To return to the basics of this subject - it’s perhaps less about the Fermi Paradox (well where are they?) than the Drake Equation:
N = R × fp × ne × fl × fi × fc × L*
N, the number of civilizations currently transmitting signals, depends on seven factors:
R* is the yearly formation rate of stars hospitable to planets where life could develop
fp is the fraction of those stars with planets
ne is the number of planets per solar system with conditions suitable for life
fl is the fraction of planets suitable for life on which life actually appears
fi is the fraction of planets with life on which intelligent life emerges
fc is the fraction of planets with intelligent life that develops technologies such as radio transmissions that we could detect
L is the average length of time in years that civilizations produce such signs
The Drake equation is more about making our ignorance explicit than anything else.
The op is jumping all over the fact that we now know marginally more about the variable that we’re already the ones that we were least ignorant about. R, fp, and even ne, may be very large numbers. No huge shock.
The numbers that we have no clue about are the ones that follow.
Let’s guess that fl is reasonably large. Life of some sort is wide spread.
Now let’s guess at fi, fc, and L.
Our n of 1 is that life was here just fine for something like 3.6 billion years (give or take a hundred million or so) before anything close to intelligent life developed. That’s a long time even on the scale of the universe as we know it. Clearly life does not necessarily select promptly for intelligent life. It took a long time for the circumstances that did give it rise to happen in the one place we know it did.
And developing civilization, let alone ones capable of technology that could be detected across the stars? Only just happened really. And technology? Not even an eyelid flutter of time of all life on this planet. Life existed mostly without intelligent life. Intelligent life existed mostly without civilization. Civilization existed mostly without detectable technology. And so far we’ve existed without expanding beyond our planet let alone beyond our star.
L for us is less than a century. And indeed may be a short period going forward. We don’t know. It took us this long to get here to start the L clock going. Even if given enough time the path of life to intelligent life to civilization to technologically detectable civilization always happens we have no way of knowing that it doesn’t always happen with at least as much time as it took here and that information still needs hundreds of thousands of years to get here from other early achievers who did not destroy themselves quickly.
It seems to me to be kooky to assume anything about fi, fc, or L. The fact that life has mostly existed without intelligence here, intelligence without civilization mostly, civilization without that level of technology mostly, to me argues against those having big values.