# Guys, would you want to see your lady get a lapdance from a stripper? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 20, 2005, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042 "2005-02-20T19:13:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Keapon\_Laffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e274bd/32.png) [@Keapon\_Laffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Keapon_Laffin)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/41 "2005-02-21T23:02:12Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? Ewwwwwwwwww… ---
**Author:** ![ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c77e96/32.png) [@ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/42 "2005-02-21T23:16:16Z")
I’ve done this (as the female S.O. in the situation) on several occasions. Ordinarily I’m the more adventurous partner, and suggesting this to the man ends up making him hilariously GRATEFUL. I find that so sweet and fun. On the other hand, I’ve been in a situation with a dysfunctional partner who was really ONLY turned on by strippers and other erotic situations in which he didn’t have to really “participate” if you know what I mean. So going with HIM to a club ended up making me cry. I thought it would arouse him and we would have some fun at home, but when we got home he was STILL only interested in non-participative activities, which made me no end of sad. So I ended up sort of wishing I could find a man who wasn’t entertained by this. But now I guess I see it as somewhere more in the middle…a fun thing to do (rarely) as long as it isn’t your only erotic outlet. Also, I like men, of course, but male strippers seem somehow more “dangerous” than female. I don’t know if that makes any sense or not. I just don’t know if I’d be as comfortable with a man in my face. L ---
**Author:** ![TV\_time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f17d59/32.png) [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2005, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/43 "2005-02-21T23:41:47Z")
My wife and I have done this on occassion and we both enjoyed it and were rather aroused each time. The only problem was once after the experience when I was all hot and bothered, my wife invited the young woman to sit with us and they begin talking about where to shop for the best prices on bread, good places to get their hair done, etc. and I was paying for the young woman’s $12 drink. Women never cease to amaze me. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/44 "2005-02-22T00:01:19Z")
My friend (also female) and I went to a club in San Fran and we were the only females in there— all the guys were just skeevy looking…they had THAT LOOK in their eyes. Anyway, all the dancers kept coming over and giving us free lap dances. I figure they did this for several reasons: A: We were WAY less threatening then the creepy guys with their googly eyes. B: The guys threw WAY more money at them when they were on us (literally 😃 ). Oh, and the girls def. wanted us to touch them (see again reason B). I was laughing the entire time, but I had dollars licked off of my crotch and out of my cleavage, stripper boobie on my mouth (I just sat there…she rubbed her breast on my face…I probably looked confused…she tasted like vanilla), and various other things. The boys liked it, that’s for damn sure. I thought it was hilarious. The girls all thought we were gay, but once we clarified that we weren’t it was even more fun- they got crazier. Good times all around. Being the only non naked girls in a strip club was fun! ---
**Author:** ![Kaitlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/73ab20/32.png) [@Kaitlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaitlyn)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/45 "2005-02-22T00:10:39Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > My friend (also female) and I went to a club in San Fran and we were the only females in there— all the guys were just skeevy looking…they had THAT LOOK in their eyes. Anyway, all the dancers kept coming over and giving us free lap dances. I figure they did this for several reasons: > > A: We were WAY less threatening then the creepy guys with their googly eyes. > B: The guys threw WAY more money at them when they were on us (literally 😃 ). > > Oh, and the girls def. wanted us to touch them (see again reason B). I was laughing the entire time, but I had dollars licked off of my crotch and out of my cleavage, stripper boobie on my mouth (I just sat there…she rubbed her breast on my face…I probably looked confused…she tasted like vanilla), and various other things. The boys liked it, that’s for damn sure. I thought it was hilarious. > > The girls all thought we were gay, but once we clarified that we weren’t it was even more fun- they got crazier. Good times all around. Being the only non naked girls in a strip club was fun! Ok, Mrs. Six and I now have plans for this coming Friday. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/46 "2005-02-22T00:16:48Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? > > 😉 Only if he is dressed up as a Police Man. ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/47 "2005-02-22T00:49:37Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > I’m very sure I’m not gay. > > But the idea of a threesome is not consistent with what my understanding of marriage vows are. I have no desire to engage in the fantasy that my wife wants a girl-on-girl experience. The idea is not remotely exciting. > > So, at least now you know of one straight man that would reject such a suggestion. Meh, I bet you put ketchup on your hotdog. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/48 "2005-02-22T01:53:14Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? > [@Priceguy](#): > > _hand in the air_ I think I want to be **Priceguy’s** girifriend. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/49 "2005-02-22T01:54:22Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? > > 😉 Wasn’t that the original question? It was the question I was answering! Hm. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/50 "2005-02-22T02:06:32Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > I think I want to be **Priceguy’s** girifriend. The position is open. Please apply in triplicate. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_griffin-kentzel/32/14787_2.png) [@Larry\_Griffin-Kentzel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Griffin-Kentzel)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/51 "2005-02-22T02:25:11Z")
Since this is basically a poll, I’ll move it to [**In My Humble Opinion**](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/forumdisplay.php?f=12) for you. **Cajun Man** for the SDMB ---
**Author:** ![Lightnin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lightnin/32/180_2.png) [@Lightnin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lightnin)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/52 "2005-02-22T02:36:23Z")
Poll it is, then. I’d have no problem with my wife going to a stripclub with me. Heck, my favorite person to go to strip clubs with is my friend Penny- she has more fun than I do! I ever make it through Tennessee, **Hillbilly Queen** , _I’ll_ take ya. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ea5d25/32.png) [@Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Scrappy_Hero_Pup)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/53 "2005-02-22T02:38:42Z")
No offense, **hillbilly queen** , but it sounds to me like you were trying to co-opt something you assumed he’d like (since “all guys” like strip clubs and two women) in order to further your agenda (getting him to revisit something, i.e., the threesome, to which he’s already said no). > [@hillbilly queen](#): > > Me - “I’ve heard that sometimes, the strippers will let the female customers touch them during a lapdance.” Sounds to me like you’re trying to make it about you and are hoping he’s pleased by it as an afterthought. Furthermore, there are some things that are meant to be “guys only.” Maybe this is one of those thing for him. Oh, and if more than one lap dance would cost too much, you are either going to the wrong clubs or you don’t have enough money to enjoy it the way you think you will. 20 to get in (each), 2 drink minimum (either 8-dollar beers or 8-dollar fruit juice), and then 20 for one lap dance (one song, maybe two)- that’s the bare minimum. So that’s about a hundred bucks, the cheapest you can get the skeleton fantasy fulfillment, but then what do you do? You’re still sober, he’s uncomfortable, and you’re both bummed because you’re out of money. Maybe you should talk to him about what you both actually want rather than giving the impression that you’re trying to piggyback your pleasure onto what’s not even his fantasy in the first place. Maybe a little attention and communication will (and this might sound cold, but what the hey) help you find out what you can do for him in exchange for what you want, rather than having to trick ersatsz satisfaction out of him. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/54 "2005-02-22T02:46:45Z")
Oh, Scrappy, you need to visit the Limplifter (ah, wait, Lamplighter) - Larpentur and Lexington, St. Paul, Minnesota. I can’t remember the specifics, but I suspect we are talking $5 cover, $1 lap dances (lingere dances, St. Paul is “nudes under glass”), cheap beer, darts and $1 tacos. Its a neighborhood bar with strippers. Expensive strip clubs are expensive, but there are cheap strip joins. (Bangkok was even cheaper…but as I said, whole 'nother world). ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/55 "2005-02-22T02:48:59Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > The position is open. Please apply in triplicate. I’m scrambling to find all the forms now. ---
**Author:** ![antechinus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/fbc32d/32.png) [@antechinus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/antechinus)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/56 "2005-02-22T02:57:20Z")
[mild hijack]What about going to a place like [this](http://www.bodyrotic.com.au/)\* with your lady? \*they do erotic massage on couples ---
**Author:** ![buttonjockey308](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bcef8e/32.png) [@buttonjockey308](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buttonjockey308)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/57 "2005-02-22T03:10:52Z")
Well, the key to any of it, if you’re so inclined (coming from a former stripper-dater-manager type) is to remember three very important things; 1. The strippers are there to make money from you. 2. You are there to spend money on the strippers. 3. Any touching by anyBODY will land you out on your ass, and may get the stripper canned too, for violating house policy. As an aside, many strippers are already lesbians, so them lapdancing your female SO, is roughly akin to YOU lapdancing your female SO. And FTR, I still think it’s hot. And fair’s fair, I would allow the male stripper thing, but that no touching rule goes TRIPLE for Officer Naked. ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/58 "2005-02-22T03:17:53Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? > > 😉 You know, it really depends upon whom I’m dating. Some GFs, no matter how dearly I’ve loved them, I wouldn’t do it. Others, I’d be more than happy to. ---
**Author:** ![Sublight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/439d5e/32.png) [@Sublight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sublight)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/59 "2005-02-22T03:35:31Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? > > 😉 The lapdance itself wouldn’t be much of a turn-on for me, but if my wife requested it, I’d give it a go. And if she got turned on by watching us, _that_ would be a turn-on for me. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/60 "2005-02-22T03:36:21Z")
> [@Tuckerfan](#): > > You know, it really depends upon whom I’m dating. Some GFs, no matter how dearly I’ve loved them, I wouldn’t do it. Others, I’d be more than happy to. Interesting. What particular quality in a girlfriend is it that makes you more or less willing to accept a lapdance from a male stripper? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042.md?page=4)