# Guys, would you want to see your lady get a lapdance from a stripper? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 20, 2005, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042 "2005-02-20T19:13:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![E.Thorp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@E.Thorp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/E.Thorp)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/21 "2005-02-21T04:18:46Z")
> [@Tuckerfan](#): > > In fact, most men would give their left nut and kill their own grandmother for such a thing. (I know I have. šŸ˜‰ ) _ **All points bulletinā€¦be on the lookout for single-testicled man who has just killed his grandmotherā€¦** _ ---
**Author:** ![MissGypsy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8491ac/32.png) [@MissGypsy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissGypsy)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/22 "2005-02-21T05:10:13Z")
For the sake of research, I ran this question by my SO, and received the following response: ā€œHell yes!ā€ šŸ˜ƒ So now whatā€™s the etiquette, here? Does he pay for my lap dance, or do I? Do I tip her, or does he? ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/23 "2005-02-21T05:23:56Z")
Meh, been there, done that, more times than I can count. (Not recently though) Thatā€™s what I get for dating stippers when I was in my early twenties. BTW: > [@hillbilly queen](#): > > Me - ā€œIā€™ve heard that sometimes, the strippers will let the female customers touch them during a lapdance.ā€ I think somebodyā€™s been giving you a false impression of titty bars. Every strip joint Iā€™ve been to, you could touch the dancers. (with in reason) Or at least theyā€™ve never stoped me. That quote gave me a good chuckleā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/24 "2005-02-21T06:15:36Z")
hm, mrAru said he didnt see the point of _me_ getting a lap dance, it wouldnt be much of a turn on for him [he pretty much doesnt like strip clubs/titty bars, he would rather pick up someone and get laid. FWIW, when he was still navy we had a deal where he could get laid in certain areas where there was regulated prostitution provided it wasnt bareback and he got tested before getting back in bed with me. He never brought home any diseases, and I have never asked him if he got laid while out of the country.] ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 6:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/25 "2005-02-21T06:34:20Z")
> [@SHAKES](#): > > Meh, been there, done that, more times than I can count. (Not recently though) Thatā€™s what I get for dating stippers when I was in my early twenties. > BTW: > > I think somebodyā€™s been giving you a false impression of titty bars. Every strip joint Iā€™ve been to, you could touch the dancers. (with in reason) Or at least theyā€™ve never stoped me. > > That quote gave me a good chuckleā€¦ By ā€œtouchingā€ I meant ā€œgropingā€. And around here, itā€™s strictly up to the individual dancer what she will allow the customer to do. ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/26 "2005-02-21T06:37:45Z")
> [@Seeker74](#): > > Hey **hillbilly queen** - Letā€™s leave the party-pooping hubbies at home & go together! And I know which one club weā€™ll go to. Thereā€™s a little strip club outside Lawrence KS called the Outhouse. The chicks are buck naked, and itā€™s BYOB!!! WOO HOO! > > Seeker, whoā€™s been wanting to go to the Outhouse for yearsā€¦ That sounds like fun. Although Iā€™m a little concerned as to why they call it the Outhouse. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/27 "2005-02-21T09:45:52Z")
Yep, it would definitely turn me on. Doubt the wife would go for it, although she did say once sheā€™d like to watch me get a lapdance. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 9:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/28 "2005-02-21T09:54:56Z")
> [@hillbilly queen](#): > > So how would you guys feel about the same situation? I would most certainly not be turned on by the thought. Sorry. I donā€™t really want anyone rubbing my wife lacisviously except me, and that includes professional strippers of either sex. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 10:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/29 "2005-02-21T10:01:11Z")
> [@Tuckerfan](#): > > **hillbilly queen** , I think your husbandā€™s gay (not that thereā€™s anything wrong with that), because I know of no man whoā€™d reject his wifeā€™s suggestion of going to a titty bar or having a threesome with another woman. Iā€™m very sure Iā€™m not gay. But the idea of a threesome is not consistent with what my understanding of marriage vows are. I have no desire to engage in the fantasy that my wife wants a girl-on-girl experience. The idea is not remotely exciting. So, at least now you know of one straight man that would reject such a suggestion. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/30 "2005-02-21T14:46:17Z")
> [@SHAKES](#): > > Meh, been there, done that, more times than I can count. (Not recently though) Thatā€™s what I get for dating stippers when I was in my early twenties. > BTW: > > I think somebodyā€™s been giving you a false impression of titty bars. Every strip joint Iā€™ve been to, you could touch the dancers. (with in reason) Or at least theyā€™ve never stoped me. > > That quote gave me a good chuckleā€¦ No touchy around here. Will get a large muscled bouncer throwing your ass out the door. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/31 "2005-02-21T15:00:58Z")
It seems to me that the dancer should give you both a lap dance, at the sametime. ---
**Author:** ![mrklutz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ebca7d/32.png) [@mrklutz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mrklutz)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/32 "2005-02-21T15:01:37Z")
Back when I was married, I really enjoyed the occasions when I went to strip clubs with my wife. I would buy her lapdances, and she would get _very_ excited throughout the dance(s). We never had problems finding a woman who would dance for another woman. It was a lot of fun for me to see her so aroused, and then when we got home, wellā€¦ šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/33 "2005-02-21T15:11:42Z")
My boss recently remarked that every guy he knows loves girl on girl gay action except the friend of his who is gay. After tallying up the anecdotes and converting them to scientific data we concluded that he has a definitive test for ā€œgaynessā€. ---
**Author:** ![Jaade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dfb087/32.png) [@Jaade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaade)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/34 "2005-02-21T15:26:12Z")
> [@MissGypsy](#): > > For the sake of research, I ran this question by my SO, and received the following response: > > ā€œHell yes!ā€ šŸ˜ƒ > > So now whatā€™s the etiquette, here? Does he pay for my lap dance, or do I? Do I tip her, or does he? He does and he doesā€¦ Errā€¦or so Iā€™ve been told. šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f14d63/32.png) [@My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/My_Darn_Snake_Legs)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/35 "2005-02-21T16:12:28Z")
Iā€™d like it. My girlfriend was too young for stripclubs when we were together in Dallas, but she always wanted to go to one. I donā€™t like to go to strip clubs in general, but Iā€™d go with her if she wanted to. I like seeing mostly nekkid girls walking around, but I donā€™t like paying $7 for a beer. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/36 "2005-02-21T17:43:38Z")
Sexy Wife and I have done this a few times, and weā€™ve met a couple of strippers that ended up being ā€œfriends with fringe benefitsā€ in the process. As long as everyone respects everyone elseā€™s limits (such as they are), then why not? ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/37 "2005-02-21T21:28:15Z")
> [@hillbilly queen](#): > > ā€œyouā€™re a guy, youā€™re supposed to be turned-on by that stuff.ā€ For anyone keeping score in the thread, Iā€™m another straight guy who has never found girl-on-girl sensuality or strip clubs particularly stimulating or interesting. I forward through those scenes in the movies, and I have no desire to go to a club (yes, I have been: twice for other guysā€™ bachelor parties, and once to shoot a TV commercial for the club). Maybe itā€™s because I think too much, but when I see those things, rather than enjoying whatever it is Iā€™m supposed to enjoy, I think about how artificial and oddly affected they are, and I derive no pleasure from them. Now, Iā€™ll admit this puts me into an evident minority, which I find mildly perplexing, but there you go. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/38 "2005-02-21T21:35:49Z")
I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdanceā€¦from a MALE stripper? šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/39 "2005-02-21T21:42:41Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdanceā€¦from a MALE stripper? _hand in the air_ ---
**Author:** ![Kaitlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/73ab20/32.png) [@Kaitlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaitlyn)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/40 "2005-02-21T22:58:17Z")
Iā€™m not a guy, but my response is Hell Yes!, Iā€™d enjoy watching Mrs. Six get a lapdance from a stripper. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042.md?page=3)