# Guys this is how you ask for a another guy's phone number 2 be friends. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 8, 2004, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357 "2004-06-08T23:14:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2004, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/1 "2004-06-08T23:14:04Z")
If you want to make a new friend that is a dude and you ask for his phone number but do not want to come off gay…I have found that saying this works: “Ay can I get your number, maybe we could hang out sometime…ya know look for some girls or something” Always good to add the part about girls then you will not be perceived as gay, not that I have anything bad against gay people. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2004, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/2 "2004-06-08T23:15:55Z")
> [@START](#): > > If you want to make a new friend that is a dude and you ask for his phone number but do not want to come off gay…I have found that saying this works: > “Ay can I get your number, maybe we could hang out sometime…ya know look for some girls or something” > > Always good to add the part about girls then you will not be perceived as gay, not that I have anything bad against gay people. > **[Making friends can be hard!](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=260321)** > > I know some people who are social butterflies- they can make friends effortlessly and have a huge pool of people they can access to share some leisure activity with, or for moral support. I’m the total opposite. It used to be because I was shy, but... Inspired by that thread^ ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2004, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/3 "2004-06-08T23:22:26Z")
I just pull out my phone and say, “What’s your number?” and type it in as they say it. Gay or not gay, asking either male or female for a phone number isn’t always hoping for sex. Sometimes a phone number is just a phone number. ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/4 "2004-06-09T00:05:45Z")
> [@START](#): > > If you want to make a new friend that is a dude and you ask for his phone number but do not want to come off gay…I have found that saying this works: > “Ay can I get your number, maybe we could hang out sometime…ya know look for some girls or something” > > Always good to add the part about girls then you will not be perceived as gay, not that I have anything bad against gay people. I dunno, that’s still kind of vague. Best to remove all doubt from the get-go. Say, “Hey, man, can I get your phone number so that we can go out somewhere and not have any physical contact whatsoever but instead look for some heterosexual sex, which I enjoy a great deal because I am _in no way_ a gay man. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.” I’m just giving you a hard time, but seriously, I don’t think it’s necessary. For what it’s worth, I’ve _never_ inferred that a guy was interested me or was gay just from his asking for my phone number – not back when I thought I was straight, not when I was in the closet, and not now. In fact, if he’d mentioned looking for girls or something, I would’ve wondered why he’d felt the need to bring it up, whether he was over-compensating or something. Not overly, but it would’ve put the idea in my head. In my experience, people are just looking to be friends unless you explicitly mention the word “date.” ---
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/5 "2004-06-09T00:16:43Z")
Hey **Start**. Please type out every single word in your posts. Please? Especially in the titles. Okay? ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/6 "2004-06-09T00:22:03Z")
Yes, but how long do you wait before phoning him? You don’t want to seem too desperate or give the wrong impression 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/7 "2004-06-09T00:46:14Z")
> [@FilmGeek](#): > > Hey **Start**. > > Please type out every single word in your posts. Please? Especially in the titles. Okay? Or just don’t bother at all. ---
**Author:** ![wolfstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/d6d6ee/32.png) [@wolfstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfstu)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/8 "2004-06-09T02:00:11Z")
> [@START](#): > > If you want to make a new friend that is a dude and you ask for his phone number but do not want to come off gay…I have found that saying this works: > “Ay can I get your number, maybe we could hang out sometime…ya know look for some girls or something” > > Always good to add the part about girls then you will not be perceived as gay, not that I have anything bad against gay people. Flaw: What if he’s gay? A gay guy and a straight guy can be friends, after all. But in this case, if you know he’s gay, you can’t use this method. And if he’s gay, but you don’t know it, you may make him uncomfortable and not want to hang out with you, if this statement gives the impression you only want to talk about girls. (Either because he’s not interested in girls and so doesn’t want to look for them, or because he’s closeted and doesn’t want to have to pretend like he’s finding the girls attractive.) **wolfstu** ’s proposed replacement query: “Hey, if you want to hang out some time, you can give me a call…” A positive response would be: “that miught be fun… what’s your number?” Easy, and you don’t have to placate your sexual insecurity, or risk leading some guy on. And remember, just because you ask a gay guy to hang out, doesn’t mean you want to kiss him. Chances are, the gay guy knows this too… he’s used to most guys not finding him attractive. ---
**Author:** ![Hal\_Briston](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a9a28c/32.png) [@Hal\_Briston](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hal_Briston)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/9 "2004-06-09T02:04:00Z")
> [@FilmGeek](#): > > Please type out every single word in your posts. Please? Especially in the titles. Okay? Y? This is the way 2B kewl! L8R! LOLOL!! :: cue 16-ton weight :: ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/10 "2004-06-09T02:10:18Z")
Things I’m very happy I don’t have to deal with because I’m queer, number 647. ---
**Author:** ![Uvula\_Donor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e19adc/32.png) [@Uvula\_Donor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uvula_Donor)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/11 "2004-06-09T03:48:23Z")
> [@START](#): > > If you want to make a new friend that is a dude and you ask for his phone number but do not want to come off gay… Seriously, **START** , you don’t have to worry about your intentions being misunderstood if you’re just getting someone’s phone number. Unless, of course, you use the _secret queer passwords_. Then you’re in trouble, lemme tell ya. Hoo boy. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jimmy\_Chitwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jimmy_Chitwood)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/12 "2004-06-09T04:11:00Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > Things I’m very happy I don’t have to deal with because I’m queer, number 647. Or, things _I’m_ very happy I don’t have to deal with, because although I’m straight, I’m older than fifteen, number 2109. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/13 "2004-06-09T04:18:08Z")
5814 Secret gay passwords? I KNEW IT! I’m using them right now, aren’t I? Damn. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/14 "2004-06-09T04:34:54Z")
> [@NoClueBoy](#): > > 5814 > > Secret gay passwords? I KNEW IT! > > I’m using them right now, aren’t I? Damn. _is irresistibly attracted_ Hel-_lo, big_ boy! ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/15 "2004-06-09T05:00:00Z")
So something like " Hey man, let me get your number, maybe I’ll give you a call and we could go for a long walk on a sunset beach holding hands." You’re saying something like that might come off as a little gay? [waves hand with limp wrist] Nah, get-outta-here… ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/16 "2004-06-09T05:28:10Z")
> [@NoClueBoy](#): > > 5814 :eek: I can’t believe you just said that! Well, okay, I guess if you really want to. But where are we going to get the goat? ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/17 "2004-06-09T05:30:18Z")
> [@SolGrundy](#): > > Well, okay, I guess if you really want to. But where are we going to get the goat? Relax, darling, this is the most beautiful and natural thing in the world. Now where did I put the lube and vegetables? ---
**Author:** ![Already\_in\_Use](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@Already\_in\_Use](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Already_in_Use)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/18 "2004-06-09T06:44:52Z")
> [@SHAKES](#): > > So something like " Hey man, let me get your number, maybe I’ll give you a call and we could go for a long walk on a sunset beach holding hands." What I want to know is, why do all these homosexuals keep sucking my cock? ---
**Author:** ![Electronic\_Chaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Electronic\_Chaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electronic_Chaos)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/19 "2004-06-09T06:56:15Z")
> [@SolGrundy](#): > > :eek: > I can’t believe you just said that! > > Well, okay, I guess if you really want to. But where are we going to get the goat? It’s not the goat that I’d be worried about. Dynamite’s been pretty hard to come by lately. ---
**Author:** ![Coin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@Coin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coin)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2004, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357/20 "2004-06-09T07:25:49Z")
_stifles chuckles_ Can I get your phone number, bro? Mmm-hmm…pardon me while I write that ON MY PENIS… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-this-is-how-you-ask-for-a-another-guys-phone-number-2-be-friends/249357.md?page=2)