# Have there been any rock stars who were monogamous during their entire career? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [November 29, 2010, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252 "2010-11-29T03:46:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Talon\_Karrde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Talon\_Karrde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Talon_Karrde)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2010, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/81 "2010-12-04T19:35:26Z")
I think Tom Waits has been faithful to Kathleen Brennan while he’s been married to her. Their marriage is very much like a partnership and he relies on her in a lot of ways. ---
**Author:** ![Bijou\_Drains](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bijou_drains/32/2814_2.png) [@Bijou\_Drains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bijou_Drains)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2010, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/82 "2010-12-04T20:06:37Z")
Roger Daltrey has been married to his 2nd wife since the early 70s. Haven’t heard of any groupie issues with him. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2010, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/83 "2010-12-04T20:26:15Z")
> [@thirdname](#): > > I knew a guy who knew a guy who worked on Capitol Hill, who said that Al Gore was the only politician in DC who was faithful to his wife. An anonymous guy on an Internet message board says he knew a guy who knows a guy! Stop the presses! I’m off to the Smoking Gun with this one! ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2010, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/84 "2010-12-04T22:57:06Z")
I don’t think anyone has yet mentioned that for late '80s/early '90s alt rock musicians then sleeping with groupies was considered pretty uncool. How many of those guys were truly monogamous I don’t know; it must have been easy enough for a rock star to pick up women in bars or whatever even if he wasn’t sleeping with actual groupies. But several years back I do remember reading that according to Groupie Central then Eddie Vedder of Pearl Jam and Matt Cameron of Soundgarden (and later of Pearl Jam) were lost causes – they were devoted to their long-time ladies and any groupie hoping to score with either of them was wasting her time. Vedder has been married twice, and I remember around the time of his divorce (late 2000) from his first wife there were some rumors that she’d left him because he was cheating. Within just a few months of his divorce the gossip columns were reporting that he was dating the woman who would later become wife #2, so given the timeline there’s room to question whether he might have secretly been seeing #2 while he was still married to #1. But I’m a pretty big Pearl Jam fan and AFAIK these rumors of cheating didn’t surface until _after_ the divorce, and neither Vedder’s first wife nor anyone else who knew them has ever publicly claimed that he was unfaithful to her. Even if one believes the worst of the gossip, Vedder’s infidelity was limited to cheating on his first wife with the woman he’s still with ten years later. It was my impression that Kurt Cobain of Nirvana and Chris Cornell of Soundgarden were faithful to their respective wives, although Cobain was only married for about two years before his death. Cornell’s wife Susan Silver was also Soundgarden’s manager, so that presumably would have made infidelity trickier to pull off even if he’d wanted to. I know Cornell and his wife did eventually divorce (according to Wikipedia he has since remarried), but I don’t know if adultery was an issue. > [@Bijou\_Drains](#): > > Roger Daltrey has been married to his 2nd wife since the early 70s. Haven’t heard of any groupie issues with him. Daltrey has been quite open about the fact that he often slept with groupies. In the book _The Who in Their Own Words_ he’s quoted as saying he was lucky to have a wife who wasn’t much bothered by this, which may explain why they’ve had one of the longest-lasting marriages in rock. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’d been more faithful in recent years, if only because a man his age can’t be expected to have the same stamina as a 20-something, but he definitely is not an example of a totally monogamous rock star. ---
**Author:** ![suspiciousminnd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b782af/32.png) [@suspiciousminnd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/suspiciousminnd)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/85 "2012-08-20T00:23:43Z")
\> 11-29-2010 08:17 PM Mississippienne Robert Smith of The Cure has been married to his wife for eons, and I’ve never heard a breath of scandal about them. \< Sorry, newb here, so don’t know how to use the quotation function, esp. on my iphone, so I’m just doing my best with gumption and glue, just like Mama taught me to! — A lot of groupies are as interested in keeping hook-ups discreet (or secret) as the musicians are. So “not hearing a breath of scandal” may not signify anything in particular. Robert Smith, sweet man. Definitely ‘samples the local fare’ on tour when he feels so inclined. : ) ---
**Author:** ![GreasyJack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/df705f/32.png) [@GreasyJack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreasyJack)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/86 "2012-08-20T00:43:54Z")
[Morrissey](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Morrissey#Sexuality) did them all one better by (allegedly) remaining entirely celibate. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/87 "2012-08-20T01:12:41Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > I think that Alice in his prime may have lived the debauched life you seem to be thinking of. He got married in 1976, which seems to have cooled him down a bit, and quit drinking in the mid-1980s, which probably cooled him off a lot. Considering this guy hasn’t had a hit since 1973 (1974 if you count “Muscle of Love”), the timeline makes sense. This might be unfair in a zombie thread, but: after his “Welcome to My Nightmare” album came out in '75, and went platinum the way “Muscle of Love” didn’t, he got a top twenty single in '76, and another in '77, and another in '78 – all of which did better than _ **any** _ single he put out in '73 or '74, sure as he’d _ **never** _ had a single that did better than “Poison” in '89 (off yet another album that of course went platinum). So I don’t see why he’d lack opportunities after getting married in general, or after getting sober in particular; he just kept on keeping on, is all. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/88 "2012-08-20T01:20:51Z")
I realize this is a zombie thread, but to go back to the hijack about Alice… his act has never been the slightest but satanic. Also, he’s always viewed the structure of his performances as a morality play with Alice getting his just comeuppance at the end. So, I’m assuming that’s how he reconciles the two. Just saying. ---
**Author:** ![Animastryfe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8797f3/32.png) [@Animastryfe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Animastryfe)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/89 "2012-08-20T01:51:36Z")
> [@Argent\_Towers](#): > > As an aside, isn’t it krazy that we live in a world where the only way for a man to fulfill his _biologically hard-wired destiny_ is to become either a rock star, a pro athlete, or a multi-millionaire? No. You have yet to prove your premise that this “biologically hard-wired destiny” exists. Even if it does exist, you still have to support the argument that society should support this “destiny”. ---
**Author:** ![tomcar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tomcar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomcar)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/90 "2012-08-20T02:34:13Z")
Athletes and infidelity aren’t necessarily synonymous. It’s more likely in sports were there is a lot of travel like Pro Baseball or the NBA. There is very little travel in the NFL, so it isn’t very likely. ---
**Author:** ![denquixote](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9bd4f/32.png) [@denquixote](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/denquixote)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2012, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252/91 "2012-08-20T05:12:08Z")
How about Cat Stevens? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-there-been-any-rock-stars-who-were-monogamous-during-their-entire-career/562252.md?page=4)