# Have you ever... (sexual attraction to family members/underage) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 22, 2009, 8:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297 "2009-08-22T08:11:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/21 "2009-08-22T18:40:37Z")
> [@Claude\_Remains](#): > > Let me clarify… > Ever seen an ass that you thought “holy jebus that’s fuckin hot” only it was a family member? lots of guys have sister-in-laws like that. makes holidays hard for them. just keep saying in your mind, “think unsexy thoughts, think unsexy thoughts” ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tao_s_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/22 "2009-08-22T21:45:27Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > lots of guys have sister-in-laws like that. makes holidays hard for them. just keep saying in your mind, “think unsexy thoughts, think unsexy thoughts” I see what you did there. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2009, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/23 "2009-08-22T21:58:37Z")
You know you’re getting old as a high school teacher when none of your students do a thing for you, but some of their moms are **hawt!!** 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/24 "2009-08-23T00:19:04Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > You know you’re getting old as a high school teacher when none of your students do a thing for you, but some of their moms are **hawt!!** 😃 You need to seek help. You’re letting reality cloud your judgement. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/25 "2009-08-23T00:45:00Z")
Yes, I have several cousins who all have quite the hotness factor going on. Purely eye candy… nothing more. ---
**Author:** ![Lumpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lumpy/32/446_2.png) [@Lumpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lumpy)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/26 "2009-08-23T00:48:01Z")
I believe I once posted here about a friend’s eighteen month-old daughter who decided to put on an uninhibited masturbatory display while we were gaming. I’d have been put in jail just for my _thoughts_ if telepathy were real. And no I don’t fixate on little girls, it’s just… wanton female is wanton female. I am _so_ going to Hell… ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/27 "2009-08-23T01:08:57Z")
I’m not attracted to young girls. I sure was when I was young myself, but that was a long time ago (I’m 50 now), and I can’t imagine having a conversation with a 17 year old. Or a 25 year old. 35 seems to be where my cutoff is. As to family members, well, maybe. My father has a sister (my aunt, obviously). She’s very much younger than him. Actually just a hair closer to my age than his. She is one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen in my life. And the smartest, and most interesting, and just about everything good you can imagine in a woman. I had a major crush on her for years and years. But again, that was a while back. I’m older now, the family is a bit more spread out, and we al live in different cities, and I don’t see as much of her (and the rest of my family) as I’d like to. And I’m married now, and very much in love with my wife. ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/28 "2009-08-23T02:21:52Z")
> [@Lumpy](#): > > I believe I once posted here about a friend’s eighteen month-old daughter who decided to put on an uninhibited masturbatory display while we were gaming. I’d have been put in jail just for my _thoughts_ if telepathy were real. And no I don’t fixate on little girls, it’s just… wanton female is wanton female. > I am _so_ going to Hell… To perceive her as a wanton female is unbelievably wrong. No matter what she is doing. Did her parents stop her, or just let you enjoy the show for a while? ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/29 "2009-08-23T03:22:15Z")
> [@Lumpy](#): > > I believe I once posted here about a friend’s eighteen month-old daughter who decided to put on an uninhibited masturbatory display while we were gaming. I’d have been put in jail just for my _thoughts_ if telepathy were real. And no I don’t fixate on little girls, it’s just… wanton female is wanton female. > I am _so_ going to Hell… Perhaps if her gamer mom and/or dad realized that their 18 month old daughter was extremely wet and/or soiled the child would have not had to remove her own diaper. I promise you, your fantasies aside…that kid was not being wanton, she was uncomfortable. She was being neglected. Let me guess WOW? ---
**Author:** ![TurboNuke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f19dbf/32.png) [@TurboNuke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TurboNuke)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/30 "2009-08-23T06:11:45Z")
Anyone else do this? I commute home through a couple of small towns. Often school is letting out, so I see young girls walking along the road. Everyone likes pretty girls so I take a look. I’m 41 years old my eyesight is getting a little fuzzy. It usually goes like this. Hmm, look a girl with long hair, some hips, might be ok looking getting closer, damnit she’s 12. Of course since I don’t see so well, I’m staring a bit. I’m worried if someone will see me and think Im staring at 12 year olds on purpose. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![LunaticFringette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/fbc32d/32.png) [@LunaticFringette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LunaticFringette)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 6:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/31 "2009-08-23T06:21:05Z")
> [@Lumpy](#): > > I believe I once posted here about a friend’s eighteen month-old daughter who decided to put on an uninhibited masturbatory display while we were gaming. I’d have been put in jail just for my _thoughts_ if telepathy were real. And no I don’t fixate on little girls, it’s just… wanton female is wanton female. > I am _so_ going to Hell… wanton female is NOT wanton female when it’s an 18 mo old **BABY** ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 7:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/32 "2009-08-23T07:21:42Z")
Perhaps he meant 18 **year** old. I hope so. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/33 "2009-08-23T08:08:17Z")
Dudes-I hope any of you that admit this know it will be thrown in your face some PIT thread later where you will be called a pedophile. ---
**Author:** ![Lumpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lumpy/32/446_2.png) [@Lumpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lumpy)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/34 "2009-08-23T12:15:37Z")
The original post in question: > **[INTENSELY embarrassing episode with a precocious toddler](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=137802)** > > Twice a month I play AD&D with a group of guys at the GM’s home. He’s married and he and his wife have a daughter going on two years old. The other night we were there his wife was out with friends and he was looking after his daughter (lots of... ---
**Author:** ![parthenokinesis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/cc9497/32.png) [@parthenokinesis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/parthenokinesis)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/35 "2009-08-23T14:10:46Z")
> [@erislover](#): > > Frankly I assume this goes for everyone unless they suggest otherwise. It’s perfectly normal. My assumption is this applies to something near but not equal to half the population. ---
**Author:** ![BMax](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bmax/32/4267_2.png) [@BMax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMax)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/36 "2009-08-23T15:32:34Z")
Yes, I notice teenage girls when they reach sexual maturity, ie, when they get hips and breasts. This usually happens between 14 & 17 years old. I appreciate that they are sexually attractive but I try not to stare noticeably. I never try to chat them up or approach them in any other way. I feel absolutely zero guilt over my thoughts and natural attraction. I’m actually kind of proud of my high libido. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/37 "2009-08-23T16:01:51Z")
> [@Dragwyr](#): > > Yes, I have several cousins who all have quite the hotness factor going on. Purely eye candy… nothing more. Ditto, but for my nieces, who are now both over 18 and have developed… nicely. Involuntarily lustful thoughts, resolutely never acted on, are nothing to be ashamed of. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/38 "2009-08-23T19:46:50Z")
> [@keturah](#): > > Perhaps if her gamer mom and/or dad realized that their 18 month old daughter was extremely wet and/or soiled the child would have not had to remove her own diaper. I promise you, your fantasies aside…that kid was not being wanton, she was uncomfortable. She was being neglected. Let me guess WOW? I think that to enjoy an 18 month old masturbating is creepy. Like, I actually shuddered when I read that first post. But why do you assume she was wet/soiled and that’s why she removed her diaper? Kids that young can and do masturbate. I was only a little older when I started. ---
**Author:** ![supergoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@supergoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supergoose)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/39 "2009-08-23T20:38:26Z")
Now that the original post has been linked to, we can also put to rest the assumption that she removed her diaper at all. He said she just stuck her hands down it. (Just providing information. I too find it creepy.) ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2009, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297/40 "2009-08-23T20:49:02Z")
> [@supergoose](#): > > Now that the original post has been linked to, we can also put to rest the assumption that she removed her diaper at all. He said she just stuck her hands down it. > > (Just providing information. I too find it creepy.) Yeah. I mean, I definitely masturbated at a little older than that, and I don’t think it’s good to tell girls or boys that they’re bad to touch themselves. Tell them it’s normal and healthy and that it’s for private alone time and that no one else gets to touch you down there–that’s all good. Though if I saw a little kid masturbating, it would be kind of weird, but on the level of the dog doing it weird. Not like, “I’m titillated because it’s a wanton female…but she’s three…but she’s a wanton female.” The hell? This isn’t the same as a woman rubbing up against you trying to turn you on. Glad to know I wasn’t the only one who got a little nauseated reading that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-sexual-attraction-to-family-members-underage/507297.md?page=3)