# Guys: Could you forgive a woman for this? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 26, 2008, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807 "2008-07-26T01:32:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2008, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/61 "2008-07-28T20:23:15Z")
Sure, I could forgive and forget…_her_. ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2008, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/62 "2008-07-29T02:52:04Z")
I’m a girl, though I have had a miscarriage at the age of 22. About 4 months after it happened, I over heard a co-worker say that she was going to do this to try to trick her boyfriend into staying. (We worked at the local grocery store and she was talking to her packer during a down time) I flipped out on her. To take something that I had just gone through and was emotionally dying inside over… to hear her use that as some excuse or ploy… I just about went unhinged. It isn’t just a physical thing. Mentally I was beating myself up over it every day. It was a child. A baby. My baby. Her boyfriend stocked the shelves at the same store and after my shift I went and told him was she was planning to do. I really didn’t care if I was butting in or not. He didn’t deserve that and it pissed me off that she was lying about something that I was still mourning over. He broke up with her the next week and she threaten to beat me up. _rolls eyes_ At that point I didn’t care what she did to me… So yeah… not a guy, but I am really sensitive about that. I would never trick or trap a guy. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Life goes on. ETA: Sorry about my ramble. ---
**Author:** ![burundi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ec8ea/32.png) [@burundi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burundi)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2008, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/63 "2008-07-29T18:35:22Z")
[QUOTE=BrknButterfly] I’m a girl, though I have had a miscarriage at the age of 22. … ETA: Sorry about my ramble. [/QUOTE] Oh, honey, I’m so sorry. You bring up another good point, too. Lying about a miscarriage isn’t just **wrong** in terms of hurting your lover, it’s like a slap in the face to mothers and fathers who have really gone through it. ---
**Author:** ![Stringer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Stringer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringer)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2008, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/64 "2008-07-29T18:41:37Z")
I doubt this situation would happen without all kinds of other red flags about her manipulative tendencies. But I would dump her immediately, only lunatics would pull something like that. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2008, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/65 "2008-07-29T18:42:12Z")
[QUOTE=Quartz] Could I forgive her? Absolutely. But any relationship would be over. [/QUOTE] Pretty much my answer. I don’t believe I could continue to date someone with a mentality that could conceive (sorry) of such a horrendous and manipulative lie as being OK. Maybe we could be friends, but that’s not someone I’d want to spend my life with. ---
**Author:** ![Superfreaknduper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6de8d8/32.png) [@Superfreaknduper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superfreaknduper)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2008, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/66 "2008-07-30T06:33:05Z")
This whole area of “subject matter” is a huge pet peeve (x100) of sorts of mine. I find it completely absurd that a female would/could use pregnancy as a means of roping a guy in. ITS HORRIBLE! I feel like our parenting skills as a species needs to be improved or something. . . As for getting myself stuck in these situations, I think about it as if the positions were flipped, If I (a male) could be on a pill…which I may be able to in the near future… and told a girl “Don’t worry we don’t need a condom, I’m on the pill” I don’t think a single female on the planet would trust me, or any other guy for that matter. Soooo, I don’t trust them… quite a ramble sorry. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![BrknButterfly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/439d5e/32.png) [@BrknButterfly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrknButterfly)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2008, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/67 "2008-07-30T17:40:55Z")
[QUOTE=burundi] Lying about a miscarriage isn’t just **wrong** in terms of hurting your lover, it’s like a slap in the face to mothers and fathers who have really gone through it. [/QUOTE] Exactly. I would never wish that upon anyone and using it as some excuse to try to get a guy to stay because she desires/loves/wants/needs him is completely inexcusable and unforgiveable. ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2008, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/68 "2008-07-30T18:25:19Z")
Hell, I’d have cut ties when she told me she was pregnant! ---
**Author:** ![Quercus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/7ab992/32.png) [@Quercus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quercus)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2008, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807/69 "2008-07-30T21:08:31Z")
[QUOTE=Bricker] I actually worked with someone about fifteen years ago that got pregnant while sleeping with a much older guy in the office (who was married, to add even more drama to the..eh… drama) […] his test came back as positive for fatherhood[…] Child support payments ensued. [/QUOTE] So did alimony payments also ensue? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-could-you-forgive-a-woman-for-this/457807.md?page=3)