# Guys; do you talk to other guys about details of your sex life with particular women? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 8, 2005, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626 "2005-12-08T04:39:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2005, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/41 "2005-12-09T20:09:56Z")
I don’t mind discussing details in a general way. I’ll make damn sure that there is no way anyone could ever figure out who my partner was. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2005, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/42 "2005-12-09T20:30:53Z")
Another one for being horrified at the thought that all women talk about their sex lives - I’m somewhat vocal on the boards but I’m still fairly discreet. I’ll say “I like” but rarely will I say “We did”. And IRL, never-never-never. Some girls do, and I avoid them like the plague. As for my guy…? Well, I rather like **sniperfang** ’s rules. ---
**Author:** ![kidchameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@kidchameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidchameleon)\ **Post date:** [December 9, 2005, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/43 "2005-12-09T20:38:53Z")
Just amusing anecdotes that just happened to occur while sex was happening. Like when the dog goosed me with her cold nose while I was thrusting. That was a near-disaster! ---
**Author:** ![astorian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@astorian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astorian)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2005, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/44 "2005-12-10T06:39:03Z")
I know many women BELIEVE that men are like a bunch of stereotypical junior high school boys, and share every detail of every sexual encounter in graphic detail. In reality, most men don’t want to hear ANY of the details of other men’s sex lives. A guy who goes into such detail is likely to be told, “Dude, don’t go there.” WOMEN, on the other hand, can and do tell their friends EVERYTHING. NO detail, however gross or intimate, is off-limits. Trust me, if you get a bunch of Hispanic women together over a pitcher of margaritas, they will talk WAAAY dirtier than any group of men you’ve ever been around. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2005, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/45 "2005-12-10T07:43:20Z")
As a compare-and-contrast, I tell my gay friends and my fag hags everything. And vice versa. ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2005, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/46 "2005-12-10T09:02:59Z")
> [@astorian](#): > > Trust me, if you get a bunch of Hispanic women together over a pitcher of margaritas, they will talk WAAAY dirtier than any group of men you’ve ever been around. Australian women are the same. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2005, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/47 "2005-12-10T15:43:58Z")
The most detail I think I ever revealed was when someone years ago asked me if my Canadian girlfriend was French Canadian. “Occasionally”, was my reply. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2005, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/48 "2005-12-11T15:03:12Z")
> [@astorian](#): > > WOMEN, on the other hand, can and do tell their friends EVERYTHING. NO detail, however gross or intimate, is off-limits. No-they don’t, or haven’t you read the rest of the posts here? But thanks for the tip re avoiding Hispanic women with pitchers of Margaritas! ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2005, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/49 "2005-12-11T16:34:02Z")
> [@astorian](#): > > I know many women BELIEVE that men are like a bunch of stereotypical junior high school boys, and share every detail of every sexual encounter in graphic detail. In reality, most men don’t want to hear ANY of the details of other men’s sex lives. A guy who goes into such detail is likely to be told, “Dude, don’t go there.” > > WOMEN, on the other hand, can and do tell their friends EVERYTHING. NO detail, however gross or intimate, is off-limits. > > Trust me, if you get a bunch of Hispanic women together over a pitcher of margaritas, they will talk WAAAY dirtier than any group of men you’ve ever been around. Yeah, all women. No doubt. :rolleyes: I might talk a little to my best friend and to my sister, but not details. ---
**Author:** ![Flipshod](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/f19dbf/32.png) [@Flipshod](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flipshod)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2005, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/50 "2005-12-12T15:18:34Z")
> [@Khadaji](#): > > When I was a very young man it was not uncommon for me to share details. As I grew up I stopped that. Agree here. When you and your peer group are all inexperienced, there’s some information sharing that almost “needs” to go on to supplement knowledge. By late high school/early college it goes from being useful to being tacky–an indication that you might be stuck in the inexperienced stage. ---
**Author:** ![Tamryne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3e96dc/32.png) [@Tamryne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tamryne)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2005, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/51 "2005-12-12T18:56:10Z")
I’d have to agree with most of the posters here, alluding/talking about your sex life is okay, but I really dont go beyond the fact that yes, I have a sex life; no intimate details. Mostly I do this because I respect the person Im with right now, and I know he wouldn’t go tell his friends all about our sex life. Now, I have an ex that no one is going to see again, and so I told some intimate details about that to two of my best friends… but hes an ex we all mutually dislike now, so its all good in my book. ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2005, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/52 "2005-12-12T20:26:29Z")
I have three male friends who are just shy of explicit with me when talking to me about their sex lives. I’m like their own personal sex-advice columnist. Two of them are married and one has a quasi long-time girlfriend. It doesn’t bother me at all. ---
**Author:** ![jsc1953](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/5daacb/32.png) [@jsc1953](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jsc1953)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2005, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/53 "2005-12-12T23:35:34Z")
Dennis Miller had a great stand-up routine on this topic; he was of the opinion that women talk; men don’t. To paraphrase: > [@](#): > > Women tell each other _everything_. “Oh, Bill was so cute last night…he crawled around on the bedroom floor on his hands & knees with my vibrator stuck in his ass.” The next thing Bill knows, he’s getting off the elevator at work, and his buddies are waiting for him: “Hey, Bill…_bzzzzzzttt_” ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2005, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626/54 "2005-12-13T01:12:53Z")
On one occasion back in the mid-70’s, a fellow I knew (and didn’t really like), was expounding on his prowess and sexual escapades now that he was married. I wasn’t contributing anything to the conversation. The other guys in the room were just waiting him out, I guess, hoping that he would get over himself pretty soon. He then started on a different tack and stated that having sex while under the effects of a certain substance was the best possible experience. At that point, he asked, condescendingly, “Rysdad, have you ever had sex while doing (that substance)?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Oh, yeah? With who?” I answered, “Your wife.” Y’see, I had gone out with his wife several years before he began dating her… And, yes, hilarity ensued. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-do-you-talk-to-other-guys-about-details-of-your-sex-life-with-particular-women/334626.md?page=2)