# Guy food or wife food? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [August 20, 2009, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139 "2009-08-20T23:17:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/41 "2009-08-21T19:00:38Z")
> [@Shirley\_Ujest](#): > > Gorge yourself on the chili. > Welcome her home with a 21 gun salute, if you know what I mean. You’d need 6 other guys over. And a clean garage, 'cause that’s where you’d be sleeping. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 7:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/42 "2009-08-21T19:12:27Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Why not eat everything? You can eat the “guy food”, while your buddies and the strippers can indulge in the food the Mrs left. I like the way you think. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![misling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3ab097/32.png) [@misling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misling)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/43 "2009-08-21T20:22:31Z")
I’m thinking, invite over all the guys you like for a poker night or something, have them help eat up all the food in the fridge (or a major portion of it), then eat guy food for most of the rest of the days. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/44 "2009-08-21T20:26:29Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > The fridge and freezer are full of food she prepared for me Eat the stuff in the fridge, pretend you didn’t notice the stuff in the freezer. There was stuff in the freezer too??? :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/45 "2009-08-21T20:47:47Z")
> [@](#): > > I’m also surprised at how many women would actually make sure there was food prepared for their husbands. Huh? What is this, the 50s? Are there really guys out there who can’t cook well enough to sustain themselves and must have their wives plan out/create a week’s worth of meals?! Everyone can cook, if they have even the slightest interest in learning how. However, some folks can cook much better than others. I see nothing odd in one partner doing the vast majority of the cooking, just because of greater skill, and sometimes that one partner who does the cooking is going to be the wife. ---
**Author:** ![booklover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@booklover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/booklover)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2009, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/46 "2009-08-21T23:30:48Z")
Eat some of the stuff your wife left and some of the stuff you want to eat. Personally, I just finished up a dinner of Ethiopian takeout because my partner’s away and the stuff has unfortunate side effects on her digestive tract. For **statsman1982** , sometimes it’s an issue of what both parties see as an acceptable meal. I’m perfectly happy to have scrambled eggs for dinner, but I can’t picture dishing that up for the two of us as our evening meal. ---
**Author:** ![lshaw](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e36b37/32.png) [@lshaw](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lshaw)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/47 "2009-08-22T00:15:44Z")
This is too easy. Just eat whatever you feel like eating. No harm in indulging once in a while. And if you are still hungry, go ahead and polish off the beef stew. > [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](#): > > I’m also surprised at how many women would actually make sure there was food prepared for their husbands. Huh? What is this, the 50s? Are there really guys out there who can’t cook well enough to sustain themselves and must have their wives plan out/create a week’s worth of meals?! Heh, in the case with my parents, both parties couldn’t cook very well. When they were still together, my father expected my mother to prepare all the meals, despite the fact that she also had a full time job and her own career going on. He was pretty archaic in thought when it came to gender roles. It wasn’t like she had any more free time than he did or was better at it than he was. She finally got fed up with the nonsense and hired a cook to prepare the meals. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/48 "2009-08-22T00:59:11Z")
Man, that stew was good! Tomorrow…burritos. From a truck! ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/49 "2009-08-22T01:39:24Z")
I say go full balls to the wall and eat whatever pleases you. I understand enforced dietary restrictions in marriage, though, as I have forbidden durian in our home even though the wife loves it. But I wouldn’t mind her eating it here if I were away. ---
**Author:** ![moonstarssun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b9bd4f/32.png) [@moonstarssun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moonstarssun)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/50 "2009-08-23T02:55:45Z")
For us, it’s not forbidden food so much as the proportions. The huz likes lots and lots and lots of onions, and I like none to just a few. He could eat Chinese food for three meals a day, and me not so much. And so on. We share the cooking duties, so I haven’t worried about leaving any prepared meals behind for him when I’ve been out of town. Unless there’s a food I fix especially well that he wants to have while I’m gone–then I’d be happy to do it. But he’s a good cook, and would do just fine on his own, gleefully putting onions by the cup into every dish he makes. Yuck. ---
**Author:** ![Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/278dde/32.png) [@Runs\_With\_Scissors](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Runs_With_Scissors)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/51 "2009-08-23T03:58:30Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > If you don’t eat any of the ‘wife’ food, be prepared to say > _“But I saved that to eat with you!”_ With the right tone of voice, that should get you lots of points. Add that the thought of eating the food without her made you homesick. ---
**Author:** ![KennerTheGreat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/a8b319/32.png) [@KennerTheGreat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KennerTheGreat)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/52 "2009-08-23T15:05:46Z")
> [@Caffeine.addict](#): > > I’m not silenus, but when in a relationship and living with someone, you may not eat certain things because they **make you flatulent** and you don’t want to torture your spouse. I would only eat most of those items if I wasn’t going to be around my wife and son. Bolding mine. My Cola Roast (roast beef with a can of cola in the gravy mix), tasty as can be, is _verboten_ in my house for just this reason ETA: well, not “my” roast; I didn’t come up with the recipe (I found it on a website) ---
**Author:** ![ministryman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f6c823/32.png) [@ministryman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ministryman)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2009, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/53 "2009-08-24T16:29:36Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > Here’s the dilemma: The wife is gone until Monday. The fridge and freezer are full of food she prepared for me, including a wonderful beef stew. It would be a shame not to indulge in this largess. She’s a very good cook. Very good. But part of me wants to indulge in the food I don’t get to eat anymore. You know, things like BBQ meatballs and Tater-Tots, washed down with canned beer. Onion rings. DefCon 7 chili, with onions and more onions. That kind of stuff. > > I’m hungry, and I haven’t decided on dinner yet. > HEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLPPPPPPPP!!! If you have to ask us, you’re already going down in flames…😃 Seriously, take the food to work. If your cowrokers are like mine, it will be gone, with no questions asked. I would, however, take a bite of each thing so you could honestly said you ate it. Man Law? Man Law! ---
**Author:** ![ministryman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f6c823/32.png) [@ministryman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ministryman)\ **Post date:** [August 24, 2009, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/54 "2009-08-24T16:35:11Z")
> [@capybara](#): > > I’m in temporary bachelorette mode, which means eating things that Mr Capy won’t generally touch (mostly southern style stuff-- grits et al-- and Hawaiian comfort food (loco moco, spam musubi, etc). What planet is he from? Thinly sliced Spam on a cast iron skillet…sizzle…sizzle…with some soft scrambled eggs…droooool…excuse me, I have to put 4 cans on my shopping list… Tell Mr Capy that I personally question any man that won’t eat Spam. Really. I take it he doesn’t eat lomi lomi or ahi poke either, huh? ---
**Author:** ![ajdebosco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecd19e/32.png) [@ajdebosco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ajdebosco)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2009, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/55 "2009-08-27T20:21:51Z")
> [@Irishman](#): > > **statsman1982** said: > > Because people who live together often make meals that they share. So both party’s food interests must be appeased. Then there are the side effects of eating certain foods, such as killer heartburn (causing 2nd party suffering to the one who has to listen to the moaning and bitching), gas, horrible breath … Well said; I sacrifice some of my favorites to accomodate my roomie, and she does the same. When I’m working until the wee hours, she indulges in her sardines, spam, beans& cornbread, etc. When she’s away at dinner time, I smash some pepperoni piizza, grilled trout with the head still on, and other stuff she can’t have near her. We both are better than average cooks, but she specializes in everything fried, while my baking skills are well beyond hers. Neither of us cook for the other when we’re going away for a few days, but we have a good supply of frozen entrees, usually lots of fresh leftovers, and don’t eat super healthy regardless. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/56 "2009-08-28T00:09:03Z")
mmmm, bachelor food. I must confess I look forward to the rare weekends my husband is out of town. Chili with tatertots, asparagus, onion rings, fried garlic chips, egg salad…it’s an orgy of foods that make me fart. I’m glad to hear the OP ate the stew. I know it’s unreasonable, but if I were his wife I’d feel rejected if he didn’t eat some of the food I left for him. ---
**Author:** ![troub](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troub/32/14802_2.png) [@troub](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/troub)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/57 "2009-08-28T02:01:58Z")
My wife’s out of town this week too (what, is there a “wife conference” somewhere?). I’m all set with the White Castle and the bar food for the week, but I’m pissed that Netflix switched all my cannibal holocaust movies to “Short Wait” at the last minute and shipped me her crap instead (“How I Met Your Mother”). One of you guys got those movies this week, I’m sure. Bastards. ---
**Author:** ![Easy\_Easter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8c91f0/32.png) [@Easy\_Easter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Easy_Easter)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/58 "2009-08-28T20:07:25Z")
My husband is a great cook, but I also like Chinese take-out, pizza, etc. Because much of my husband’s self-esteem is tied to preparing meals for me (taking care of me by feediing me), he would feel bad if I didn’t eat it. So, for your wife’s sake, please eat some of her prepared meals. It will make her feel good. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/59 "2009-08-28T20:12:03Z")
The wife is still away (the wife conference got extended a couple of days. I think they’ve started to bring in male strippers), so I’ve run through all of the stuff she left. Now I won’t feel guilty about hitting the Chinese buffet instead of dining on her labors. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2009, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139/60 "2009-08-28T20:28:17Z")
Sounds like you got the best of both worlds then. 🙂 If your wife is a poster here, you might ask for this thread to be locked before she gets home and hope it falls off the first page. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guy-food-or-wife-food/507139.md?page=4)