# Guys, would you want to see your lady get a lapdance from a stripper? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 20, 2005, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042 "2005-02-20T19:13:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/61 "2005-02-22T03:44:41Z")
> [@Happy Scrappy Hero Pup](#): > > No offense, **hillbilly queen** , _Blah, blah, blah,…_ No offense,\*\* Happy Scrappy Hero Pup\*\* but maybe you should lighten up, or go practice your marriage counseling on somebody who needs it. Why would I want to do it other than to please my husband? Do you think I want to fulfill some fantasy of mine by engaging in sexplay with another woman. I hate to tell you this hon, but I’ve probably had more women than you have. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/62 "2005-02-22T03:50:20Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > Interesting. What particular quality in a girlfriend is it that makes you more or less willing to accept a lapdance from a male stripper? Basically, she has to be willing to do something similar. Not necessarily get a lap dance from a female, but she has to be the kind of person who’d go “all out” for me, without my asking (and yes, I’d go “all out” for her). ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/63 "2005-02-22T03:51:39Z")
> [@hillbilly queen](#): > > No offense,\*\* Happy Scrappy Hero Pup\*\* but maybe you should lighten up, or go practice your marriage counseling on somebody who needs it. Why would I want to do it other than to please my husband? Do you think I want to fulfill some fantasy of mine by engaging in sexplay with another woman. I hate to tell you this hon, but I’ve probably had more women than you have. 😛 I demand photograpic proof! ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ea5d25/32.png) [@Happy\_Scrappy\_Hero\_Pup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Scrappy_Hero_Pup)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/64 "2005-02-22T04:40:44Z")
> [@hillbilly queen](#): > > No offense, Happy Scrappy Hero Pup but maybe blah blah blah Sweetheart, you posted a question. In a forum where anyone can give their opinion. So that’s what I did. It’s a little self-centered of you to solicit advice and then trash the advice you don’t like, not to mention make wild assumptions about the person who gives it, trashing them in the process. But it’s certainly in keeping with your personality as expressed in the OP. This isn’t the Pit, so I’ll leave it at that. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/65 "2005-02-22T05:01:01Z")
Read the OP again. I never asked for advice. And the opinions I wanted were about the situation, not me. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/66 "2005-02-22T05:18:21Z")
> [@Priceguy](#): > > _hand in the air_ That is HOT. > [@Dangerosa](#): > > $1 tacos Wow…those are some CHEAP strippers. Do they serve food there, too? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![DrLoveGun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@DrLoveGun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrLoveGun)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 6:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/67 "2005-02-22T06:54:53Z")
I just need to find a babysitter and a good clean club to take her to. I know she’d be into it, and I know I’d like watching it. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/68 "2005-02-22T10:11:33Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > That is HOT. Get in line, babe. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/69 "2005-02-22T14:04:43Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I gotta ask-how many guys here would be agreeable if your gals requested watching YOU get a lapdance…from a MALE stripper? > > 😉 Been there, done that, got the cum stains out of the slacks. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/70 "2005-02-22T16:14:20Z")
I hate/hated dancing for women, precisely because they feel they’re entitled to grope and grab. It’s not cool with me for a guy to do it, and it’s really not cool with me for a woman to do it. I’m not into chicks, not at all. A lot of strippers will be anything you want them to be. They pretend to be into girls because they think that will make them more money. They can have it. I’d rather work directly with the cash (men). When you’ve got the goods, you don’t have to mess with that crap. And the middle-aged drunk women sitting with their husbands think they’re really funny when they try to grab on you because they think you’re into it. Screw that. And it’s especially fun when they get just drunk enough to realize they aren’t as hot as the dancers and start getting pissed at their husband for looking. I’ve seen many a slap fight break out because the wife got jealous. Blah, I don’t have time for that crap. I would avoid females in the club unless the come up to the stage, where you can’t really ignore them. At that point, they’d get the exact same treatment I’d give to a man. No special gropes and grabs. No one is putting their hands on me, male or female. ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/71 "2005-02-22T17:37:17Z")
**Indygrrl** , thanks for your input. I’m sure there are many strippers who feel the way you do. Just like there are many who don’t. I’ve had friends who were strippers. You’ll notice in the Op, I said “…sometimes they’ll **let** women customers touch them…” I would never grab or grope anyone I didn’t have a relationship with. But, some strippers encourage the women to touch them. > [@](#): > > the middle-aged drunk women sitting with their husbands think they’re really funny when they try to grab on you because they think you’re into it. Screw that. And it’s especially fun when they get just drunk enough to realize they aren’t as hot as the dancers and start getting pissed at their husband for looking. This is not my situation. I’m not middle aged, I don’t drink, I don’t grab women, I’m just as hot as most of the dancers, and I **want** my husband to look at as many of them as he can. Except for the women who ocassionaly flash their boobs at him while he’s working, I’m the only woman he’s seen naked in almost 20 years of marriage. And although I look pretty damn good, I thought he might like to see some variety. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/72 "2005-02-22T20:13:35Z")
My wife had not been to a strip club until we were scouting out locations for our wedding (Key West). Her second visit was out joint bachelor-bachelorette party, and we have been a few times since then. I am pretty confident SHE would be more comfortable watching ME get a lap dance than me watching HER, but we may have actual data to submit later, as we have not purchased any lap dances with each other yet. She enjoys the beautiful naked wimmins, but is not all that comfortable with any in-your-face stuff. I would be more turned on watching her get one than getting one myself. As for the male dancers lap dancing for ME, I think she would enjoy that very much, and we would both have a very difficult time not laughing out loud for the duration. We are both straight and monogamous, but she is slightly more gay on the Kinsey Scale than I am. ---
**Author:** ![kidchameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@kidchameleon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidchameleon)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/73 "2005-02-22T21:59:40Z")
I’m all down for my SO getting a lap dance by a female stripper. That’d be hot. I’d be down for letting a guygive me a lap dance if she really wanted it. I don’t think I’d be excited by that, but I’m sure if she really enjoyed it I’d get some reciprocation. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![TV\_time](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f17d59/32.png) [@TV\_time](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TV_time)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2005, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/74 "2005-02-22T23:10:45Z")
> [@Tuckerfan](#): > > I demand photograpic proof! …or was that “pornographic proof?” ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/75 "2005-02-23T01:00:59Z")
El Hubbo said that he would not want some skanky broad rubbing up against me. He’s in total agreement with Bricker’s first post to this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Tuckerfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@Tuckerfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tuckerfan)\ **Post date:** [February 23, 2005, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042/76 "2005-02-23T03:04:34Z")
> [@hillbilly queen](#): > > This is not my situation. I’m not middle aged, I don’t drink, I don’t grab women, I’m just as hot as most of the dancers, and I **want** my husband to look at as many of them as he can. Except for the women who ocassionaly flash their boobs at him while he’s working, I’m the only woman he’s seen naked in almost 20 years of marriage. And although I look pretty damn good, I thought he might like to see some variety. Well, you know, **hillbilly** , if I were married to you, I wouldn’t need to see another woman naked Not that I’d turn down your suggestion, mind you. In defense of El Hubbo, perhaps he thinks that this is one of those “female tricks” where if he agrees you’ll explode in anger and he’ll have hell to pay for agreeing to it. Nah, he’s gay. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/guys-would-you-want-to-see-your-lady-get-a-lapdance-from-a-stripper/291042.md?page=3)