# Guys, Would You Let Your GF Wear A Thong? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 3, 2003, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-let-your-gf-wear-a-thong/205320 "2003-10-03T13:01:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2003, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-let-your-gf-wear-a-thong/205320/61 "2003-10-05T02:19:40Z")
Maybe the “let” thing is fair… my last girlfriend would have kicked my ass for wearing a thong in public, not that I ever would… …and while I quite enjoy having other guys stare at my girl, I think I have the right to say “You can’t wear THAT!” because I’d allow her the same courtesy. ---
**Author:** ![GregE625](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b77776/32.png) [@GregE625](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GregE625)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2003, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-let-your-gf-wear-a-thong/205320/62 "2003-10-05T02:27:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zoe \* > \*\*Actually, the gender is irrelevant. The concept of allowing or not allowing your partner to do something is stupid no matter which sex it is. I don’t mind my mate letting me know what his tastes are or if an outfit doesn’t look right on me. But neither of us would dream of putting ourselves in charge of the other’s wardrobe. The value of independence is more important to us than any clothes could be. > > BTW, you chose a phrase (_controlling asshole_), put quotation marks around it as if someone had actually used it, and then defended yourself against being called such. What gives? > > I agree with you that being honest about what we like and don’t like is a good idea, but a little tact and good timing never hurt anyone.\*\* Hmmmmm. I didn’t even realize I used quotes until you pointed it out. I’m probably quoting my ex! LOL As I said, in a mature relationship you are both independent and interdependent. In immature relationships the partners tend to be codependent. I would never dream of telling my wife what she can and cannot wear (or whether she can or cannot cut her hair), but I don’t much have to worry about it because she cares enough about my opinion that she doesn’t make choices that would upset me (though I can’t think of many choices that would upset me) just as I don’t make choices that would upset her. We also communicate enough to know what will and will not cause that upset. At least we try. Every relationship has its surprises, both good and bad. I’m not sure why you felt it necessary to suggest “tact and good timing;” did my post lack those qualities? ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2003, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-let-your-gf-wear-a-thong/205320/63 "2003-10-08T06:36:50Z")
I still don’t get how a woman wearing a thong equates to her “using” the man she’s with. Using you for what? A frame? If you go away, is her ass not still in the thong? Seriously, I don’t get this. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2003, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-let-your-gf-wear-a-thong/205320/64 "2003-10-08T12:06:47Z")
“I’m grown up now” I’d like a further cite for this, please. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-let-your-gf-wear-a-thong/205320.md?page=3)