# gwendee changed her relationship status to Widowed **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 12, 2013, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757 "2013-11-12T22:49:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/1 "2013-11-12T22:49:34Z")
You all have helped me through a lot of ups and downs and some more downs over the years so I’m sharing this here. I met Christopher in 1986. We started dating in the spring of '87. We broke up a few times, and weren’t living together currently, but we did get married in 2007 and legally are still married. We were together for twenty years, just not in a row. He was smart, and funny, and had great taste in music. He was an enthusiastic, though technically terrible dancer. I don’t think any of our problems came from not loving each other. No one else has made me laugh as hard or as much as he could. That’s actually true of every emotion. I’ve cried harder over him than anyone else, too. He was around for lot of the raising of my son, and always referred to him as his son rather than his stepson. I never knew exactly what the demons were, but I did know they were there and that made living together tough. I don’t have a strong sense of what afterlife is like, if anything. Whatever it is, I hope with all my heart that he is finding the peace he couldn’t seem to find in this lifetime. (In case anyone is curious, his death was the result of complications of sporadically treated type I diabetes. He turned 50 this year.) ---
**Author:** ![smaje1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47774/32.png) [@smaje1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smaje1)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/2 "2013-11-12T22:51:19Z")
That’s so sad to lose him so young. My heart goes out to you and your son! ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/3 "2013-11-12T22:57:19Z")
Oh, gwendee. I am so sorry. I’m here for you, whenever you want or need. Julie ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/4 "2013-11-12T22:57:28Z")
My best to you, **gwendee**. You know you are in our thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/5 "2013-11-12T23:04:55Z")
I’m so very sorry. May you find peace. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/22080_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/6 "2013-11-12T23:34:44Z")
So very sorry - 50 is too young. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/7 "2013-11-12T23:37:46Z")
Hugs to you. Diabetes is a horrible disease. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/8 "2013-11-12T23:44:36Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![minlokwat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/minlokwat/32/2844_2.png) [@minlokwat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minlokwat)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/9 "2013-11-13T00:40:08Z")
I am sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/10 "2013-11-13T00:58:24Z")
I’m so sorry. I hope he’s found peace, and that with time you can do so as well. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/11 "2013-11-13T01:12:52Z")
I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![ThisSpaceForRent](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thisspaceforrent/32/345_2.png) [@ThisSpaceForRent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThisSpaceForRent)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/12 "2013-11-13T01:42:04Z")
May you find peace in your memories… do not spend time in wishing, or wants or desires… Please accept my condolences… tsfr ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/13 "2013-11-13T01:55:40Z")
☹ I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/14 "2013-11-13T03:31:27Z")
I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/15 "2013-11-13T03:45:48Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/16 "2013-11-13T03:54:05Z")
I’m sorry to hear that - 50 is definitely much too young. I hope he has found peace, and I hope you and your son will, too. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/17 "2013-11-13T03:54:12Z")
Im sure he’d be proud to read your tribute. So sorry, gwendee. ---
**Author:** ![Rick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@Rick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/18 "2013-11-13T04:27:38Z")
When my time comes, I hope someone says things that are this nice about me. I will raise a glass to his memory tonight. ---
**Author:** ![Clothilde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Clothilde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothilde)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/19 "2013-11-13T04:29:05Z")
I am so very sorry for your loss. 50 is just entirely too young. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2013, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757/20 "2013-11-13T04:44:33Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope he has found peace. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gwendee-changed-her-relationship-status-to-widowed/673757.md?page=2)