# Guys: Do you have sex with your wife/S.O. when they're on their period? (Very TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 19, 2005, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754 "2005-11-19T02:03:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troy_mcclure_sf/32/4150_2.png) [@Troy\_McClure\_SF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troy_McClure_SF)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/21 "2005-11-19T06:01:42Z")
Well, my ex wasn’t much into it. IIRC, it wasn’t a discomfort thing, she was just grossed out by it. I, on the other hand, wouldn’t care at all. I dunno if I’d go down, but I’d probably give it a shot. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/22 "2005-11-19T06:19:15Z")
I’m female and it doesn’t bother me at all. Three exes didn’t care, one was an absolute no. Apparently, the one no had some issue with his ex (I guess she asked him to go down her and…well, uterus lining ensued). ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/23 "2005-11-19T06:25:21Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Can girls answer? > > I don’t like sex during my period. Yes, it is icky and gross. I can wait four days, and I’m fairly highly sexed. Not Anastaseon, but still. 😛 Well, Anastasaeon, here. 😉 There are some days suring my period I absolutely do not want it, no way, no how, get out of my face. Everything is tender and achey and I feel fat and yucky. However, it’s not always like this, and often during my period, my sex drive will go through the roof. But, I, too, think it is yucky and messy and blech, yuck yuck - but I found a way to bypass that. Before having sex, I use a fresh “Instead” cup - I use these instead of tampons a lot. I’ll take a quick shower, then find Mr. Stasaeon for a few romps in the hay. He can’t feel the cup, I can’t feel the cup, and there is zero mess. Well, I mean, zero \*bloody \* mess. ---
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/24 "2005-11-19T07:14:56Z")
My wife hasn’t requested it, and I haven’t volunteered. There are some experiences I am willing to bypass, and this is one of them. ---
**Author:** ![defence\_mechansim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8491ac/32.png) [@defence\_mechansim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/defence_mechansim)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/25 "2005-11-19T07:50:42Z")
i’m female and i don’t care! i’m a lesbian and when my girlfriend gets her period i’m not freaked out in the slightest but she is. she doesn’t want me anywhere near the area! but i’ve managed to convince her that i dont care and that its ok a few times hehe… but she won’t touch me till i’m totally finished. ---
**Author:** ![Hokkaido\_Brit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d26b3c/32.png) [@Hokkaido\_Brit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hokkaido_Brit)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/26 "2005-11-19T08:22:21Z")
Not at all - not the first few days as I’m in pain or doing a good impression of a chainsaw massacre, but when things are under control, then yes. In fact as one gets to a certain age, and things begin to dry up (yes it will happen to you too grrr) then any added bits of slippiness are always welcome! And DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME IF IT MATTERS TO YOU!!! THIS IS NOT RELIABLE BC!!! Because we practice natural B/C (it doesn’t particularly matter in our circumstances if another little one slips through the net) then the slightly smaller chance of pregnancy does wonders for my libido. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 8:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/27 "2005-11-19T08:52:21Z")
Vaginal intercourse? I wouldn’t want to even if he did (he doesn’t). Blood does not make a good lubricant. It’s too much lubricant for about 30 seconds and I can’t feel anything, and then it’s sticky and messy. Not gross, just not pleasent. Forgo sex though? Don’t be silly. There are a LOT of other ways to have sex 🙂 . ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 8:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/28 "2005-11-19T08:59:46Z")
> [@F. U. Shakespeare](#): > > I’ve had two girlfriends in my life who told me that their sex drives were highest at that time of the month. I never had a problem dealing with this, although I had no interest in oral sex under those conditions (which was fine with them). Without going into any revealing detail, the previous girlfriend seemed to be most aroused during her period, so…I never really had a problem with it, plus she often used [Instead](http://www.softcup.com/) uterine cups, which pretty much eliminated any blood and uterus lining debris. There was a slight different in taste during that part of the cycle, but I didn’t have “red wings” or any TMI stuff like that. She wasn’t (generally) a cramper, though, and when she was on the pill the period was pretty light (so I was told) but her sex drive definitely diminished. Not a big deal for me, though I was certain of the resident pathogen statis of the young lady in question. It’s not something I’d entertain on a more casual basis. Like that ever happens. :dubious: Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 9:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/29 "2005-11-19T09:23:34Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > I never really had a problem with it, plus she often used [Instead](http://www.softcup.com/) uterine cups, which pretty much eliminated any blood and uterus lining debris. _points to post 23 above_😉 Those things are _awesome_ for that time of the month. For those women who are squicked out by period-bloody-sex (like me), but find their sex drive very high at that time (like me), I swear by these things. No blood, no ickiness, it’s just like normal sex. Anal is another option. Not for everyone, of course. So is… I don’t know the proper terminology… titty-sex? Not all women enjoy that, but some of us do. ---
**Author:** ![Seven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Seven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seven)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/30 "2005-11-19T10:31:26Z")
I have no problem with it. I avoid going down on her during those few days. mostly because of the taste. Reminds me of a story with a past girlfriend. We stayed at a hotel one night and she was just entering a very heavy flow stage. We went at it all over the bed, in the shower, bathroom. Pretty much all night everywhere we could think of. The room looked like a crime scene the next morning. It was kind of funny. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/31 "2005-11-19T10:54:58Z")
> [@PinkShoes](#): > > Do you guys dare to go there? My S.O. won’t even touch me during my period. He thinks it’s gross and he will wait until it is way, way over to do the wild thing. DO you use towels to prevent bed stainage? Do you use a condom so you don’t get, um, blood inside you, and so it isn’t bloody on your penis? Do you ladies not like your men to have sex with you when you’re on your period? I’ve never had a problem with that. Yes, I used towels to protect the linen or whatever else was under us. And no, I didn’t wear condoms if I didn’t usually wear them. However, several men told me they wouldn’t, and at least one woman I can remember believed it was never done. Besides, I would note that many people are grossed out by blood, be it menstrual or not. ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 11:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/32 "2005-11-19T11:02:29Z")
> [@Seven](#): > > It was kind of funny. Probably not for the hotel staff. I hope you left a _big_ tip. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/33 "2005-11-19T11:47:10Z")
Not really into sex then, but you know, we’re newlyweds, so 5 days without anything is a no-way-no-how situation. TMI ALERT My clit works fine without any need to have penetration of any kind, so mess and ickyness need not be a part of it. We just do other things, and my husband seems more than happy, because he gets lots of attention. It’s sort of like being teenagers in the “everything but” stage. Again. ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/34 "2005-11-19T15:25:20Z")
Male, one partner. We’ve done it when we were both too horny to be satisfied with the alternatives (with condom on and extra lube and towel underneath). As seems to be the trend, she has more of a problem with menstrual fluid contact than I do. ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/35 "2005-11-19T15:53:33Z")
Female here. I wouldn’t have wanted to have sex for the first time with someone while on my period. With a long term partner, it doesn’t bother me if it doesn’t bother him. My first husband wouldn’t go there, neither would several of my boyfriends. My current husband (we’ve been married almost 20 years) doesn’t mind at all. He wants the lights off the first day or so, when my flow is heaviest – he doesn’t mind the blood, but hates the [TMI]chunks[/TMI]. We put a towel down and keep a wet cloth handy. He skips oral sex for the first couple of days, too. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/36 "2005-11-19T16:28:10Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Can girls answer? > > I don’t like sex during my period. Yes, it is icky and gross. I can wait four days, and I’m fairly highly sexed. Not Anastaseon, but still. > > Strangely enough, my SO has less problems with it than I do. Are you me? And is your SO mine? Because we are exactly like that. I’d rather wait until it’s over. It’s…icky. And stains the sheets or towels or whatevers. That being said, I will happily provide alternative activities if he’s really horny. It’s only fair! ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/37 "2005-11-19T16:51:22Z")
I don’t have a problem with it, and hubby doesn’t either. But now that I’m pregnant, it’s not even an issue! ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/38 "2005-11-19T16:56:27Z")
I have to ask, for the people who do it…like I said for me it’s so slippery I can’t feel anything. And then it’s so…tacky (I mean that in the original sense not as faux pas 😃 ). Doesn’t that bother you? ---
**Author:** ![jimpatro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b9e5f3/32.png) [@jimpatro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jimpatro)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/39 "2005-11-19T19:30:32Z")
**Seven** , are you me?! Mine was at the Beverly Hilton. Definitely left big tips for the cleaning crew. ---
**Author:** ![Giant\_Spongess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@Giant\_Spongess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giant_Spongess)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2005, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754/40 "2005-11-19T20:11:13Z")
I get horrific cramps so I rarely even get the desire for sex during my period, and even when I do it hurts too much. My SO says he doesn’t mind, but there’s no way he would get the chance (try though he might!). After the cramps have died down, though, and there’s only the slow trickle (prolonged by my birth control patch, argh), no hesitations. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-have-sex-with-your-wife-s-o-when-theyre-on-their-period-very-tmi/331754.md?page=3)