# Guys: how old a woman is too old ? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 11, 2011, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385 "2011-08-11T22:31:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/121 "2014-02-25T00:53:55Z")
[Anne Bancroft, in her twenties](http://fineartamerica.com/featured/nightfall-anne-bancroft-1957-everett.html) [Anne Bancroft approaching 40](http://www.historyorb.com/people/anne-bancroft). Do you really fucking care that the woman in the first photo has more eggs? ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/122 "2014-02-25T01:24:48Z")
> [@Slithy\_Tove](#): > > [Anne Bancroft, in her twenties](http://fineartamerica.com/featured/nightfall-anne-bancroft-1957-everett.html) > > [Anne Bancroft approaching 40](http://www.historyorb.com/people/anne-bancroft). > > Do you really fucking care that the woman in the first photo has more eggs? “Approaching 40” is still relatively young. I challenge you to bang [Crypt Keeper Anne Bancroft](http://images.tvrage.com/people/10/28168.jpg)shortly before her death. I’m not sure what the question is here. If you’re asking if it’s possible to find love at any age, the answer is yes. If you are asking if people tend to get more attractive in their 50s and 60s, the answer is no. 60 year old Christie Brinkley is surprisingly attractive. But certainly not as attractive as 26 year old Christie Brinkley. ---
**Author:** ![Melchior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Melchior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melchior)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/123 "2014-02-25T02:12:40Z")
> [@Slithy\_Tove](#): > > [Anne Bancroft, in her twenties](http://fineartamerica.com/featured/nightfall-anne-bancroft-1957-everett.html) > > [Anne Bancroft approaching 40](http://www.historyorb.com/people/anne-bancroft). > > Do you really fucking care that the woman in the first photo has more eggs? Yep! ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/124 "2014-02-25T04:53:35Z")
Any woman who Tina Fey has stopped trying to shame George Clooney into dating at an awards show? Too old. ---
**Author:** ![Martini\_Enfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/martini_enfield/32/11123_2.png) [@Martini\_Enfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martini_Enfield)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/125 "2014-02-25T10:02:48Z")
I know this thread is a couple of years old and has a lot of stuff from “one-off” posters, but in the interests of trying to salvage something from its latest resurrection I’ll add my two cents - namely, one thing I would suggest is that mature women looking for companionship from a substantially younger guy ensure he’s not just looking to fufil a MILF or Cougar fantasy (unless she’s OK with it). ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/126 "2014-02-25T10:59:29Z")
> [@Martini\_Enfield](#): > > I know this thread is a couple of years old and has a lot of stuff from “one-off” posters, but in the interests of trying to salvage something from its latest resurrection I’ll add my two cents - namely, one thing I would suggest is that mature women looking for companionship from a substantially younger guy ensure he’s not just looking to fufil a MILF or Cougar fantasy (unless she’s OK with it). Why else would a guy be into dating a substantially older woman? ---
**Author:** ![nevadaexile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb8c5e/32.png) [@nevadaexile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nevadaexile)\ **Post date:** [February 25, 2014, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/127 "2014-02-25T11:55:39Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Why else would a guy be into dating a substantially older woman? Let’s see [ol] [li]She’s attractive[/li][li]She’s fun to be with.[/li][li]She’s not broke (a serious deal breaker when dealing with younger women)[/li][li]The sex is usually pretty good.[/li][/ol] Those are good enough reasons for most people. ---
**Author:** ![Cachick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e480ec/32.png) [@Cachick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cachick)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/128 "2014-09-27T02:55:39Z")
I hope by now you have found someone but I came across this thread and had too say something. I’m 53 (but never tell my age) and have young men asking me out all the time! The youngest has been 22. So I don’t think age is a big deal it’s how you perceive age. I do have a bit of a hang up when I go out with young guys and someone asks if they are my boyfriend or son…I’m sure this never happens to men and it’s always men that ask…so there you are with the double standard. BTW you need to move. I live in So. California and I think things a more open here. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/129 "2014-09-27T03:42:31Z")
OK Cupid studied this and found that women are most attractive about 20-21 (no matter where the man ranges in age from 20 to 50 years old): > **[Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me A Spreadsheet](https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/christian-rudder-dataclysm-okcupid/)** > > In mid-August, couples and lonely hearts packed a Brooklyn basement to hear scientists make sense of something the crowd could not: love. It was the 11th meetin… Women are different: For a 20 year old woman a man is most attractive at about 23, while for a 50 year old woman a man is most attractive at about 46. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/130 "2014-09-27T03:59:27Z")
If you stay in decent shape your age will never take you out of the dating market. There will always be plenty of men around both younger and older who appreciate and are attracted to women your age. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/131 "2014-09-27T05:09:34Z")
1. 100 is too old. ---
**Author:** ![Cachick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e480ec/32.png) [@Cachick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cachick)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/132 "2014-09-27T05:14:15Z")
> [@PastTense](#): > > OK Cupid studied this and found that women are most attractive about 20-21 (no matter where the man ranges in age from 20 to 50 years old): > [Matchmaker, Matchmaker, Make Me A Spreadsheet | FiveThirtyEight](http://fivethirtyeight.com/features/christian-rudder-dataclysm-okcupid/) > > Women are different: For a 20 year old woman a man is most attractive at about 23, while for a 50 year old woman a man is most attractive at about 46. I have to strongly disagree with this study! ---
**Author:** ![Cachick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e480ec/32.png) [@Cachick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cachick)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/133 "2014-09-27T05:18:56Z")
Agreed 100 would be too old! ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/134 "2014-09-27T12:44:39Z")
> [@Cachick](#): > > Agreed 100 would be too old! Disagree. It’s highly context-dependent, and for me, while I admit that right now 100 is far too old, I expect that if I live to 106, then 100 will seem perfect. Mrs. Bricker is six years younger than I am. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/135 "2014-09-27T14:00:45Z")
41, male. Add me to the chorus here stating that general fitness and taking care of one’s skin are more important than strict numerical age. While it’s probably more so for women, who are more often judged for appearance in general and youthful appearance in particular, it’s true for men as well. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/136 "2014-09-27T16:03:41Z")
Ok, its a zombie thread, but its almost Halloween so here goes: FIRST: Sorry about my Snarky Tina Fey post. (Every guy she was thinking of is wearing a ballcap and sunglasses and [hanging out in Italy](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Le-X36HfBGI) this weekend anyway). Second, re; the OP; why don’t you Just Ask him? If it clicks between two people… Who Cares? I don’t know if Happily Every After is a real destination, but have you even checked with your travel agent? …or were you looking for a million emails from across the globe that you can spend your days deleting “He loves me; He loves me not” style? :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2014, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/137 "2014-09-27T16:26:41Z")
> [@Romeo\_and\_Whatsherface](#): > > I signed up for ballroom dancing classes last year. The class was canceled, as there weren’t enough students to make it worth the instructor’s time to drive in from 100 miles away. (I live in a very remote town.) At the introductory, won’t-you-sign-up class, every single male who attended was with his wife/girlfriend, and there were several of us unattached women. A friend in MA says women outnumber men at her ballroom dance class, too. > > I don’t know where men my age are…probably home window shopping on OLD. 🙂 > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > You’re right about the ballroom dancing classes - always overloaded with women, never enough guys. It pisses me off to no end when I sign up with my husband, then I spend half of every class standing and watching because of the partner-switching. I’m in Massachusetts. Took a ballroom dancing class over the summer and it was just about 50-50. In fact, we had a couple women who didn’t show up for the last two classes, so there was a surplus of guys. The advanced class starts tomorrow. I’m in. However, rarely for me, I am not looking to meet anyone at the moment. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2014, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/138 "2014-09-28T22:00:07Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > The advanced class starts tomorrow. I’m in. Three men, three women. ---
**Author:** ![old52](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/dec6dc/32.png) [@old52](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/old52)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2015, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/139 "2015-07-08T06:07:03Z")
I noticed I started finding older women attractive. A friend of about the same age also noticed the same in himself. It went so far that I started having an affair with someone about 10 years older. I almost left my wife of many years (also a little older than me) but in the end I did not have the heart to go through with it. So I had to end the affair. I learned that kindness and duty at my age is more important than my own happiness. Either that or I am just a wimp. I miss my older friend intensely. I continue to find those older women in ballroom class very attractive. ---
**Author:** ![racepug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f1d935/32.png) [@racepug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racepug)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2015, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385/140 "2015-07-08T23:29:52Z")
I can’t speak for everyone but I have a pretty wide age range for that sort of thing. To wit: 17 years ago I rented a room from a woman who, literally, was old enough to be my mother (I was in my early 30s at the time). Let’s just say that I ended up giving her more than just my rent check. Is there a limit? Yeah, probably. Not sure what that is for me but I’m thinking probably late 60s. I’ve seen some women in their 50s and early 60s that still did something for me looks-wise. Beyond that I think it’s probably asking quite a bit for most women to seem physically attractive to most men. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-how-old-a-woman-is-too-old/592385.md?page=8)