16:00Z")
God bless. I’m sure your friend is in a better place and the suffering is over. ---
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/11 "2000-04-30T04:42:20Z")
I’d like to thank the people who posted for their support. Today I filled the front area in front of her house with buckets of flowering crabs, apples, and wild plum. I sent her home with a bucket full every year in the spring. I looked for a long time for lilacs, her favorite flowers, but could only find buds weeks from opening. She got a bucket full of them once a year too. Good news received on friday. My sister in law with severe Lupus is feeling great. She’s been a test subject for many new treatments, to come your way soon. She’s feeling the best she has for years. The doctor used the methods on his son that was affected since birth and in a wheel chair. His son is now attending school using only a cane to walk. Sorry, but I can’t give out any information for the treatments or names. The doctor is currently proving to the FDA the treatment, and we’re not to discuss it. Legally bound here, so please don’t ask me for any information. I will post when I find the treatments are approved. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/12 "2000-04-30T05:25:49Z")
My deepest condolences, Phobia. May your friend’s soul rest in peace. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/13 "2000-04-30T06:36:49Z")
Phobia I’m so sorry for your great loss. I beg of you to tell me one small thing about your friend. I’m sure she was loving and kind, your words were very evocative and I could almost hear the gasping. I would love to know even only one tiny detail of this beautiful creatures existence, if only to drown out the gasping that echos now so loudly. ---
**Author:** ![the\_Scarlet\_Pimpernel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f1d935/32.png) [@the\_Scarlet\_Pimpernel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_Scarlet_Pimpernel)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/14 "2000-04-30T10:31:25Z")
Oh Phobia, Im so sorry. Any words I post will be inadequate, but please know you have my sympathy. And Im happy to hear that your sister-in-law is doing so well. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/15 "2000-04-30T12:06:19Z")
Sorry, my friend. There just aren’t any words. ---
**Author:** ![CanadianSue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@CanadianSue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanadianSue)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/16 "2000-04-30T13:03:12Z")
Phobia what a great way to carry on the memory of your friend, I am sure it was with mixed emotions but good feelings for you today. Im glad to hear about your sister in law. Keep us posted! ---
**Author:** ![Harmonious\_Discord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/74df32/32.png) [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/17 "2000-04-30T13:19:57Z")
elbows3 She would do without many things, to buy stuff for her four grand childern. She saw them regularly. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/18 "2000-04-30T15:16:42Z")
☹ Sorry about your loss, Phobia. Sounds like she had a great friend. ---
**Author:** ![Vestal\_Blue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5e9695/32.png) [@Vestal\_Blue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vestal_Blue)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/19 "2000-04-30T15:25:28Z")
Phobia, my thoughts and prayers are with you and her family. Having lost my brother to melanoma in January, I understand. ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2000, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479/20 "2000-04-30T20:43:55Z")
Phobia, I am so very sorry for your loss. ☹ If there is anything at all I can do, you have only to ask. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/goodby-its-been-a-hard-battle/16479.md?page=2)