# Guys – Want to Know What \*Really\* Turns Women On? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 13, 2005, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683 "2005-05-13T14:59:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![CandidGamera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/candidgamera/32/2878_2.png) [@CandidGamera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CandidGamera)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/21 "2005-05-13T16:05:29Z")
> [@UrbanChic](#): > > I don’t know what turns other women on as most of the things in the OP’s list do little for me (shopping with mom?), but I can tell you the one thing that takes you from being meh to starring in some rather naughty dreams of mine: a wicked, twisted, somewhat sarcastic, just-this-side-of-naughty, sharp sense of humor. Aw, man. And my sense of humor is just-THAT-side-of-naughty. So close… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/22 "2005-05-13T16:08:51Z")
> [@sunfish](#): > > I like arms. Not too muscle-y, just enough definition to convey a sense of strength, even when he’s not doing anything that really requires it. I feel exactly the same way about shoulders. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/23 "2005-05-13T16:18:20Z")
A good sense of style. A gentleman who wouldn’t be caught dead in a camp shirt, a short-sleaved shirt with a tie or a pair of Dockers, but still wears sneaker, jeans (no pleats!) and t-shirts on the weekend. You wouldn’t believe how hard that is to find. Luckily I found and married one! I love a man in a good-looking pair of updated glasses. In general, I like a man who takes pride in his appearance, but makes it look effortless. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/24 "2005-05-13T16:18:31Z")
The “shopping with Mom” thing tells me that this guy is confident enough in himself to not care that shopping with Mom isn’t the coolest thing in the world. It also says that he is somewhat mature - from what I’ve heard, teenage boys would rather die than be seen with their moms. ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/25 "2005-05-13T16:19:58Z")
> [@CalMeacham](#): > > I find that you can’t go wrong if you rub their feet. Back rubs are good, too, but rubbing women’s feet seems to be the Great Overlooked Key to making them feel good. Don’t be tellin’ me about foot massages – I’m the f&ckin’ foot master. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/26 "2005-05-13T16:20:51Z")
[Photos of me with a baby on this page](http://pw1.netcom.com/~heliboy/album.html). 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/27 "2005-05-13T16:21:58Z")
Dudes, before you go making a list of this stuff posted here remember that every girl has her different turn-ons and rarely are they the same. Some girls like to be kissed on the neck or have their feet massaged. Some are totally turned off by this or even grossed out by it. Some girls like bad boys, some like smart guys. Some like bald men, some like long hair. Some are impressed by a guys possesions, some like guys that live simple. You can stop making lists of turn-offs/turn-ons for women in general cause it simply won’t work. I made the mistake early on thinking “if it worked on girl X, then it should work on girl Y”. Rarely is that the case. The fun part is dating different girls and discovering their individual turn-ons. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/28 "2005-05-13T16:25:39Z")
> [@Hampshire](#): > > Dudes, before you go making a list of this stuff posted here remember that every girl has her different turn-ons and rarely are they the same. That’s very true. However, there’s also a guy or two reading this thread saying “There are women out there who like glasses? I didn’t know _any_ women liked that!” Knowledge is never bad. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/29 "2005-05-13T16:39:01Z")
\*A guy who can build something, be it a bird house or a human house. There’s something inherently masculine about hammering a nail in straight. \*Worn jeans that hang just slightly lower than the natural waist. They can have a little bit of dirt or grease on them. Along with a t-shirt, it’s also a turn-on if they have: \*Work boots - ::Swoon:: \*Physical Coordination. Stereotype, yes, but I like a man who can spiral a football and spike a ball. And drive a boat. You must be able to drive a boat. \*Six pack abs - yeowsa. \*A sense of humor - there’s nothing more appealing than a man who is smart AND has a sense of humor. \*Conjugation - You don’t have to know how to spell perfectly, but by God, you should be able to speak without sounding like a incompetent fool. Conjugate those verbs! \*Humility - I love a good physique as much as the next girl, but I hate men who wear muscle shirts. There’s an Australian carpenter on one of those fix-up shows (the homeowner wears a t-shirt that reads: “It’s all My Fault”) who constantly wears sleeveless shirts to show off his muscles. Then there’s Andrew on Trading Spaces who has an incredible physique but always wears t-shirts. I’ll take Andrew any day. Keep that in mind, boys. \*Musical ability - I’m not talking karoaking. I’m talking the ability to sing on key or the ability to play a tune on an instrument. There’s something very sexy about a guy who’s in touch with his left brain. \*Generosity - Be generous with your time, your talents and your money. Be the kind of guy who lends his truck, and tools, to the neighbors. ---
**Author:** ![Draelin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ce73a5/32.png) [@Draelin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Draelin)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/30 "2005-05-13T16:45:09Z")
> [@PunditLisa](#): > > There’s something inherently masculine about hammering a nail in straight. And if _that’s_ not a double entendre, I don’t know what is. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hey_It_s_That_Guy)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/31 "2005-05-13T17:33:43Z")
This thread is just depressing me even more. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/32 "2005-05-13T17:43:15Z")
Oh, no, it’s not intended to depress any guys - it was intended to let all y’all know that women like all kinds of guys, and all kinds of things about guys, not just what the stereotypes would have you believe. ---
**Author:** ![Darwins\_Finch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darwins_finch/32/20304_2.png) [@Darwins\_Finch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darwins_Finch)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/33 "2005-05-13T17:47:43Z")
> [@CandidGamera](#): > > Everytime there’s a thread like this, I get convinced that I should be more socially successful than I am. I submit, then, that the sample here is non-representative of the real world! It has been my experience that looks, above all else, are what determines “sexiness”. All that crap about foot rubs and being nice with children and so on doesn’t matter if you don’t pass the “looks” test - you’ll never get near her feet, or any other part, in fact, without them. I’ve got all the “glasses, reading, plays with kittens, decent enough body & clothes, enthusiasm, confidence, competence, etc.” stuff going for me. But with facial scars such as I have, that’s all people notice, and none of the other stuff matters. And the “thpeech impediment” (actually, it’s not a lisp, but a difficulty with pronouncing "r"s) probably doesn’t help any, either. So, yeah, what women _say_ they think is sexy is all fine and well - but what they seem to really mean is all that PLUS good looks. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Hook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ccd318/32.png) [@The\_Hook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Hook)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/34 "2005-05-13T18:06:58Z")
I have a funny feeling these are turn-ons for women who are already attracted to a guy. For example: > [@CalMeacham](#): > > I find that you can’t go wrong if you rub their feet. Back rubs are good, too, but rubbing women’s feet seems to be the Great Overlooked Key to making them feel good. I don’t think I’d fare well doing that to complete strangers. ---
**Author:** ![js\_africanus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/87869e/32.png) [@js\_africanus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/js_africanus)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/35 "2005-05-13T18:07:33Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > Yes, it’s true – women are turned on by guy’s hands. I love women’s hands. ---
**Author:** ![Aangelica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b2d939/32.png) [@Aangelica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aangelica)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/36 "2005-05-13T18:17:57Z")
I must respectfully disagree with you Darwin’s Finch. A flawless physique and supermodel looks are all well and good to look at or gossip about with your girlfriends, but I don’t love my guy for his looks. I love my guy for his sense of humor and the fact that even though he hogs the covers and has an unfortunate tendancy towards flatulence, he’s generous, kind, caring, fun, and GOOD TO ME. The fact that he’s tall and dark-haired is just a bonus 😃 Everyone has some visual things that just float their boat. I’m a sucker for the tall, dark-haired geek thing myself. I likes me some geek. Glasses, touseled hair, untucked shirt, bare feet, just a little scruffy around the edges. Doesn’t mean that’s the limit of what I’ll find attractive, just that there’s something about it that speaks to me (Granted, sometimes what it says is “oh baby - you’re cute but you’d be a mistake” ). ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/37 "2005-05-13T18:19:55Z")
For me, a turn-on… is intelligence. Really, I’m not kidding. I’d take a nerdy, geeky guy with brains than a dumb-but-gorgeous model any day. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/38 "2005-05-13T18:21:19Z")
> [@CandidGamera](#): > > Aw, man. And my sense of humor is just-THAT-side-of-naughty. So close… > > 😉 Out of respect for my fellow females I must point out that \*\*Gamera’s \*\* biggest flaw is his tendency to pun. A lot. He’d be punning at swordpoint, and get us all killed. As for my obscure turn-on? It’s not obscure, but a lot of guys seem to have trouble doing this: genuine, real smiles, from the heart. ---
**Author:** ![Campion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@Campion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Campion)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/39 "2005-05-13T18:23:36Z")
> [@Kythereia](#): > > For me, a turn-on… is intelligence. Really, I’m not kidding. I’d take a nerdy, geeky guy with brains than a dumb-but-gorgeous model any day. True. And guys that aren’t attractive when you meet them can become attractive when you get to know them. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2005, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683/40 "2005-05-13T18:24:11Z")
I also respectfully disagree, **Darwin**. In my opinion, looks are important only so much as the two people involved are on the same level of attractiveness, and I think if you look around you’ll find this true. My husband and I are both not ugly, but we’re not gorgeous, either - we are very much on the same level of attractiveness. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-want-to-know-what-really-turns-women-on/303683.md?page=3)