# Has anyone actually been in a movie style love triangle? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 9, 2012, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245 "2012-03-09T09:24:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/1 "2012-03-09T09:24:05Z")
I can’t be the only one watching and reading about love triangles who thinks the whole thing is fucked up right? I always want someone to say you know you two can have each other I’m better than this shiat! Is this a common thing? ---
**Author:** ![ajb867](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f14d63/32.png) [@ajb867](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ajb867)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/2 "2012-03-09T10:08:41Z")
Yes, it sucks. I just found out I was in a Square. Not going back… ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/3 "2012-03-09T13:26:20Z")
Hell, I was in a dodecahedron once. ---
**Author:** ![xanthous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/53a042/32.png) [@xanthous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xanthous)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/4 "2012-03-09T19:01:31Z")
> [@John\_DiFool](#): > > Hell, I was in a dodecahedron once. I read this as “doucheahedron” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![papergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aca169/32.png) [@papergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/papergirl)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/5 "2012-03-09T19:31:11Z")
My first husband left me for my best friend. Does that count? Then my dad left my mom for The Hussy, and my mom fell for The Hussy’s ex-husband and had a long relationship with him. Sure glad all THAT’s over! ---
**Author:** ![ducati](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cc9497/32.png) [@ducati](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ducati)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/6 "2012-03-09T19:42:42Z")
> [@John\_DiFool](#): > > Hell, I was in a dodecahedron once. That’s just an orgy. It doesn’t count! Actually, I was “seeing” about dozen young ladies for a time, with two main players. Time and attrition brought it down to these two. I was able to date both of them for almost 3 years before they found out about each other. I loved them both dearly, and could never choose between them. Finally one said “marry me or I’m leaving”, and since I wasn’t ready, I said “I can’t”. She left, leaving me with 1 girlfriend, and let me tell you - it’s cheaper that way! That young thing gave me 2 more years of sowing my oats - I didn’t think she knew - and then one day said “pick a date”. I picked, quit sowing, and got married. Been almost 23 years now. Now we have different kinds of triangles and squares… ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/7 "2012-03-09T20:07:20Z")
Yes. In college, an attractive girl made it clear to both my best friend and I that she was interested in us. He and I talked about it and came to a gentleman’s agreement-- we’d both take a shot, and there would be no hard feelings. He came out ahead\*, I moved on, and we’re still good friends today. Wouldn’t make a very good movie, I’m afraid. \*She turned out to be entirely crazy, so not that far ahead. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/8 "2012-03-09T20:22:39Z")
In college, me and the boy I liked/also liked me were the center of two triangles. I was the point between him and another guy who liked me, and he was the point between me and another guy who liked him. The really freaky part was that the other guy for him was my own immediate ex-boyfriend. It was interesting in the proverbial curse way. Oddly enough, it all worked out in the end, no one ended up with who we thought would work out, and we’re all still close friends with each other. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/9 "2012-03-09T20:32:41Z")
I was in a love triangle once where there were only \*two \*of us. I have had a complicated life. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/10 "2012-03-09T20:34:46Z")
> [@Eve](#): > > I was in a love triangle once where there were only \*two \*of us. I have had a complicated life. ooooo, did it involve time travel? ---
**Author:** ![perfectparanoia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@perfectparanoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/perfectparanoia)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/11 "2012-03-09T21:54:40Z")
Who hasn’t? Seriously, I went to a university with 10x as many guys as girls. There were always weird things going on. Hell, my husband and I got together because he liked me and I was dating a jerk (who didn’t completely out himself as a jerk until I dumped him). ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/12 "2012-03-09T22:02:57Z")
some people have multiple relationships totally upfront, honest and with consent. sometimes it works. sometimes it takes some skill and energy. sometimes it is easy. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/13 "2012-03-09T22:28:36Z")
> [@Eve](#): > > I was in a love triangle once where there were only \*two \*of us. I have had a complicated life. Was one of them a mild-mannered reporter who wore glasses and the other a heroic crime-fighter who didn’t wear glasses and always went by a nickname? ---
**Author:** ![River\_Hippie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/river_hippie/32/26_2.png) [@River\_Hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/River_Hippie)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2012, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/14 "2012-03-09T23:36:17Z")
Yes. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2012, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/15 "2012-03-10T00:12:06Z")
> [@Lamia](#): > > Was one of them a mild-mannered reporter who wore glasses and the other a heroic crime-fighter who didn’t wear glasses and always went by a nickname? Well, no, but I \*did \*have a secret identity I was not keen on revealing. ---
**Author:** ![Jasper\_Kent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a9a28c/32.png) [@Jasper\_Kent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasper_Kent)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2012, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/16 "2012-03-10T00:16:13Z")
Throughout the 90’s, I only dated married women. One relationship lasted 7 years. ---
**Author:** ![jkirkman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ac8455/32.png) [@jkirkman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jkirkman)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2012, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/17 "2012-03-10T01:23:04Z")
Yes. Three times, oddly enough. So far. Sigh. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2012, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/18 "2012-03-10T02:03:31Z")
Was in one mess my best friend called a “love pentagram” I was dating girl A Girl A was seeing me, (Guy A) and another guy (Guy B) Guy B was engaged (Girl B) and was also seeing an ex of mine (Girl C) It eventually settled out with me exclusively dating Girl C and Guy B with girl A, Girl B left him when she found out he had been cheating on her. We later learned Girl A was married too but hubby was overseas in millitary. Hopefully he came home with girl D and lived happily ever after. ---
**Author:** ![BangBang](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ebca7d/32.png) [@BangBang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BangBang)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2012, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/19 "2012-03-10T06:18:23Z")
Back in my heady early 20’s I was still FWB with an ex, let’s call him Lachlan, he was bi and had met a guy he was really into but he was scared to make the first move and wouldn’t tell me who he was. I met another guy in a bar, let’s call him Jeremy, and we hit it off so I started seeing him casually too. Turns out he was bi and had met this guy he was really into but he was scared to make the first move blah blah blah. I connected the dots and asked if this guys name was Lachlan - yup! Ultimately we all slept together but not at the same time (i.e. there was **never** 3 in a bed) We all moved on with no hard feelings, I moved interstate and went to uni, one of them moved overseas and a few years later they both OD’d on heroin within 3 months of each other - I was completely devastated. Don’t know if that counts, it wasn’t like a serious relationship for any of us. That’s the most complicated situation I’ve ever been in though! ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim_r.mortiss/32/142_2.png) [@Tim\_R.Mortiss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_R.Mortiss)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2012, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-anyone-actually-been-in-a-movie-style-love-triangle/615245/20 "2012-03-10T06:27:22Z")
I was involved with two sisters for awhile. I always had the hots for Older Sister (OS), but never had the balls to make a move on her. Then I met Younger Sister (YS), who jumped my bones. As soon as that happened, OS wanted me (not to my credit; apparently she loved to steal men away from YS) and \*she \*jumped my bones. So we started doing the deed behind YS’s back. YS was too clueless to figure it out, and OS wasn’t about to spill the beans; she was having too much fun despoiling YS without her knowledge. I learned many lessons, such as, keep the volume set to ZERO on your answering machine, lest one of them call while the other is visiting. And definitely avoid family holiday get-togethers. Eventually it all ended when I met another (totally unrelated) young lady, and extricated myself from both of the sisters. But THAT is a story for another day. PS - if this sounds like bragging, it isn’t. None of it was about me; it was about sisters who were overly competitive with each other, and about me being unable to keep it in my pants back when I was young and stupid (unlike now, when I am middle-aged and stupid)