# Have you ever ditched or been ditched on a date? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 26, 2012, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481 "2012-07-26T19:10:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Morbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morbo/32/389_2.png) [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/61 "2012-07-28T00:37:59Z")
Went out with a girl in college who offered to drive since she knew where we were going. The date went fine until she got pulled over and said to me “I might actually get arrested for warrants.” She did. Unpaid parking tickets, car impounded. So basically I got ditched at the side of the road. Nice girl though - we actually dated a few times and stayed friends. I’d usually sing [Breakin’ the law](http://youtu.be/GyxLGSMtqtM) to her when I saw her. ---
**Author:** ![Pyper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Pyper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pyper)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/62 "2012-07-28T01:15:36Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > I went with my then boyfriend to a cottage weekend with a group of people that he knew, but I knew only one or two and not very well. First day was fun, but the next morning, boyfriend started drinking. He wasn’t an unpleasant drunk, but continued to drink all day and all night. I went to bed around midnight, sometime later they poured him, drunk and reeking into bed next to me. > > I woke up early the next morning before anyone else. I wanted nothing to do with my drunken dickhead boyfriend, was pissed off at him and dreaded having to put on a happy face and spend the next day there with him. Another woman had gotten up and we started to talk. She wasn’t happy with how her date had been treating her either. I mused about just getting into my car and driving back to the city before anyone else woke up. She told me she’d go with me. That was all I needed. I grabbed my stuff and we drove back together leaving both our dates to find their own way home. > > Not nice I suppose, but it was the beginning of the end of my relationship with DDBF. It limped along for a few more weeks, but I was done. No idea what happened to the other woman and her date, I didn’t know her and never ran into her again. Aw, man, I was hoping this was heading toward some sort of Thelma and Louise scenario. ---
**Author:** ![DummyGladHands](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DummyGladHands](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DummyGladHands)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/63 "2012-07-28T03:54:03Z")
I ditched once before he saw me. Internet date. I had a few requirements-taller than 6’ and non-smoker. (I was trying to quit for the eleventy seventh time) As I walked towards the coffee shop I saw him. Obviously a good bit older than his photo, but near enough I could tell it was him, not nearly 6’ (I am 5’10") and puffing away. Liar on too many counts. Exit stage left. (Actually thru the parking lot) ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/64 "2012-07-28T08:32:20Z")
> [@DummyGladHands](#): > > I ditched once before he saw me. Internet date. I had a few requirements-taller than 6’ and non-smoker. (I was trying to quit for the eleventy seventh time) As I walked towards the coffee shop I saw him. Obviously a good bit older than his photo, but near enough I could tell it was him, not nearly 6’ (I am 5’10") and puffing away. Liar on too many counts. Exit stage left. (Actually thru the parking lot) You had an explicit _height requirement_? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Sehmket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Sehmket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sehmket)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/65 "2012-07-28T12:54:05Z")
I helped facilitate a ditching once. Back in high school, I was dating the guy who is now my husband, and his buddy was trying to get with one of my acquaintances that I shared a few classes with. I helped set them up by offering for us to double to the school dance that was coming up. My guy and I were planning the whole time to only attend the dance for a couple hours, then go over to another friends house for a LAN party - we’d gone earlier and set our computers up. Other friend was hoping to be otherwise occupied, but had his computer in his trunk just in case. During dinner, acquaintance was BORING - she went on for an hour about make up. We get to the dance, and an hour or two into it my date and I are ready to go to the LAN party - at this point, the girl has danced with the buddy for maybe two dances, and is in some hissy match with some other girl about… something. We ask him if he wants to go, he glances over at her (who is now being swooned at by a few guys) and says, “she’ll find a ride” and leaves with us. LAN party, BTW, was a blast. I think that’s the party where I discovered my favorite Quake skin. ---
**Author:** ![raskolnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e47c2d/32.png) [@raskolnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raskolnik)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/66 "2012-07-28T13:13:11Z")
I’m 6’4" and I can understand a tall women would have a height rule. That said, I think you should give some leeway. My father is an 2 inches shorter than my mother. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/67 "2012-07-28T14:19:59Z")
Only time I’ve ever picked a girl up: my senior year of high school, I was buying a 10-speed to use at college. The sales girl was cute and flirty, so I asked her out. She said there was a party coming up she’d love to go to, so I agreed to take her. I picked her up, took her to the party and promptly lost track of her in a house full of people I didn’t know. Sat and watched the _Texas Chainsaw Massacre_ for a while. I honestly don’t remember if I simply got up and left or if she eventually found me again for the ride home. So maybe that was a double-ditch. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/68 "2012-07-28T14:35:27Z")
> [@KneadToKnow](#): > > So maybe that was a double-ditch. She wanted to sell a bike. I asked a girl who cut my hair out, she accepted but never seemed to be able to come to the phone. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/69 "2012-07-28T21:12:31Z")
> [@carnivorousplant](#): > > She wanted to sell a bike. > I asked a girl who cut my hair out, she accepted but never seemed to be able to come to the phone. 🙂 Ha, I never ask sales people out because it’s a long standing disability I have that I cannot distinguish between flirting and genuinely friendly customer service. I don’t think I’ve ever ditched or been ditched but I’ve stopped (or never started) responding to and vice versa with interested parties on the Internet. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2012, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/70 "2012-07-28T21:31:38Z")
The book thing isn’t terrible. The guy has to be a Class A Asshole first. 😃 But I’ve brought it, just in case. Actually, you don’t really need a book - just grab your smartphone. I wanted a date to end early on Thursday, but there wasn’t much I could do. Had to ride it out. I have a date tonight and my purse IS large enough for a book… I had a date a few weeks back where the guy actually said, “I was so nervous I had to take anti-diahreeal medicine.” I’m sorry; WHAT? I’m eating sushi here. I’m shoveling raw tuna in my mouth and you’re talking about your bowels! He actually got up and used the restroom like three times in an hour, too. I tried to act interested in my phone towards the end of dinner but made it stretch out as long as he could. The book…would’ve come in handy…but it would’ve been mean. Of course when I DID go out with a complete asshole recently and actually SAID I wanted to go home, I had no book. I probably would’ve thrown it at him. I don’t care what you say. I’m not giving up my book. Dating sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Svejk\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@Svejk\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Svejk_1)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/71 "2012-07-29T00:27:11Z")
I never did, but there was this one bitch who started reading a book in the middle of the date. I’m not sure she noticed when I left. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/72 "2012-07-29T02:19:56Z")
> [@Rachellelogram](#): > > You had an explicit _height requirement_? :dubious: I am not attracted to men who are shorter than I am. As such, any guy I dated had to be 6’0" or taller. Otherwise the physical thing just wasn’t there. ---
**Author:** ![Suil\_Dubh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85f322/32.png) [@Suil\_Dubh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Suil_Dubh)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/73 "2012-07-29T02:41:23Z")
In high school once, on a Sunday afternoon, my girlfriend called me up and suggested we go for coffee at a place close to her house. Great! A Sunday afternoon coffee date. This cafe was a 45-60 minute walk from my house. I had no bike at the time, so I went on foot. I get there, and she dumps me. To her credit, she was quite gentle about it. In fact, she thought that she was being kind by doing it face-to-face. I would have much preferred a phone call though, as it would have saved me the 45-minute walk both there and back. [edit: I realize now the OP is asking for “walk out on someone” ditching, and not just “dumping someone” ditching. Sorry!] ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/74 "2012-07-29T02:49:25Z")
She left a guy who would walk 45 minutes to have coffee with her? Damn. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/75 "2012-07-29T04:54:30Z")
Lessee, there was the time in grad school where the first date went really well until I woke up to see a bedside bookshelf full of “women who love too much” “it’s coffee not a wedding ring” “don’t turn into a stalker after the first date” and other similar tomes. Coyote’d on out of _there_. Stood up a few times. One kinda stilted but not horrible dinner where my date went to the “ladies room.” Pre interwebs days so I did have a book with me. Pre mobile phone days too. After a while, I ordered a second beer and started reading. A while later I asked the female waiter if she could check on the lady in the restroom. “I’m afraid the restroom is empty sir.” “Ok then, bring me a third beer please and the check while I finish this chapter.” ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/76 "2012-07-29T05:01:39Z")
Yeah, had a guy I knew very casually show up for our first date drunk. I went to the bathroom and just didn’t come back. ---
**Author:** ![Suil\_Dubh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85f322/32.png) [@Suil\_Dubh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Suil_Dubh)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 11:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/77 "2012-07-29T11:33:07Z")
> [@carnivorousplant](#): > > She left a guy who would walk 45 minutes to have coffee with her? > > Damn. In retrospect I don’t blame her, I was young and insecure, and didn’t have the confidence I now have. And again, I appreciate that she wanted to break up with me in person. And we still stayed friends for awhile after that. But man! All that walking just to get ditched. B I T T E R ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/78 "2012-07-29T11:50:14Z")
> [@China\_Guy](#): > > Lessee, there was the time in grad school where the first date went really well until I woke up to see a bedside bookshelf full of “women who love too much” “it’s coffee not a wedding ring” “don’t turn into a stalker after the first date” and other similar tomes. Coyote’d on out of _there_. Sounds like the real problem was that you lost consciousness during the date. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/79 "2012-07-29T14:45:56Z")
> [@Farmer\_Jane](#): > > I don’t care what you say. I’m not giving up my book. Dating sucks. Why not just meet for coffee like the rest of the civilized world, so that if things don’t click, either of you can bale gracefully? ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/80 "2012-07-29T18:08:04Z")
Met a girl through a buddy of mine, we did a quasi-double date with her friend, and we all had a fun time-played that game we’ve done in the Game Room, where you take the last line of this ongoing story and add something weird to it. We all laughed uproariously when we read it aloud. Cute, brunette, artistically minded, quirky, all the stuff I keep telling myself I like… I asked her out the next week, we had dinner, went back to her place (was hoping for some first base action, nothing more tho), and, while we were talking, a male artist friend of hers shows up unexpectedly. She immediately starts ignoring me completely while he and her look at something on her computer, I spend the next half hour playing with her dogs (animal lover that I am) before I just decide to scram from an obviously fruitless situation. Why she didn’t have the goddamn common courtesy to tell the guy to get lost, she had a date over, is beyond me, and if she thought things weren’t working out all she had to do was be honest with me. Never heard from her again. Que sera sera… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481.md?page=5)