# Have you ever ditched or been ditched on a date? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 26, 2012, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481 "2012-07-26T19:10:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Baal\_Houtham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baal_houtham/32/13604_2.png) [@Baal\_Houtham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baal_Houtham)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/81 "2012-07-29T21:57:29Z")
> [@Nawth\_Chucka](#): > > After a few minutes he asked my age and I suggested he guess. He got it within a year (mid 30’s) and I asked how he knew. > > “I can see how the skin on your neck is \*just \*starting to sag near your collarbone.” > > Stunned smile on my face I excused myself to the ladies’ room and kept going out the back door. I prefer honest responses to direct questions, so I’m sympathetic to the guy. Asking your age was probably gauche, but you were the one who asked for specific information about signs of aging. If I got a no-bullshit response like that (from a woman) to a tricky question I’d be halfway toward falling in love. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/82 "2012-07-29T22:37:52Z")
> [@BrotherCadfael](#): > > Supposedly, this is how Buffy’s mother met her father - she went to an event solo, met Buffy’s father with his date, and, well… Great. Now I hate Buffy’s parents, too. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2012, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/83 "2012-07-29T23:38:46Z")
> [@Baal\_Houtham](#): > > I prefer honest responses to direct questions, so I’m sympathetic to the guy. Asking your age was probably gauche, but you were the one who asked for specific information about signs of aging. > > If I got a no-bullshit response like that (from a woman) to a tricky question I’d be halfway toward falling in love. “That’s amazing, no gets my age right. How did you know?” is not asking for signs of aging. I thought he’d asked the bartender who’d been serving my group and saw our IDs. But you keep on keeping on, mmkay? ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/84 "2012-07-30T00:30:35Z")
> [@Nawth\_Chucka](#): > > “That’s amazing, no gets my age right. How did you know?” is not asking for signs of aging. I thought he’d asked the bartender who’d been serving my group and saw our IDs. > But you keep on keeping on, mmkay? You did kind of walk into it, though, by asking him to guess and asking him how he knew. I guess he could have just gone with “lucky guess” but probably a good example of how you shouldn’t ask if you don’t want to know… ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/85 "2012-07-30T01:04:14Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > You did kind of walk into it, though, by asking him to guess and asking him how he knew. I guess he could have just gone with “lucky guess” but probably a good example of how you shouldn’t ask if you don’t want to know… I agree with this take. The guy could have been more diplomatic but she did ask. I have a strict policy of not ever guessing someone’s age. Too many pitfalls. ---
**Author:** ![LC\_Strawhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LC\_Strawhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LC_Strawhouse)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/86 "2012-07-30T01:11:08Z")
Yes, I got ditched in this way. I was around 22 years old. Went to spend the evening at a bar on a first date. The date quickly turned into a vicious circle where she continued to lose interest and I continued to act increasingly desperate in an attempt to be “charming”. Finally she got a female stranger at the bar to back her up with a fake story about how she had to leave right away. Very embarrassing memory all around. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/87 "2012-07-30T01:18:38Z")
> [@LC\_Strawhouse](#): > > Yes, I got ditched in this way. I was around 22 years old. Went to spend the evening at a bar on a first date. The date quickly turned into a vicious circle where she continued to lose interest and I continued to act increasingly desperate in an attempt to be “charming”. Finally she got a female stranger at the bar to back her up with a fake story about how she had to leave right away. Very embarrassing memory all around. Oh man. :o That sounds rough. I don’t know how long ago “22” was for you but I’m sorry you had to experience that. Ouch! ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/88 "2012-07-30T01:30:47Z")
I’m on a boring date right now. I hope she picks up on the fact that I’m posting on a message board. Look up from your book! I’m typing! ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/89 "2012-07-30T01:48:21Z")
> [@bup](#): > > I’m on a boring date right now. I hope she picks up on the fact that I’m posting on a message board. > > Look up from your book! I’m typing! Post your cell number to a Doper you trust, they can call you and say your Mother is ill. ---
**Author:** ![LC\_Strawhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LC\_Strawhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LC_Strawhouse)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/90 "2012-07-30T01:51:24Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Oh man. :o That sounds rough. I don’t know how long ago “22” was for you but I’m sorry you had to experience that. Ouch! Hey, thanks! Well, that was over a decade ago, and it may have taught me a lesson in some ways. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/91 "2012-07-30T15:47:23Z")
> [@Rachellelogram](#): > > Damn, you ditched a Congressman!? None of us are going to top that! 😃 As someone said, not a contest. Nor a conquest for that matter. But if you’d like the winner of that particular genre, I know a girl who actually ditched Al-Muhtadee Billah. They were at Oxford together in the late 90’s. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2012, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481/92 "2012-07-30T16:01:17Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > I agree with this take. The guy could have been more diplomatic but she did ask. Nope. She didn’t ask. No one ever asks for a report on skin sagging. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-ditched-or-been-ditched-on-a-date/629481.md?page=4)