# Guess what I got for Christmas? Dumped! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 5, 2004, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801 "2004-01-05T14:04:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/1 "2004-01-05T14:04:55Z")
Yes, that’s right, the man who only a couple of weeks previously told me he loved me and could see us spending the rest of our lives together, called me two days before Christmas and, presumably reading straight from a book entitled “100 and 1 Cliches to Use When Dumping Someone”, told me that he felt “we were moving in different directions”, that he “wasn’t ready to settle down yet”, and that he “hoped we could still be friends”. Couldn’t believe it. To add insult to injury, I had started 2003 by getting dumped by a man I loved on New Year’s Day. I wondering if this year, I can get someone to dump me on my birthday, just to make completely sure that’s there is no significant date of the year which has any pleasant connotations for me - a hat-trick, if you will. So that’s it. I’ve had it with relationships. There’s not a single man out there who’s worth the heartache. I seem to attract men who recognise that I have trust issues, pursue me relentlessly, push and push at me till they finally break down my barriers, then, the moment I admit I have feelings for them, drop me like a hot brick. I mean, is it some kind of sick joke to them??! I can’t do it anymore, I’m an honest, straightforward person and I’m sick to death of playing these stupid mind games. So I quit. My mother’s lived all of her adult life alone, and she’s perfectly happy and content, and I can be too. At least the whole experience has made me realise something - there are no happy endings. Prince Charming is not going to come along and sweep me of my feet and carry me off into the happy-ever-after. I’m the only person who can make my life worthwhile, and that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I’m going to stop pissing about thinking I’m going to become famous and get my life in order. Just as soon as I can stop alternating between fits of crying and fits of sheer blind rage, that is :rolleyes: . \*Note to mods: I didn’t put this in the Pit because, frankly, the naked aggression in there scares me. But feel free to move this if you think it necessary. ---
**Author:** ![ruadh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d2c977/32.png) [@ruadh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ruadh)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/2 "2004-01-05T14:15:40Z")
Man, it seems to be Dump City around the SDMB lately. Condolences Jen. Small consolation but it sounds like you’re better off without this one anyway. Does he have a good looking best friend you can shag? It might help. ---
**Author:** ![curly\_chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ba0ec/32.png) [@curly\_chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curly_chick)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/3 "2004-01-05T14:34:21Z")
I am with you, **ruadh** , what the hell is going on? You can’t turn round lately without someone having been given the elbow or been doing the elbowing. Sundered hearts everywhere at the moment. Whatever it is, I am sorry to hear that **Jenny** , I know you were enjoying yourself before Christmas. ---
**Author:** ![acrossthesea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/838e76/32.png) [@acrossthesea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/acrossthesea)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/4 "2004-01-05T14:38:16Z")
I’m sorry to hear that. Yeah, ruadh is right: my husband dumped me the week before christmas. The stuff you described about the kind of guys you attract is something I can certainly relate to. I don’t know why so many people seem to become such jerks out of the blue, but they seem to. You seem to have a positive outlook for yourself though. This is good. I hope things turn around for you for the better. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/5 "2004-01-05T14:45:14Z")
I got dumped three days after Christmas 2002. Ouch. I’m sorry this happened, **Jenny**. ---
**Author:** ![Chimpy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a9adbd/32.png) [@Chimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimpy)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/6 "2004-01-05T14:46:59Z")
ok warm thoughts and condolences to **Jenny** and **acrossthesea** and any other dopers who have been given the elbow, and good luck in the future. ---
**Author:** ![Ca3799](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9f8e36/32.png) [@Ca3799](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ca3799)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/7 "2004-01-05T15:20:50Z")
Aww, sorry you got dumped. Now you are free. “Prince Charming is not going to come along and sweep me of my feet and carry me off into the happy-ever-after. I’m the only person who can make my life worthwhile, and that’s exactly what I’m going to do. I’m going to stop pissing about thinking I’m going to become famous and get my life in order…” Be sure to re-read this from time to time. It’s very important. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/8 "2004-01-05T15:29:47Z")
Sorry to hear that Jenny. Sending warm thoughts your way. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/9 "2004-01-05T15:53:08Z")
Ouch. Sorry to hear about that **Jenny**. Not a nice way to spend Christmas and New Year - but its a new year, so a fresh start - which is exactly what you’re doing. Good for you. ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/10 "2004-01-05T15:54:21Z")
To think that you snubbed _me_ for this chump. (Sorry if you don’t find that amusing) ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/11 "2004-01-05T15:59:26Z")
My condolences. You’ll be better off… ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/12 "2004-01-05T16:01:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ilsa\_Lund \* > \*\*To think that you snubbed _me_ for this chump. > > (Sorry if you don’t find that amusing) \*\* I did??? _When?!_ ---
**Author:** ![paulberserker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c4cdca/32.png) [@paulberserker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/paulberserker)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/13 "2004-01-05T16:04:59Z")
Hellfire kids! first day i’m back on the boards and everyones getting dumped. what goes on? ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/14 "2004-01-05T16:12:06Z")
WARNING: The SDMB is bad for your relationship. Or so it seems. Sorry to hear your bad news, **Jenny**. ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/15 "2004-01-05T16:26:50Z")
> [@](#): > > I did??? When?! The “Sexiest Male Names?” thread. My name is Alex. You said you’d be free on Friday if it weren’t for a Daniel. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/16 "2004-01-05T16:32:50Z")
Oh, ok. Well, you’re better off anyway, seeing as it turns out I’m fundamentally unloveable ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/17 "2004-01-05T16:34:51Z")
> [@](#): > > Oh, ok. Well, you’re better off anyway, seeing as it turns out I’m fundamentally unloveable Nah. You just need alcohol. ---
**Author:** ![Priam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/77aa72/32.png) [@Priam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Priam)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/18 "2004-01-05T16:37:31Z")
\*It seems we’re headed for a total breakdown It keeps on getting harder to connect If this is not a war between the sexes Well then some kind of hex is in effect The ones we used to call the happy couple Have given up on romance altogether How that perfect one could come undone Looks like love’s in for a run of nasty weather Lines are down, streets are redded Pipes cracked, apartments gutted The tough are gettin’ goin’, ‘cause the goin’s gettin’ tough Everybody’s breakin’ up…\* “Everybody’s Breakin’ Up” - Alannah Myles ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/19 "2004-01-05T17:01:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jennyrosity \* > \*\*Oh, ok. Well, you’re better off anyway, seeing as it turns out I’m fundamentally unloveable ☹ \*\* Don’t be daft - you are loveable - why shouldn’t you be? Its just finding that someone who loves you. That someone who will love you for who you are, and not jerk you around. ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801/20 "2004-01-05T17:01:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ilsa\_Lund \* > \*\*Nah. You just need alcohol. \*\* Hey! Enough with the insults! I’m emotionally vunerable, you know. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guess-what-i-got-for-christmas-dumped/222801.md?page=2)