A common refrain in Fermi Paradox discussions is “if ETIs exist, then we would see evidence of them because of “?”." The “?” is typically SR probes. This is followed by, “you have to account for each and every ETI to explain why we don’t see the evidence.”
Example: If ETIs exist, you can’t use X, Y, or Z as a reason for us not seeing their presence because you would have to account for all of them adhering to X, Y, or Z for that to be true. “All of them” assumes a very large number (thousands > billions > infinity).
But, we’re not dealing with numbers anywhere approaching infinities. For all intents and purposes, we’re dealing only with the ~100-billion stars in our Milky Way galaxy. As @Sam_Stone mentions, Kardachev Type III civilizations don’t appear to exist. I think that’s a reasonable assumption. So, seeing evidence of ETIs in other galaxies is out of the question, and seeing direct evidence of them in our galaxy in their vicinity is unlikely.
So, in the MW, we are dealing either with many ETIs, few ETIs, or no ETIs. I think we can rule out “many ETIs” because surely at least one would would overcome X, Y, and Z and we would see evidence of their existence. But, we don’t.
This leaves us with few, or no ETIs in our galaxy. Many argue that if there aren’t many ETIs, then there must be none. They don’t entertain the thought that there may just be a few (in the MW).
If there are a few ETIs, then it is not unreasonable to assume none of those few have overcome X, Y, or Z reasons for our not seeing them. Example: if there are millions of ETIs within range and time, surely some will have mastered detectable SR probes and seen fit to launch them. But, if there are only a few ETIs, it’s not far fetched to conclude that none have launched SR probes for any variety of valid reasons.
I don’t believe there are many ETIs in the MW for this reason. But, I don’t believe there are none either. I believe there are a few. Perhaps this is wishful thinking, but out of a sample of ~100-billion, I think some ETIs have emerged in the MW and some may be our time-frame sphere. But, we haven’t seen them…yet. It’s like Mama Bear in Goldilocks and the 3 Bears: not too hot, not too cold—just right (i.e. conditions for a few ETIs).
I don’t believe there are many ETIs, because we would see evidence if there were. And, we can safely assume that the evolutionary pathway to advanced tech civilizations is a rarity, even in a sample size of ~100-billion. Reasons for this are mentioned in this thread and elsewhere. It’s not like slapping together a sandwich in your well-stocked kitchen, it’s more like preparing an 8-course meal in a sparsely-stocked kitchen on fire during a hurricane (not easy, but not impossible).
On the other hand, I don’t believe it is so rare as to be nonexistent in the MW. For one thing, we have us goofy humans. We are on the verge (hopefully) of going interstellar. If it happened once in 100-billion, it probably happened twice (or 3 or 4 times). Maybe we’ll make contact tomorrow. Appease them with a nice 8-course meal so they don’t vaporize you with their ray guns, or probe your backside without lubrication.