# Guys and their (lack of) "communication" **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 20, 2003, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-and-their-lack-of-communication/183177 "2003-06-20T15:11:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Dumbguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2bfe46/32.png) [@Dumbguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dumbguy)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2003, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-and-their-lack-of-communication/183177/41 "2003-06-23T22:45:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by matt\_mcl \* > \*\*Listen, people, if this made any sense at all, gay people would never have any communication issues. \*\* I thought they didn’t. That’s what is says in the brochures they keep sending me. ---
**Author:** ![furr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7ab992/32.png) [@furr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/furr)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2003, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-and-their-lack-of-communication/183177/42 "2003-06-23T23:18:45Z")
after reading all these posts ive come to the concussion my boyfriend must secretly be a woman. his fav thing is a 9 plus hour road trip where we spend 98% of it talking about the future the past and ‘us’. ---
**Author:** ![Fuji\_Kitakyusho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f0a364/32.png) [@Fuji\_Kitakyusho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuji_Kitakyusho)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2003, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-and-their-lack-of-communication/183177/43 "2003-06-24T02:13:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by furr \* > \*\*after reading all these posts ive come to the concussion my boyfriend must secretly be a woman. his fav thing is a 9 plus hour road trip where we spend 98% of it talking about the future the past and ‘us’. \*\* There’s an easy way to tell for sure. If he stops for any reason whatsoever other than to refuel the vehicle (“rest” stops, pee breaks, etc.), he’s not a man. Even when you don’t actually have to be anywhere by a certain time, you just can’t stop when you’re making good time. -FK ---
**Author:** ![raisinbread](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8491ac/32.png) [@raisinbread](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raisinbread)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2003, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-and-their-lack-of-communication/183177/44 "2003-06-24T03:10:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by !ceQueen \* > \*\*1. **It takes two people to maintain a conversation**. Which means NO MONOSYLLABIC REPLIES! And don’t grunt. Put some effort into your answer. Shh, TV. > [@](#): > > **2. Listening does not mean just sitting there not talking. You actually have to _listen_. Again, so you could reply with anything other than "Grhm."** Listening is easier if people are talking rather than being talked at. Women tend to talk at people, like firing randomly into an empty, dark room in hopes of hitting something. > [@](#): > > **3. “Let’s talk.” does not actually mean that something is wrong. That’s what people do for fun. They gossip and discuss people, events and ideas. Have something to bring to the table.** I have serious issues with this attitude. It’s an established fact that whenever a woman artificially starts a conversation with “Let’s talk” it means serious bullshit that no one wants to hear or put up with that gets blown out of proportion. It’s also like saying let’s screw and immediately expecting the other person to become aroused in their own iniminicable way. Have something to bring to the table? You, I use the royal you, are the one who wants to start a conversation. Men are not here for your entertainment nor to fill the empty hours between sleep and work. The best way I can describe the ability for men to be uncommunicative in the eyes of women is with the theme song from Mister Ed. _People yakkity yak a streak and waste your time of day But Mister Ed will never speak unless he has something to say._ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-and-their-lack-of-communication/183177.md?page=2)