# Hard/rough sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 31, 2003, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103 "2003-07-31T12:03:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Why\_A\_Duck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/13edae/32.png) [@Why\_A\_Duck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_A_Duck)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2003, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/21 "2003-08-01T01:00:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tir Tinuviel \* > \*\*I’m counting down to getting thrown on the bed and having the life screwed outta me… **TwistofFate** is over this weekend! \*\* No pressure there Twisty. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2003, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/22 "2003-08-01T01:16:47Z")
I would just say that once a guy reveals that he has dommish tendencies, he has to beat the women off with a stick … AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN!!! ::eek:: ---
**Author:** ![Sinshine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f04885/32.png) [@Sinshine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sinshine)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2003, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/23 "2003-08-01T02:50:09Z")
The pendulum swings. I like to be swept off my feet, I like to do the sweeping, I like a man with vigour, and a man who lets me set the pace. I like a man who challenges me, and who knows how to use sex as a security blanket for me. And who lets me be all that for him, too. Especially, I like a man who likes me. Biggest turn-on. Sylvia, how do you call your loverboy? C’mere, loverboy! ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2003, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/24 "2003-08-01T03:41:56Z")
My girlfriend and I both enjoy hair-pulling, biting, slapping, spanking, pinching and degrading talk. When we’re making love, those things are the rule rather than the exception. But then, we’re dirty twisted perverted lesbians. So I guess it just goes to show how aberrant homosexuality really is. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2003, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/25 "2003-08-01T12:13:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Why A Duck \* > \*\*No pressure there Twisty. 🙂 \*\* Oh, I dunno, a little bit of pressure in the right places… 😃 [sub]T-8 hours…[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Bibliovore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ba0ec/32.png) [@Bibliovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bibliovore)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2003, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/26 "2003-08-01T12:35:00Z")
Ack! Enough! Us single guys can’t take the teasing! Where’s the “hot and bothered” smiley when you need one? Seriously though, in response to the OP, I also used to have a very soft and fuzzy, romantic idea of what women wanted from sex. With past girlfriends, I always tried to be the sensitive, giving, new age type of lover who’d spend make sure the scented candles were lit and the soft music was playing. That all changed with my (now ex) fiancee - whoo boy! While she was quite soft spoken and sweet in public, she’d turn into a voracious, lusty wench when we were alone and horny. She like me to pull on her hair, bite her neck, etc. I never really allowed myself to experience the dominant side of my nature before then, but when she encouraged me to turn into a lust-crazed caveman, I found it suited me just fine! There was something about being strong, hard, and animalistic, that just turned me on like nothing else had before. I was the very definitely the male of the species and she was very happy to submit! So yes, rough sex is definitely my favourite. Jeez, when did it get so hot in here? I think I need a cold shower now… ---
**Author:** ![DeathEmperor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/db5fbb/32.png) [@DeathEmperor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeathEmperor)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/27 "2011-01-16T04:48:53Z")
I’ve always had very wild and energetic tendencies as a lover. I was very excitable, and enjoyed rough play. But I always felt that wasn’t what women wanted, so I tamed it down. But it always slips out… So later, I just gave into it. I’m a good person, I’m just very aggressive. As to whether women like it or not? Some do, and some don’t. If they abhor my peculiar brand of friskiness, then I end up not dating them. I wouldn’t say I’m fetish, just far too aggressive. And if a woman can’t handle that, best let her be with someone her speed. ---
**Author:** ![Pyper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Pyper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pyper)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/28 "2011-01-16T04:59:00Z")
What’s everyone’s opinion on zombie sex? ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/29 "2011-01-16T05:01:59Z")
> [@Pyper](#): > > What’s everyone’s opinion on zombie sex? Hey, with a zombie, you know they want you for your b-r-a-a-i-n-s not your body. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/30 "2011-01-16T05:03:31Z")
Eh, it’s a little smelly, and stuff tends to fall off. Plus the biting. I mean, I’m up for more than a nibble, but the huge chunks of flesh being torn away is a turnoff. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Gadai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@An\_Gadai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Gadai)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/31 "2011-01-16T05:51:42Z")
> [@runner pat](#): > > Hey, with a zombie, you know they want you for your b-r-a-a-i-n-s not your body. 😃 Line of the year. Is there awards I can nominate ya for? ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/32 "2011-01-16T15:32:11Z")
Romance and candlelight isn’t at all incompatible with snarly grabby sexxing. But I most like it SLOW and shimmery, drawn out leaving you gasping and craving more until you can’t stand it any longer. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/33 "2011-01-16T15:34:57Z")
> [@Sinshine](#): > > The pendulum swings. I like to be swept off my feet, I like to do the sweeping, I like a man with vigour, and a man who lets me set the pace. I like a man who challenges me, and who knows how to use sex as a security blanket for me. And who lets me be all that for him, too. ^^^^ Yes, this. I’m told that this makes me a “switch”. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/34 "2011-01-16T15:44:51Z")
My wife likes it hard and fast. The problem is that I don’t. First, it takes a lot more energy on my part and I ain’t getting any younger. Secondly it makes me come a whole lot sooner than I would like. ---
**Author:** ![phouka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c5a1d2/32.png) [@phouka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phouka)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/35 "2011-01-16T21:10:49Z")
I thought that was what Round Two was for. Seriously, sex is like eating in that the appetite can change from filet mignon and baked potato to a greasy hamburger dripping mayonnaise. All but one of few times I’ve gotten dominating, rough, aggressive sex, I was out of my mind with enjoyment. On one occasion, my partner seriously misread me, didn’t listen to me when I said “please stop”, I got _really_ uncomfortable and pushed him off. To avoid such unhappiness, I suggest agreeing on a safety word beforehand, and paying close attention to your partner’s reaction. ---
**Author:** ![Allthegood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@Allthegood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Allthegood)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/36 "2011-01-16T21:31:28Z")
I like both. I would be really hard pressed to pick one or the other. Currently I am enjoying the hell out of slow and gentle, with a little suddenly-rough thrown in there every so often. Generally I don’t prefer that the first or second time I’m with someone be rough or hard. I need to trust the guy first before I can enjoy being manhandled. ---
**Author:** ![Dag\_Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@Dag\_Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dag_Otto)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/37 "2011-01-16T21:50:08Z")
At what point does rough sex turn into graping? ---
**Author:** ![ZenBeam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/3ab097/32.png) [@ZenBeam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZenBeam)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/38 "2011-01-16T22:11:37Z")
Any one else disappointed we didn’t hear how things went with \*\*Tir Tinuviel \*\*? ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/39 "2011-01-16T22:34:51Z")
> [@Allthegood](#): > > Currently I am enjoying the hell out of slow and gentle, with a little suddenly-rough thrown in there every so often. And yet your typing is impeccable! ---
**Author:** ![InterestedObserver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@InterestedObserver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InterestedObserver)\ **Post date:** [January 16, 2011, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103/40 "2011-01-16T22:47:56Z")
If “rough” means violence or pain, no. If it means hard and fast, oh yeah! 🆒 BUT, I also enjoy slow and gentle…they compliment one another very well. Start off slow and gentle then, when I am begging for it, DO ME like a man (meaning like YOU are a man, and I am a woman, just to clarilfy) 😃 But sometimes, keeping it slow and gentle can lead to the most mind-blowing sensations…:eek: There is a time and a place for both…no pat answer other than the one your lover gives in the moment, [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hard-rough-sex/192103.md?page=3)