# Have you ever regretted being an attractive woman?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-regretted-being-an-attractive-woman/700855>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [October 9, 2014, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-regretted-being-an-attractive-woman/700855 "2014-10-09T12:27:51Z")\
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**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\
**Post date:** [October 17, 2014, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-regretted-being-an-attractive-woman/700855/101 "2014-10-17T01:38:18Z")

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> [@PunditLisa](#):
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> Now, perhaps it’s arrogant to assume that the girlfriends/wives had this extreme reaction because I happen(ed) to be more attractive than they are/were. But the only other explanation is that they believe men cannot to be platonic friends with ANYONE wielding a vagina, be they a Cyclops or a Granny or a supermodel, for fear that their SOs simply cannot control their penises around vaginas. And that would make them even more batshit insane than they already are.

Why is that not a plausible explanation? I’ve met plenty of women who are forever paranoid about their boyfriends/husbands are going to cheat on them the minute their backs are turned, regardless of who the woman is. And men. It’s not all that uncommon, unfortunately.

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**Author:** ![Lowdown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Lowdown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lowdown)\
**Post date:** [October 17, 2014, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-regretted-being-an-attractive-woman/700855/102 "2014-10-17T19:33:34Z")

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As a dude, I have no idea how you deal with it. I’m pretty up there in attractiveness, and I have gay friends. So every once in a while I’ll find myself in a gay bar meeting them for a drink after work or whatever, and I get ogled the whole friggin’ time. I’m like, Jesus Christ you guys I’m just getting up to order a beer! Then I think about how women have to deal with this shit all day every day.

I don’t mind women looking me over, I’m sure partly because they’re more my type, but mostly because they’re not so skeevy about it. At least, that’s my impression. I could be making the whole thing up.

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**Author:** ![HogarthP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/dbc845/32.png) [@HogarthP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HogarthP)\
**Post date:** [October 18, 2014, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-regretted-being-an-attractive-woman/700855/103 "2014-10-18T18:16:09Z")

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_waves_

I’m not particularly attractive, especially considering my age group (twenties). I still occasionally get some unwanted attention, though, and can imagine what it must be like if I were more attractive.

It’s odd to think about as it really is a double-edged sword; I used to (and still do occasionally) really struggle with being jealous of my ‘hot’ friends, who would walk into the pub or wherever and immediately get attention. But then they would all complain about it, about how some men automatically seemed to think they’d be pretty easy.

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