# Have you ever been involved in a threesome? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 19, 2009, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408 "2009-10-19T23:13:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/81 "2009-10-22T06:23:33Z")
As long as he looked like a woman, and was hot, and was actually a biological woman. For instance, if Jessica Alba tells me she’s really a man in a woman’s body, and she wants to sleep with me, and she does nothing to alter her body, I’ll sleep with him. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/82 "2009-10-22T06:37:20Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Would you be attracted to a man with a vagina? Of course. And I might even fuck him in his vagina. That doesn’t in any way make him a woman, or make me heterosexual. And I would absolutely not be attracted to a woman with a penis. ---
**Author:** ![Elysian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c77e96/32.png) [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2009, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/83 "2009-10-22T10:32:44Z")
> [@DocCathode](#): > > I’m stunned so many people have voted ‘Not Interested’. Other than being in a committed, monogamous relationship, I cannot wrap my head around not wanting to be in a threesome. Well Doc, for me it’s because I am monogamous and I dislike sleeping with people I don’t have feelings for (why bother?). If it’s a MFF situation, I would feel like I was only doing it for the guy (because I am uninterested in sleeping with women), and because I wouldn’t have feelings for him why the hell would I care that I was fulfilling some stupid fantasy of his? If it’s a MMF situation (and I’ve been asked if I would participate in one of those) I wouldn’t like it because I would feel like I was being used by two men I don’t really like very much. In either situation, if I cared for one of the participants I would be VERY upset about sharing. Not my style! I fail to see a situation in which I would enjoy a threesome. ---
**Author:** ![Fiveroptic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiveroptic/32/8257_2.png) [@Fiveroptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveroptic)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2009, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/84 "2009-10-24T11:47:03Z")
> [@DocCathode](#): > > I’m stunned so many people have voted ‘Not Interested’. Other than being in a committed, monogamous relationship, I cannot wrap my head around not wanting to be in a threesome. Because somebody inevitably ends up being a third wheel. ---
**Author:** ![Goodenough](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e79b87/32.png) [@Goodenough](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Goodenough)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/85 "2011-05-12T00:04:16Z")
Im 18 i have never been in a threesome and i was only wondering if it was subjected to a gay act if two men and one girl get involved im only wondering i have maybe had one time in my life where i thought i was Bi-sexual and that haunts me still and i do not want to go down that road again i mean wont it be a lil ackward for your penis to touch another mans and if not are you too into the threesome to care? ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/86 "2011-05-12T00:40:19Z")
> [@Goodenough](#): > > Im 18 i have never been in a threesome and i was only wondering if it was subjected to a gay act if two men and one girl get involved im only wondering i have maybe had one time in my life where i thought i was Bi-sexual and that haunts me still and i do not want to go down that road again i mean wont it be a lil ackward for your penis to touch another mans and if not are you too into the threesome to care? Before figuring out where to put your penis, I would suggest learning where to stick your punctuation. ---
**Author:** ![chacoguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@chacoguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chacoguy)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/87 "2011-05-12T01:17:12Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Before figuring out where to put your penis, I would suggest learning where to stick your punctuation. It’s not where he puts it; it’s where he _wants_ to put it. ---
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/88 "2011-05-12T01:42:31Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > In my opinion, you count the number of people that you personally have sex with. So when there are 3 people, it’s a “twosome” because you are only having sex with 2 other people, right? I’m impressed that the stupidity of your “definition” actually generated as many responses as it did. The terms were defined long before you existed. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/89 "2011-05-12T02:02:14Z")
need an option for two women, one guy, and one zombie ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/90 "2011-05-12T02:12:26Z")
Yes. They are not all that great actually. Not in my experience anyway. I rather concentrate on one lover who really turns me on and vice-versa. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 9:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/91 "2011-05-12T09:31:28Z")
I’ve done most of the 3-way variations except the 3-girls (due to me not having the right plumbing) and me and two girls at the same time. I’m pretty sure I’ll need a million dollars to finally get THAT one crossed off the list. ---
**Author:** ![phantom\_lamb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5f9b8f/32.png) [@phantom\_lamb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phantom_lamb)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/92 "2011-05-12T11:11:05Z")
Straight female, never had one and I’m not really interested. I’m too jealous for a MFF (considering M would be my boyfriend). And MMF sounds… overstimulating for me. And awkward. I don’t think I would be able to not feel weird about it afterwards. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/93 "2011-05-12T15:12:06Z")
I’ve mentioned this before but I’ll mention it again. My first wife and my best friend had a mutual and very powerful attraction to each other. It was obvious that it was just a matter of time before they got together and as far as I was concerned, a threesome was just my way of giving them my blessing. I still believed in free love in those days and it really wasn’t a big deal in my way of thinking. The two of them got what they wanted and I had fun while it lasted. I’ve no idea if they got together later or not; they had plenty of opportunities and I really didn’t care one way or the other. But it was the only threesome I’ve ever been involved in. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/94 "2011-05-12T15:16:22Z")
3, 4, 5, more. Always all male. Sometimes it was with my partner, others with another couple or with several random people. Good times. ---
**Author:** ![Jaledin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jaledin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaledin)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/95 "2011-05-12T19:25:22Z")
No, goddammit. I’ve seen the training flicks – I know what happens when two women become amorous and then turn their attention toward the nearest male. Looks good, sounds good, feels good (assuming), bet it _is_ good, pace Sgt. Hulka. ---
**Author:** ![SoundMind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9fc29f/32.png) [@SoundMind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SoundMind)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/96 "2011-05-12T23:22:05Z")
Yes, many times. I didn’t keep records, but from my mid-twenties to mid-forties, must have been 150 times or more. The total number of people involved altogether was only eight (me, five different women and two other men) and it was always just my wife and me with one other person, except for one time on New Year’s Eve (no, we weren’t drunk) when it was a foursome, us and another man and woman. None of the eight of us were gay or even bi (as far as I know); all the activity was hetero, most often two women and me, but sometimes my wife with me and another man. Minor incidental contact between the two who were the same sex was ignored; it’s kind of inevitable when things are that close and in motion. Having two women pleasure you is something every (hetero) man should experience; it’s wonderful. And my wife found it equally exciting having two men pleasure her simultaneously as well. In fact, seeing how extremely aroused she became and how much she enjoyed it made the M-F-M experience great for me, too. All of our group sex experiences were very friendly, with good friends, and the only reason they ended were because of people moving away (either us or the friends). Now that we’re getting older (we’re grandparents), it just isn’t as easy to find like-minded people since our last move, so it’s been many years since our last group sex. But we had a helluva lot of fun while we could. There are a lot more people who are willing and interested than most people might think. We never once got turned down when we invited someone to join us for the first time, and they all were willing to repeat the experience as often as it was practical to do so. However, we never invited someone unless we knew them very well, liked them very much, and trusted them completely. All good friends, who became closer friends in the experience of shared sex and pleasure. To those of you who responded “no, but would be interested” I would suggest you think about who you would be interested in doing it with, and give it a try. You might be surprised. And incidentally, to those who might think it is impossible to have a long-lasting, healthy marriage but still enjoy having sex with other people, my wife and I met when we were teenagers, married in our early twenties, raised a family, and are still very close and very much in love nearly forty years later. Love shared is not love diminished; it is love multiplied. And loving each other enough to enjoy seeing each other experience great pleasure is healthy, and makes a marriage much stronger than being jealous, insecure, and possessive. ---
**Author:** ![Capitaine\_Zombie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@Capitaine\_Zombie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Capitaine_Zombie)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/97 "2011-05-12T23:27:56Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > need an option for two women, one guy, and one zombie Well, I’m there. Waiting. ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408/98 "2011-05-12T23:40:01Z")
threesomes and foursomes. Not done any moresomes. It seems to be a winter wont of mine - every year about November I start craving them. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-been-involved-in-a-threesome/514408.md?page=4)