# Have you ever had sex with or in front of a larger group of people at a party or club? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 2, 2010, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426 "2010-09-02T20:42:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2010, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/81 "2010-09-08T23:23:58Z")
> [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > > [@Czarcasm](#): > > > > Swinging is sex with various others you are not committed to. Group sex is sex with a group of people at the same time, with the strong possibility that you will have relations with more than one person during the same session. > > I fail to see a practical difference. 1. “Hi there, Sweetcheeks-want to come over to my place for a drink?” 2. “Hi there, Sweetcheeks-mind if I join in?” ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2010, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/82 "2010-09-09T01:18:44Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > What? And you won’t tell us? Damn you! I was exercising some restraint. (…sadly, so were they.) ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2010, 9:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/83 "2010-09-09T09:42:54Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > > [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > > > I fail to see a practical difference. > > 1. “Hi there, Sweetcheeks-want to come over to my place for a drink?” > 2. “Hi there, Sweetcheeks-mind if I join in?” Oh - I see. I assumed you were referring to swinging where a couple goes to a party and they team up with other people, which would naturally be group sex. Isn’t option 1 there just an open relationship? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2010, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/84 "2010-09-09T15:47:28Z")
> [@Small\_Hen](#): > > I gave a blowjob to, and had sex with, a guy I didn’t know on someone’s apartment balcony during a party - there were about 30 people there. It was a terrible mistake - I feel humilated just thinking of it. Did you get caught halfway, or were they all watching when you started? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2010, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/85 "2010-09-09T16:12:44Z")
> [@toofs](#): > > This should have been broken up by sexual orientation, as it seems the gay guys are getting way more kinky action than the straights. Yes, but my “kinky action” ended in 1987. Not that I’ve given up “kinky action,” but I only have it with one person. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/86 "2010-09-10T06:06:16Z")
> [@toofs](#): > > This should have been broken up by sexual orientation, as it seems the gay guys are getting way more kinky action than the straights. There’s a simple explanation for that. Men are easy. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 9:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/87 "2010-09-10T09:47:04Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > > [@toofs](#): > > > > This should have been broken up by sexual orientation, as it seems the gay guys are getting way more kinky action than the straights. > > There’s a simple explanation for that. Men are easy. More to the point, they don’t even consider that they should be anything otherwise. Getting sex is what men _do_. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/88 "2010-09-10T12:43:35Z")
> [@Fried\_Dough\_Ho](#): > > 46 year old female here – the late 80s were a time of lots of orgies and whatnot… I’m pondering what the “whatnot” implies… “Hey, Bill, how was that orgy at Sam’s last weekend?” “Pfft. It wasn’t an orgy - barely a whatnot, in my opinion.” 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426/89 "2010-09-10T13:56:27Z")
I think I’ll do a [follow on poll](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=577750)to see if we can get a further understanding of the demographic that responded affirmatively to this poll. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-had-sex-with-or-in-front-of-a-larger-group-of-people-at-a-party-or-club/552426.md?page=4)