# Have you ever been called out for PDA? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 14, 2011, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488 "2011-06-14T21:00:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/1 "2011-06-14T21:00:21Z")
Weirdly enough, the only time someone has yelled at me over PDA was on my first date with my now ex, back in November. We were paying for our dinner and while waiting at the cash register he put his arm around me and I rested my head on his shoulder. This old dude standing nearby yelled at us, “Hey, this isn’t France! You can’t do that in public!” We sort of giggled nervously because it was so weird. We weren’t even kissing and he certainly wasn’t groping me or anything. ---
**Author:** ![Canadjun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/76d3ee/32.png) [@Canadjun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadjun)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/2 "2011-06-14T21:01:30Z")
> [@Mississippienne](#): > > Weirdly enough, the only time someone has yelled at me over PDA was on my first date with my now ex, back in November. We were paying for our dinner and while waiting at the cash register he put his arm around me and I rested my head on his shoulder. This old dude standing nearby yelled at us, “Hey, this isn’t France! You can’t do that in public!” We sort of giggled nervously because it was so weird. We weren’t even kissing and he certainly wasn’t groping me or anything. What is PDA? ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/3 "2011-06-14T21:07:37Z")
Public displays of affection. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/4 "2011-06-14T21:09:02Z")
Maybe the old coot just dropped an L? ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/5 "2011-06-14T21:12:03Z")
Way after the fact. I went to the Prom with my then gf. A year later I was at a regular dance, and one of the chaperons mentioned it, and I said,“I’m leaving now!” I walked away, blushing. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/6 "2011-06-14T21:12:57Z")
I’ve been called out on PDAs, but there’s generally been racist implications; that is, when I’ve been with a woman who is (or at least looks) white. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/7 "2011-06-14T21:14:01Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > Way after the fact. I went to the Prom with my then gf. A year later I was at a regular dance, and one of the chaperons mentioned it, and I said,“I’m leaving now!” I walked away, blushing. This story confuses me. May I ask what the chaperone said that caused you to be so embarrassed as to blush and retreat many months later? ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/8 "2011-06-14T21:17:09Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > This story confuses me. May I ask what the chaperone said that caused you to be so embarrassed as to blush and retreat many months later? :smack: Left out the most important details! She said something to the effect,“The girl who sang for her boyfriend and her bf needed to get a room.” (Our local paper covered the Prom, and our story was the biggest part of the article) ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/9 "2011-06-14T21:22:50Z")
The last time I got called out for it was when my high school swim coach saw me kissing my girlfriend rather than hustling to practice. That cost me 3 miles of extra laps for “Lack of focus.” I will admit Coach was grinning when he told me. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/10 "2011-06-14T21:48:25Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > Way after the fact. I went to the Prom with my then gf. A year later I was at a regular dance, and one of the chaperons mentioned it, and I said,“I’m leaving now!” I walked away, blushing. So… if I may attempt to assemble these puzzle pieces in sequence: You and your girlfriend went to prom, at which time your girlfriend sang for you, and (it is implied, but not stated outright) you were making out in front of others? And there was a news article about your prom, which… focused mainly on you and your girlfriend (the singing? The making out? Both?) A year later, presumably after graduation, you attend a “regular dance” (whatever that is), which is chaperoned by some of the same people who chaperoned your prom? And one of them mentioned you and your girlfriend at the prom a year before, and that you “needed to get a room”? Did she say this to your face? Did you just overhear it? Did she know you were the same person from the… Eh, fuck it. I can’t make it make sense. ---
**Author:** ![cwthree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de0a6/32.png) [@cwthree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cwthree)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/11 "2011-06-14T21:55:38Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I’ve been called out on PDAs, but there’s generally been racist implications; that is, when I’ve been with a woman who is (or at least looks) white. Similar here. I’ve only been called out by homophobes who can’t handle two guys holding hands. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/12 "2011-06-14T22:27:46Z")
Once, at band camp. ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/13 "2011-06-14T22:28:54Z")
> [@An\_Arky](#): > > Once, at band camp. At least you didn’t need a flute. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Kalypso](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/df705f/32.png) [@Kalypso](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalypso)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2011, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/14 "2011-06-14T22:44:27Z")
Never, and I snuggle and peck my partner all the time in public. I’m sure I’d tell whomever to fork right off if they did. ---
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2011, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/15 "2011-06-15T00:33:47Z")
Only once, in high school. The bleachers were full so I was standing in a group of people next to them. With my pinkie finger holding my boyfriend’s pinkie finger. And the principal came by and told us not to do that. To be fair, it was against the rules, but it still seemed pretty silly. I was also surprised that he even noticed. He must have been specifically looking for such things. Of course, it was a looong time ago. ---
**Author:** ![romansperson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/romansperson/32/17100_2.png) [@romansperson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/romansperson)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2011, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/16 "2011-06-15T00:44:09Z")
Right after I got engaged in 1988. We’d parked in the lot next to the restaurant we’d gone to and after dinner I put my arms around my fiance to kiss him next to the car. We were on the main drag in the touristy part of Virginia Beach and some guy in a car passing by yelled “GO FOR IT BUDDY!” Future husband pulled away from me like I’d given him an electric shock and I about died laughing. Hee - thanks for the memory 😃 ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2011, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/17 "2011-06-15T00:45:46Z")
A friend of mine said she was sitting in the back of a bus with her boyfriend, snuggled up to his shoulder, when all of a sudden the guy behind them slapped her boyfriend upside the head. “There are children present!” he snapped. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2011, 6:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/18 "2011-06-15T06:54:08Z")
One of my exes would scold me for trying to hold her hand or, _gasp,_ hug her in public. Over here, if you get caught with PDA too many times the Love Police come to round you up and feed you to Gamera. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2011, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/19 "2011-06-15T08:21:33Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > :smack: Left out the most important details! She said something to the effect,“The girl who sang for her boyfriend and her bf needed to get a room.” (Our local paper covered the Prom, and our story was the biggest part of the article) ‘and her bf needed to get a room’ Is this some euphemism for getting a boner or something? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![fubbleskag](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c2a13f/32.png) [@fubbleskag](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fubbleskag)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2011, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488/20 "2011-06-15T12:38:20Z")
Whenever I see two people kissing in public I like to say loudly, “Gross - right where they eat!” [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-called-out-for-pda/585488.md?page=2)