# Have you ever attended a same-sex wedding? Would you? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2016, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611 "2016-12-13T14:34:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/41 "2016-12-13T20:28:23Z")
Haven’t been to one yet, but there’s a good chance I’ll go to one sometime in my future given one of my best friends is gay. He just has to find someone first… ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/42 "2016-12-13T21:10:03Z")
Haven’t yet, but I would, of course. Well, unless it was inconvenient or expensive or some other excuse I’d use for a straight wedding, too. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/43 "2016-12-13T21:20:05Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > No. No you haven’t or no you wouldn’t? ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/44 "2016-12-13T22:12:50Z")
> [@SanVito](#): > > Heck, I went to my\* own\* this year. Belated congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/45 "2016-12-13T22:14:50Z")
I have not. None of my friends involved in a SSM invited me. ☹ (OK, only one of them would I have been able to attend anyway.) ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/46 "2016-12-13T22:20:04Z")
My husband and I actually _had_ a same-sex wedding … and have attended others. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/47 "2016-12-13T22:54:43Z")
I’ve been to one of each: male-male & female-female. FTR my wife and I are the boring old hetero kind of married. It was heartening to see so much concentrated happiness in one place. People are people and love is love. The most recent was 2008ish and the other was 2003ish. As I recall neither had the force of law at the time. Didn’t make them any less real. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2016, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/48 "2016-12-13T23:35:29Z")
Yes. > [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > Is it open bar? Then hecks yes. > > Haven’t been invited to one yet however. Word. I’ll go to pretty much anyone’s wedding. The ceremonies themselves are boring, but the receptions are a good time. > [@SanVito](#): > > Heck, I went to my\* own\* this year. Congrats. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/49 "2016-12-14T00:55:24Z")
Money can be tight no matter what. People can’t always afford to invite everybody. If situations had been different… but they weren’t. And we’re still great friends on FB. ---
**Author:** ![Martini\_Enfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/martini_enfield/32/11123_2.png) [@Martini\_Enfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martini_Enfield)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/50 "2016-12-14T00:55:50Z")
I don’t know any same-sex couples but would have no problems with going to a same-sex wedding as long as I knew the couple fairly well and it wasn’t an expensive “destination” wedding or something like that - in other words, exactly the same criteria for an opposite-sex wedding. ---
**Author:** ![JerrySTL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e274bd/32.png) [@JerrySTL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JerrySTL)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/51 "2016-12-14T01:07:17Z")
My youngest daughter’s wedding. My daughter-in-law’s father is a minister and he conducted the ceremony. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/52 "2016-12-14T03:33:18Z")
> [@Martini\_Enfield](#): > > I don’t know any same-sex couples but would have no problems with going to a same-sex wedding as long as I knew the couple fairly well and it wasn’t an expensive “destination” wedding or something like that - in other words, exactly the same criteria for an opposite-sex wedding. And approved of the relationship. (I’ve declined hetero wedding invitations because I disapproved.) Haven’t been invited to one yet, or even a union ceremony, which people did in the past, but would I attend? Sure, why not. ---
**Author:** ![Elemenopy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b5e925/32.png) [@Elemenopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elemenopy)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/53 "2016-12-14T04:01:50Z")
I haven’t yet\*, but expect to at some point in the next few years. I do hope that my daughter finds a wonderful partner (once she’s done with college, hopefully 🙂 ) and I’ll be delighted to participate in any sort of wedding that she and her fiancee wants. I’m not sure if it matters to the OP or anyone inquisitive here, but just for a data point…I consider myself a boring middle-class Republican. \*thought I would stand at a gay marriage last year, but unfortunately one of my friends passed away due to a heart attack before they were married. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/54 "2016-12-14T05:26:58Z")
I attended an opposite-sex wedding performed by the bride’s former girlfriend. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 9:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/55 "2016-12-14T09:21:46Z")
Sure. Well, in as much as I don’t really like going to any weddings. I’m not completely sure what the status is of gay marriage in Australia right now, as I only half-pay attention to its machinations, but surprisingly, and frustratingly, it’s not been legalised here yet. Though there’s probably some weasel-worded equivalent that happens which I’d definitely go to if invited. ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 10:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/56 "2016-12-14T10:08:06Z")
> [@Tom\_Tildrum](#): > > I attended an opposite-sex wedding performed by the bride’s former girlfriend. :eek: Who was there with her husband?😉 ---
**Author:** ![Enright3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/enright3/32/2897_2.png) [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/57 "2016-12-14T20:15:39Z")
Almost 2 years ago to the day my wife and I were the Best Man and Best Woman (or the Matron of Honor and the Man of Honor?) for a couple of (female) friends of mine. ---
**Author:** ![astorian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@astorian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astorian)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/58 "2016-12-14T20:18:40Z")
I never have. MIGHT I? Unlikely, but not impossible. ---
**Author:** ![RobDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f07891/32.png) [@RobDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RobDog)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/59 "2016-12-14T20:45:06Z")
Two in the same year, although not this year. Both men’s weddings, one mixed race, just to tick another box on the wedding variety bingo card. One was as camp as Christmas, the other a model of restraint and decorum. ---
**Author:** ![RickG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rickg/32/5174_2.png) [@RickG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickG)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2016, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611/60 "2016-12-14T21:03:10Z")
Haven’t been to one yet, but we’re at that point in life where all our peers are already married and the next generation hasn’t hit marrying age yet, so we haven’t been to a wedding in years. My niece might get married some day, and I’ll gladly attend, but she’s only 18 and a college freshman, so it won’t likely be for some time. We are friends with one married lesbian couple, but they got married out of state in a private ceremony while it still wasn’t legal in Colorado. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-attended-a-same-sex-wedding-would-you/774611.md?page=4)