# Have you cheated? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 9, 2003, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667 "2003-06-09T16:49:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Tenny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8edcca/32.png) [@Tenny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenny)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/1 "2003-06-09T16:49:08Z")
Just curious how many have cheated on their husbands or wives. And if you have why did you and how did it turn out? ---
**Author:** ![PatriotX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c4cdca/32.png) [@PatriotX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatriotX)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/2 "2003-06-09T16:56:24Z")
Welcome to the SDMB **Tenny**. This may be better suited to the **IMHO** forum. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/3 "2003-06-09T17:17:10Z")
14 years with my wife. I’ve never cheated once. But even if I had, I wouldn’t admit it on a message board. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/4 "2003-06-09T17:20:41Z")
Nope. ---
**Author:** ![PatriotX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c4cdca/32.png) [@PatriotX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PatriotX)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/5 "2003-06-09T17:21:11Z")
Yeah, my SO occasionally reads what’s here too. Not to mention some of my friends and family. ---
**Author:** ![Lilairen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lilairen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lilairen)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/6 "2003-06-09T17:28:09Z")
'Course not. It’s much easier to have multiple relationships ethically than it is to break agreements. ---
**Author:** ![Gaudere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e495f1/32.png) [@Gaudere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gaudere)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/7 "2003-06-09T17:33:40Z")
[Moderator Hat ON] Surveys go in IMHO. Off you go. [Moderator Hat OFF] ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/8 "2003-06-09T17:38:25Z")
No. …although there was that 3-way, but it was her idea… ---
**Author:** ![Nate\_the\_Great](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ea924/32.png) [@Nate\_the\_Great](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nate_the_Great)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/9 "2003-06-09T17:49:59Z")
No way. I am totally devoted to my wife. Even if we were having problems, I respect her way too much. Not to mention, I am notorious for my inability to lie. ---
**Author:** ![bittersweet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c57346/32.png) [@bittersweet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bittersweet)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/10 "2003-06-09T18:33:39Z")
I’m not married, but if I were, I’d like to think that I had enough moral fiber not to cheat on my husband. I respect the institution of marriage too much to treat it so lightly. ---
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/11 "2003-06-09T18:59:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bittersweet \* > \*\*I’m not married, but if I were, I’d like to think that I had enough moral fiber not to cheat on my husband. I respect the institution of marriage too much to treat it so lightly. \*\* [ul]😃 [sup] **And that’s the bittersweet truth of the matter!** [/sup][/ul] ---
**Author:** ![D.E.S.K.Top668](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f07891/32.png) [@D.E.S.K.Top668](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D.E.S.K.Top668)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/12 "2003-06-09T19:16:57Z")
I’ve never cheated on my wife and before I was married, I never cheated on any girlfriends. Even when I was involved with more then one person, they were all aware that I was seeing other people - BEFORE anything physical started. Peace-DESK ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/13 "2003-06-09T19:18:59Z")
Not only have I never cheated on my husband (we’ve been together for 20 years, married for 14), I’ve never been unfaithful to **anyone** I’ve made a commitment to! ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/14 "2003-06-09T19:20:50Z")
There have been several threads on this subject. Yes, admitted it, paid the price. End of story. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/15 "2003-06-09T19:42:21Z")
Hijack: Am I the only one who thought this was a thread on plagiarism and cheating on standardized tests? I am? oh. _slinks away with guilty conscience_ ---
**Author:** ![Bandanaman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3ab097/32.png) [@Bandanaman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bandanaman)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/16 "2003-06-09T19:46:31Z")
Yep. Still do too. Although, we don’t consider it cheating, since she knows about mine I know about hers It’s just sex. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/17 "2003-06-09T20:32:44Z")
Yep. I’ve also been cheated on. And shitty as it was, being cheated on seemed a less awful experience in the long run than being the cheater. ---
**Author:** ![PoorYorick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecccb3/32.png) [@PoorYorick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PoorYorick)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/18 "2003-06-09T20:33:37Z")
No (after 9 years of marriage), and not because I’m such a morally strong person. I finally realized that half the trick to preventing myself from doing something I’ll regret is not to put myself in the position in the first place. For instance, say you’re a guy attacted to a co-worker: 1. No getting drunk with him/her. 2. No deep, dark, intimate conversations with him/her (“My wife doesn’t understand me” = “I’m available.”) 3. No getting drunk with him/her. 4. No flirtatious e-mails. 5. No accidental touching. 6. Did I mention getting drunk with him/her? Actually, I’m sure most of you learned this real early on. However, I was in my 30’s before this bit of obvious wisdom hit me. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/19 "2003-06-09T20:48:32Z")
I’ve been the Monica but never the Bill or Hillary, does that count? ---
**Author:** ![Wolfian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/7ea924/32.png) [@Wolfian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wolfian)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2003, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667/20 "2003-06-09T21:03:10Z")
No. I’ve been cheated on and I’ve never give someone else that pain. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-cheated/180667.md?page=2)