Personal hygiene is a must!
I’m not talking about obsessing on this. I forget to brush my teeth every once in a while. And it’s ok to be a bit smelly when just returning from a run/camping trip/the barn/whatever, but the next day (or even a few hours later) it’s definitely NOT OK.
I’d hope this would go without saying, but from what I hear, it’s not a given in the wide world of dating. Ick!
Why would it creep you out? Even though female-to-male surgery is far from perfect, I would have absolutely no problem dating a f-to-m transsexual. By the way, the male-to-female surgery is so perfected that people have been married for years to transsexuals without knowing it.
It’s the bigotry here that’s getting me: being “creeped out,” saying “assuming anyone would get close enough,” and such. Why such hostility to, or fear of, transsexuals? Again, do you think dating a transsexual would make you gay somehow?
Inquiring minds want to know!
Flora, I don’t worry about appearing gay because I don’t really care what other people think. I do care what I think. I really wouldn’t want to kiss a transsexual because then I would think, “These lips used to be guy lips, with whiskers growing around them and everything! Eeewww!!” I wouldn’t want to have sex with a transsexual because I’d be thinking, “There used to be a penis down there where mine is, except it was pointing in the opposite direction and attached! Eeewww!” Call me whatever names you want to, but I can’t help the way I feel. If you want to discuss this further, you should open up a new thread, perhaps in Great Debates although MPSIMS would probably be a valid forum as well.
Since I’m posting again, I’ll add to what I said previously:
Addressing the more boring male female relationships, I have some tips for females. If the guy has some potential, he might not be ready for anything long term. Find out if he still goes to James Bond movies. If he does, he needs more training. Throw out his Playboys or other magazines. If it’s no big deal, he’s OK. If he’s emotionally attached to Miss July, he needs more work.
I didn’t ever find that women had these sort of problems, but they may be cursed by some “have to get married” mission. It happens, though I’m surprised that it does. No, I did not have that problem with the wife.
How tragic–after all they’ve gone through to finally lead a happy, normal life, they’ll always be alone because no one can love them? It’s like the (pre-Disney) Little Mermaid, who had to give up her voice to get legs, and still couldn’t find love . . .
As for the Flora/MC arguement going on, it probably belongs in GD. However, I’ll put in my $.02.
Flora, we’re not talking about job discrimination or right-to-vote here. A romantic/sexual relationship is a very personal thing and I for one have to side with MC on this. If it “creeps him out,” so be it. Feelings are not rational things, and no amount of logic can change the way he feels. If the idea of being with a p.op. transexual bothers him, then it’s probably a good idea that he should not get involved with one. There are plenty of men who would not be bothered by it, and the number of POTs is pretty small. Let it go.
I know one can’t help one’s feelings–I would not be attracted to an overweight man, that doesn’t make fat guys evil or lesser human beings. But what about it, ARE there any men out there who wouldn’t have a problem dating a transsexual? How about women, dating a transsexual guy?
Flora, I’m going to start another thread dedicated to your question to keep from straying in this one. I’ll put it in MPSIMS for now although it might get moved to Great Debates.