# Gurujulp would've wanted his doper family to know... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 21, 2012, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409 "2012-03-21T14:50:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stendhal_Syndrome)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/141 "2012-03-23T15:09:02Z")
Here is a[link](http://inmemoryofjesse.shutterfly.com/pictures/8) to some pictures of us. I added captions to some of them. There are some of the last pictures of Jesse in there. I am happy that his story is making some of you to take your health seriously. Please do. Enjoy everyday, enjoy your loved ones, say I love you or let people know that you love them in any which way you can as often as you can. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/142 "2012-03-23T15:14:44Z")
What a beautiful family. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/143 "2012-03-23T15:21:56Z")
> [@Stendhal\_Syndrome](#): > > Here is a[link](http://inmemoryofjesse.shutterfly.com/pictures/8) to some pictures of us. I added captions to some of them. There are some of the last pictures of Jesse in there. Thank you for helping us get to know him and your family a little better. ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/144 "2012-03-23T17:39:26Z")
I wish it were in my power to grant you support from others and patience with yourself over the coming weeks and months. You will need tremendous amounts of both. My heart goes out to you. It sounds like you and Jesse loved each other very much. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Burro\_Buenmozo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@El\_Burro\_Buenmozo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Burro_Buenmozo)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/145 "2012-03-23T17:47:15Z")
My condolences. Your description of your last night together has me weeping at work. His post in the 95% plague thread made me secretly happy because I had finally discovered someone who thought the same way as me. I wish I knew more about him. Please, please let us know how we can help you. ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/146 "2012-03-23T19:11:02Z")
> [@maggenpye](#): > > Weeping. Thanks for posting. This. Thank you for sharing. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/147 "2012-03-23T19:17:48Z")
> [@Taomist](#): > > This. Thank you for sharing. Yes, thank you, **Stendahl**. I cried this morning when I read your post. Thank you for sharing your photos with us, and I am keeping good thoughts for you and your family in this horrible time. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/148 "2012-03-23T19:20:41Z")
Extremely sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Heart\_of\_Dorkness](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/4bbf92/32.png) [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heart_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/149 "2012-03-23T19:30:42Z")
Again, I wish I could express how sorry I am, and how much I was moved by your post and the love you shared. My heart is with you and your beautiful family. ---
**Author:** ![dada2fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ccd318/32.png) [@dada2fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dada2fish)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/150 "2012-03-23T21:51:27Z")
I could barely breathe and I was tensed up while I read of your story since I knew the ending was of your husbands last moments. Thank you for posting and allowing us into such a personal and heartbreaking time in your life. I could sense the deep love you had for each other in your words. I wish you and your girls peace. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2012, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/151 "2012-03-23T23:08:02Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss. He seemed like a wonderful man and I wish peace for you, your children and all of his loved ones. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2012, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/152 "2012-03-24T00:58:53Z")
I am so very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Chicken\_Fingers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Chicken\_Fingers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chicken_Fingers)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2012, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/153 "2012-03-24T01:40:39Z")
My condolences. I am very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/77aa72/32.png) [@Stendhal\_Syndrome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stendhal_Syndrome)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2012, 8:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/154 "2012-03-24T08:53:56Z")
Hi all. Yesterday we made all the arrangements for Jesse’s memorial service. I signed all kinds of papers and it was difficult to read things like “transport him”, " permits for your husband", “he is with us” etc. I broke down numerous times. The only thing I could think of the whole entire time was that he was somewhere close to me…right around the corner…because the funeral home had called me the night before to let me know that they “had him” after the coroners office let him go. Three or four hours later when our paperwork and all the procedures were coming to an end, I asked if I could see Jesse. I decided to see him because I missed his face and I felt like I had to because he was right there. How could I just drive away? They said it was ok. My sister and Jesse’s mom were with me. Oh…and Maya too. I also told them that I only wanted to see his face and possibly touch it. My heart was beating so fast…I thought I would die but I was also kinda excited to see him and touch him. He was laying there…he looked very peaceful. I ran toward him. I said hi and touched his face and kissed him. I told him his hair looked and felt great and that he looked good. 🙂 I told him everyone was here and that we loved him. We had a group hug. We had Maya touch his face also gently…she babbled and cooed. I spent a few more minutes with him and left. I felt extremely calm and glad that I had seen him. It grounded me in a lot of ways and it bought closure…painful closure. I miss him dearly…I love him and sometimes I just stop functioning and feel helpless and there are other times when I am laughing and talking about him and the things he did. I glanced over my really long post yesterday and my eyes were drawn to the fact that I had said he “was” breathing when I found him. I will give anything for that to be true. I wish he was breathing when I found him. That was wishful writing. Thank you all for the immense support and all the well wishes. We love you guys. The memorial service is going to be held on Thursday, the 29th. I am going to make sure his fav songs are played…and people better get ready to listen to the Dwarves and Misfits. Haha. Jess would get a kick out of that. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2012, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/155 "2012-03-24T10:51:13Z")
((hugs)) I’m glad seeing him helped 🙂 I know you were considering not doing it (which would have been ok too) but it sounds like you made the right decision for you. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2012, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/156 "2012-03-24T12:46:03Z")
Stendhal, you last post brought me to tears. I cannot for the life of me imagine what you are going thru. I cannot say it enough… I am so, so, so very sorry. Anna ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [March 24, 2012, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/157 "2012-03-24T15:00:33Z")
Is there a charity gurujulp/Jesse favored, and we could send donations to that, in lieu of cards or flowers? It would be something more tangible than an expression of sympathy on a message board. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2012, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409/158 "2012-04-12T19:50:23Z")
I apologize that I did not notice this thread until now, and I add my name to those Dopers who are sorry for your loss. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gurujulp-wouldve-wanted-his-doper-family-to-know/616409.md?page=7)