# Have you ever faked not having an orgasm? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 14, 2010, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672 "2010-09-14T01:07:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/1 "2010-09-14T01:07:49Z")
Have you ever had an orgasm and then denied having had it to any/all individuals who had been intimately involved in the proceedings? Feel free to elaborate on the circumstances that caused you to do so, if you did. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/2 "2010-09-14T01:24:26Z")
OK, I clicked that second choice but I was thinking the last choice. Why the hell would anyone _do_ that? I’m guessing this would mostly be a situation where one is not supposed to be having an orgasm, and I can’t recall ever having been in quite that situation. ---
**Author:** ![treis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@treis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/treis)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/3 "2010-09-14T01:31:35Z")
Another vote for WTF. ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/4 "2010-09-14T01:47:48Z")
Richard Pryor: “Oh, dear Lord, let it stay heavy if not hard.” ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/5 "2010-09-14T01:53:55Z")
Is it really possible for males to do either one? > [@El\_Kabong](#): > > OK, I clicked that second choice but I was thinking the last choice. Why the hell would anyone _do_ that? > > I’m guessing this would mostly be a situation where one is not supposed to be having an orgasm, and I can’t recall ever having been in quite that situation. A variation I’ve seen on video was a woman who’s boyfriend gave her vibrating panties, and the guy had a remote control that would activate them. He would use it during fairly public functions, and she had to pretend nothing was happening. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/6 "2010-09-14T01:57:12Z")
Sort of. It was a _very_ long time ago, I was _very_ inexperienced, and I orgasmed but thought I would do the girl a favor by keeping on going and not telling her. Maybe not the smartest thing I’ve ever done in my life. ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/7 "2010-09-14T02:12:46Z")
Before the SO I made it clear to any partners that I couldn’t have more than one orgasm during a single normally timed sex session. I had a partner that liked to have sex for waaaaay longer than I could hold out. If he thought I had one he would try to finish quickly. So, a few times if I was one and done quickly, I would try to pretend I didn’t. But I am a woman and he usually called me on it later as it is difficult to hide those muscle contractions. ---
**Author:** ![Cyberhwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7993a0/32.png) [@Cyberhwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberhwk)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/8 "2010-09-14T04:46:21Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Is it really possible for males to do either one? Yes. 🙂 Similar situation as **Musicat**. TMI, naturally: My first time. Using protection. Things progress according to how many males’ first times go (read: extremely quickly). I know that sometimes if I try I can keep going if I really focus and try hard at it. I do. Ironically, I was then stuck and actually had to fake HAVING ONE, to get her to stop. Fun was had by all in the end though. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/9 "2010-09-14T06:36:36Z")
No, I haven’t, but I’ve had delayed ejaculations. You reach an emotional climax, then withdrawal occurs, the emotional climax is over . . . and then the semen just sort of quietly pumps out of the cock. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/10 "2010-09-14T08:22:55Z")
Not denied as in verbally, but I’ve masturbated during an exam to release tension and given a “so what? :halo:” look to the also-female TA who was giving me a “giiiiiirl! :rolleyes:” look. After all, the fact that she knew what I’d just done showed that she knew how to do it to 😛 I estimate that 10-20% of my college classmates did that at least once (that’s 20-40% of the girls); the guys never knew. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/11 "2010-09-14T08:32:46Z")
Many years ago, I dated a guy who thought one orgasm was plenty for any woman. So as soon as I would reach a climax, he would speed things up, to reach his. I really liked the guy, and had hopes of ‘educating’ him on these types of things, so sometimes I’d orgasm _very quietly_ so he wouldn’t know, and would keep going a while longer. I’ve got no idea whatever happened to that guy. He was a really nice guy, and I like to think he eventually married a woman who also thought one orgasm was plenty. ---
**Author:** ![Red\_Barchetta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/da6949/32.png) [@Red\_Barchetta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Red_Barchetta)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 8:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/12 "2010-09-14T08:44:37Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > I estimate that 10-20% of my college classmates did that at least once (that’s 20-40% of the girls); the guys never knew. Go on. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 8:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/13 "2010-09-14T08:50:25Z")
Er, yeah. When I was very much younger, and the one and only time I “suffered” from premature ejaculation and was really embarrassed, so I carried on. No condom, so I hoped she thought it was just that she was extra lubed up. Though now I look back on the incident, she probably didn’t. Luckily I was young enough to get my mojo back in two or three minutes and we finished in a reasonable style. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 9:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/14 "2010-09-14T09:38:02Z")
Yeah; It’s kind of like “don’t give them the first one” except that you do. ---
**Author:** ![Machine\_Elf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@Machine\_Elf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Machine_Elf)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/15 "2010-09-14T12:13:28Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Not denied as in verbally, but I’ve masturbated during an exam to release tension and given a “so what? :halo:” look to the also-female TA who was giving me a “giiiiiirl! :rolleyes:” look. After all, the fact that she knew what I’d just done showed that she knew how to do it to 😛 > > I estimate that 10-20% of my college classmates did that at least once (that’s 20-40% of the girls); the guys never knew. OK, so when this is going on, what signs should we guys be looking for? ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/16 "2010-09-14T12:14:52Z")
You should be concentrating on the test, of course. ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/17 "2010-09-14T13:06:31Z")
I used to go to titty bars quite a bit, over 10 years ago. I would get lap dances all the time, I wouldn’t “get off”, it was just enjoyable. Then one time, I’m getting a lap dance, and she was grinding _just right_… ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/18 "2010-09-14T13:37:59Z")
Before we were married, my wife and I would have make-out sessions (we weren’t having sex yet). She would orgasm and not tell me, because she was embarassed. She didn’t tell me until sometime after we were married. Never happened to me, though. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/19 "2010-09-14T13:57:20Z")
Sometimes, yeah. I’ve had a couple partners who were so “considerate” (can’t find a better word), they’d insist we stopped (or at least take a breather) when I came to let me enjoy the high, even if they hadn’t come themselves. Except I was much, much more interested in making \*them \*come, so… In my defense, I always owned up afterwards. [QUOTE=Nava] Not denied as in verbally, but I’ve masturbated during an exam to release tension [/QUOTE] … what. The. Fuck ?! ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/20 "2010-09-14T14:01:16Z")
> [@Musicat](#): > > Sort of. It was a _very_ long time ago, I was _very_ inexperienced, and I orgasmed but thought I would do the girl a favor by keeping on going and not telling her. > > Maybe not the smartest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Were you wearing a condom? I had a guy I was deflowering do that. And yes, he was wearing a condom at the time…:smack: [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672.md?page=2)