# Have you ever faked not having an orgasm? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 14, 2010, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672 "2010-09-14T01:07:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/21 "2010-09-14T14:51:20Z")
My initial response was “WTF,” so imagine my pleasure when I discovered that was an option. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/22 "2010-09-14T15:54:10Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > > [@Musicat](#): > > > > Sort of. It was a _very_ long time ago, I was _very_ inexperienced, and I orgasmed but thought I would do the girl a favor by keeping on going and not telling her. > > > > Maybe not the smartest thing I’ve ever done in my life. > > Were you wearing a condom? I had a guy I was deflowering do that. And yes, he was wearing a condom at the time…:smack: I don’t remember. Hey, I said it was a long time ago! Now that I think about it, going back even further before I had had real sex, I was dry humping a girl – both fully clothed – and I came, but was too embarrassed to let her know. For all I know, she did, too, and was equally embarrassed. Wouldn’t that be a kick? Onceuponatime, you didn’t talk about those things; they were just too intimate. ---
**Author:** ![MichaelEmouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/michaelemouse/32/101_2.png) [@MichaelEmouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelEmouse)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/23 "2010-09-14T15:59:13Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > You should be concentrating on the test, of course. Come on, betray the Sisterhood. It’s clenching thighs, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![multimediac17](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/839c29/32.png) [@multimediac17](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/multimediac17)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/24 "2010-09-14T16:02:25Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > My initial response was “WTF,” so **imagine my pleasure** when I discovered that was an option. Did you have a secret orgasm? ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/25 "2010-09-14T16:10:36Z")
…_No_… \ ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/26 "2010-09-14T17:36:20Z")
Yeah, ages ago. Combination of MDMA, sildenafil, and walking across town for a surprise booty call. “Did you come?” “No. Don’t stop.” ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/27 "2010-09-14T17:41:02Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Is it really possible for males to do either one? Sure. Condoms + being quiet. ---
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/28 "2010-09-14T17:57:15Z")
With my ex I occasionally would when we were using condoms. This was because she would throw a fit if I had an orgasm first. Of course if she had one first she would roll over and fall asleep. My god…why aren’t we still married??? ---
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/29 "2010-09-14T18:15:13Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > Is it really possible for males to do either one? Pocket pool. EDIT: Oops, I skimmed over the “intimately involved” portion of the original post. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/30 "2010-09-14T18:19:54Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Not denied as in verbally, but I’ve masturbated during an exam to release tension and given a “so what? :halo:” look to the also-female TA who was giving me a “giiiiiirl! :rolleyes:” look. After all, the fact that she knew what I’d just done showed that she knew how to do it to 😛 > > I estimate that 10-20% of my college classmates did that at least once (that’s 20-40% of the girls); the guys never knew. What the fuck school did you go to? Seriously. people do this? 10 - 20% of your classmates did this? In a class of 100 people, anyhwre between 10 and 20 people were masturbating during exams??? What kind of exam was it? Dang, I went to the wrong college. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/31 "2010-09-14T18:40:40Z")
**lorene** , there are ways for girls to masturbate by just sot of clenching down there but not actually touching themselves. I don’t know–I’ve never done it myself. **Nava** , if you were doing it in such a way that she could tell–like making weird faces or whatever–that does seem pretty skeevy. ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/32 "2010-09-14T18:42:33Z")
Ah, memories of my young and innocent days. I was maybe 20 or so and not very experienced. During a very passionate make-out session with a girl I had just started dating (it may even have been our first date, I don’t recall), she climbed onto my lap and started grinding. Before long, yep, it happened. I was kind of embarrased and tried not to let on, but I’m pretty sure she knew. Later, when I became more… acquainted with this particular girl’s sex drive, I realized that, of course, that’s exactly what she was _trying_ to do! Duh!! ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/33 "2010-09-14T18:47:51Z")
Yes, I have. Ever read Cecil’s article ( [http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/2549/can-some-people-have-orgasms-without-genital-stimulation](http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/2549/can-some-people-have-orgasms-without-genital-stimulation) ) about psychic orgasms? I’m the foot pain person. Made for a few interesting work days. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/34 "2010-09-14T19:10:19Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > **lorene** , there are ways for girls to masturbate by just sot of clenching down there but not actually touching themselves. I don’t know–I’ve never done it myself. Oh, I get that. I just didn’t realize that while I was trying to write an essay on cultural competency versus diversity, other people were\* really enjoying the exam\*, y’know? ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/35 "2010-09-14T19:17:56Z")
I agree that that’s weird. It would never occur to me to want to rub one out during a test. That’s a time where I don’t really feel all that sexy or horny. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/36 "2010-09-14T19:46:24Z")
> [@treis](#): > > Another vote for WTF. Male. In my younger days I could often ejaculate and stay hard. But some partners, knowing you shot your wad, would automatically go into “post-mode”. Heck - anything worth doing can sometimes be worth overdoing so I would show little reactions and encourage “more more” usually taking care of them (sometimes again) in the process. Does that explanation help? ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/37 "2010-09-14T20:26:23Z")
> [@Cyberhwk](#): > > > [@BigT](#): > > > > Is it really possible for males to do either one? > > Yes. 🙂 Similar situation as **Musicat**. > > TMI, naturally: > > My first time. Using protection. Things progress according to how many males’ first times go (read: extremely quickly). I know that sometimes if I try I can keep going if I really focus and try hard at it. I do. Ironically, I was then stuck and actually had to fake HAVING ONE, to get her to stop. Fun was had by all in the end though. this always happened with me when I used protection. I don’t know what it was about those stupid things. ---
**Author:** ![Colophon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f05b48/32.png) [@Colophon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colophon)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2010, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/38 "2010-09-15T01:12:03Z")
> [@kopek](#): > > > [@treis](#): > > > > Another vote for WTF. > > Male. In my younger days I could often ejaculate and stay hard. But some partners, knowing you shot your wad, would automatically go into “post-mode”. Heck - anything worth doing can sometimes be worth overdoing so I would show little reactions and encourage “more more” usually taking care of them (sometimes again) in the process. Yes, exactly that. Still do it from time to time if the moment demands it. Then of course it’s unlikely you’ll reach orgasm number two, so you then have to fake that too (as **Cyberhwk** said) :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Munch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/munch/32/5281_2.png) [@Munch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Munch)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2010, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/39 "2010-09-15T02:03:03Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > I agree that that’s weird. It would never occur to me to want to rub one out during a test. That’s a time where I don’t really feel all that sexy or horny. It’s not really a sexy/horny feeling. It’s a fight/flight/fuck reaction. Cranking one out eliminates one of the possibilities and gets you to focus. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2010, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672/40 "2010-09-15T02:06:22Z")
I don’t think I’ve ever had a fight/flight/fuck reaction…ever. And I don’t think I’ve ever had a fight/flight reaction in an exam. I want to focus and finish the test up, but I don’t think I’d even be thinking about masturbation at a time like that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-faked-not-having-an-orgasm/553672.md?page=3)