# grude, do you have something on your mind? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 20, 2014, 9:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906 "2014-10-20T09:35:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 9:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/1 "2014-10-20T09:35:18Z")
Taken as a sum total, the “[I like saying nigger a lot - but it’s cool, I’m not in the US](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737920)” thread, the “[Africans - an annoying monoculture with deadly personal habits!](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737399)” thread and the (Admittedly, much more subtle) fishing expedition that is the “[Wartime rape - why do only the enlightened ‘First World’ countries not do it?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737681)” thread, I can’t help but feel there’s…something you’re trying to tell us. I wish I knew what it was you were trying to say…:dubious: ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 9:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/2 "2014-10-20T09:44:07Z")
I understand that fishing is a very popular pastime in Trinidad. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 10:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/3 "2014-10-20T10:34:09Z")
You missed [this little gem,](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737920) which was just closed. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/4 "2014-10-20T10:39:20Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > You missed [this little gem,](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737920) which was just closed. Reread my OP, it’s the first link. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 10:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/5 "2014-10-20T10:42:16Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > Reread my OP, it’s the first link. So it is. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 11:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/6 "2014-10-20T11:12:01Z")
Hey, it’s all okay. He isn’t in the United States. I missed the one on wartime rape. So glad that I live in an enlightened rape-free society. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/7 "2014-10-20T12:10:39Z")
I fear that this may be an extended “Nudge, Nudge” sketch that will end with **grude** asking what it’s like to be black. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/8 "2014-10-20T12:38:26Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > Hey, it’s all okay. He isn’t in the United States. I bet some of his best friends are black. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/9 "2014-10-20T12:51:41Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > You missed [this little gem,](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737920) which was just closed. Had I seen it in time, I’m sure I would have asked about that game described in Mad Magazine; Three-Cornered Pickney. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/10 "2014-10-20T13:58:08Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > I bet some of his best friends are black. …and he’s trying to find a way to sell them on Ebay? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Freddy\_the\_Pig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Freddy\_the\_Pig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freddy_the_Pig)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/11 "2014-10-20T14:35:00Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > He isn’t in the United States. Thank God. ---
**Author:** ![Slowki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/97f17d/32.png) [@Slowki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slowki)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/12 "2014-10-20T16:21:12Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > He isn’t in the United States. That’s probably because he still recognizes the Confederacy. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/13 "2014-10-20T18:00:49Z")
I don’t like saying nigger, I’m sick of race being rubbed in my fucking face(we’re in the pit right?) Anyway my point with that thread was imagine you’re getting lunch off, aw. You decide to sit on a bench in a park and eat your lunch, when a person walks by and decides to tell you you’re acting old niggerish. WTF You mention this bizarre occurrence to someone, this crazy person and they back the crazy person! Saying well eating in public, clearly you were acting like an old nigger. I hate attention, I hate strangers talking to me, I doubly hate strangers talking to me and using racial slurs. I have no clue how to respond, the whole situation is so absurd. Then it happens again, and again, then strangers call your kid a pickney. I get it, they probably aren’t saying it in hate but it is so damn absurd. My wife was talking to her friend on the phone years ago, her friend said “I bet he he is thinking why are these nigger bitches talking about him” my wife said I am sure my husband does not refer to me as nigger bitch in his mind. Her friend said nah I am sure he does.😕 Once a woman sat down on a bench next to me and starting babbling about I am sure you think why is this nigger woman talking to me and etc. I said NO I am not thinking that(spoiler alert she wanted to tell me about a man named Jesus) and she was like I am sure you are. TLDR I am sick of Trinidad. ---
**Author:** ![ElvisL1ves](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5daacb/32.png) [@ElvisL1ves](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ElvisL1ves)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/14 "2014-10-20T18:08:44Z")
This can only end in tears. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/15 "2014-10-20T18:10:58Z")
Have you had a stroke recently? ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/16 "2014-10-20T18:12:30Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > Taken as a sum total, the “[I like saying nigger a lot - but it’s cool, I’m not in the US](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737920)” thread, the “[Africans - an annoying monoculture with deadly personal habits!](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737399)” thread and the (Admittedly, much more subtle) fishing expedition that is the “[Wartime rape - why do only the enlightened ‘First World’ countries not do it?](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=737681)” thread, I can’t help but feel there’s…something you’re trying to tell us. I wish I knew what it was you were trying to say…:dubious: It sounds like you have something you want to tell us. You can share, it’s ok, this is a safe place. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/17 "2014-10-20T18:18:13Z")
Mr Dribble- The wartime rape thread was inspired by ISIS mainstream media articles, and historical accounts of wartime rape. I wondered if I was born a hundred to a thousand years ago would my peers have been looking forward to a war so they could get some? But your assumptions are appreciated! ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/18 "2014-10-20T18:26:57Z")
I’m impressed he’s participating. More than he does in plenty of the threads he starts. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/19 "2014-10-20T18:34:34Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > I’m impressed he’s participating. More than he does in plenty of the threads he starts. I read them though, this board needs some kind of system where you could give a poster points. The thread I made about what exactly communist revolutionaries expected to happen was one of the the single most educational threads I ever made on the board. I’ve been meaning to address this but just because I don’t post back in a thread doesn’t mean I’m not reading it. EDIT:Also the thread about the movie Life Of PI 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2014, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906/20 "2014-10-20T18:36:06Z")
> [@ElvisL1ves](#): > > This can only end in tears. Nigger tears? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/grude-do-you-have-something-on-your-mind/701906.md?page=2)