# Have you ever wanted to be of a different sexuality **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 21, 2004, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452 "2004-10-21T18:25:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/1 "2004-10-21T18:25:24Z")
Has there ever been a time in your life when you would rather have been of a different sexuality than you were? Thinking of sexuality as homosexual,bi-sexual,heterosexual, asexual, but other types may be considered also. If a genii would offer you the chance to change your sexuality and that the change would be reversable any time you wanted, would you be interested in trying out a different sexuality? ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/2 "2004-10-21T18:48:03Z")
I doubt there’s any queer person who could honestly say, while growing up with the mountains of crap that get routinely dumped on gay people, that they haven’t at some point wished they were straight. I know I did. Would I change now? Hell no. If for no other reason than I revel in knowing that my very existence pisses some people off. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/3 "2004-10-21T18:48:23Z")
No, who would want to be gay? No rights, no respect, no privileges. It’s a sad life, unfortunately. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Saintly\_Loser](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/saintly_loser/32/4045_2.png) [@Saintly\_Loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saintly_Loser)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/4 "2004-10-21T18:52:34Z")
> [@Bippy the Beardless](#): > > If a genii would offer you the chance to change your sexuality and that the change would be reversable any time you wanted, would you be interested in trying out a different sexuality? Absolutely. I mean, who wouldn’t? It would be a great chance to see the world from a different point of view. ---
**Author:** ![Poonther](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Poonther](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poonther)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/5 "2004-10-21T19:00:10Z")
> [@Elenia28](#): > > No, who would want to be gay? No rights, no respect, no privileges. It’s a sad life, unfortunately. ☹ HUH? I’m a lot of things, but I’m not sad…except when my dog passed away. I really agree with **Otto** that in my formative years I’d have preferred to have been Str8 (I grew up in rural Alabama) but now I like being gay and would not change it for anything. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/6 "2004-10-21T19:18:39Z")
I grew up straight and am now bi so I think I got the best of both worlds, really. As a young teen, I didn’t have all the nagging fears that I assume comes with realizing you’re inherently different (I did a bit when I was 17-19 but it was easier to handle then as it would have at 11-13) and now, I can appreciate the beauty of both sexes. Win/win for me so no. I like my orientation. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/7 "2004-10-21T19:20:14Z")
I didn’t mean sad all the time or every minute, **Poonther**. What I was trying to say, without going into so much detail, was it’s sad because of the way gays are treated. Obviously I didn’t succeed. ---
**Author:** ![Jervoise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d2c977/32.png) [@Jervoise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jervoise)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/8 "2004-10-21T19:23:45Z")
> [@Otto](#): > > I doubt there’s any queer person who could honestly say, while growing up with the mountains of crap that get routinely dumped on gay people, that they haven’t at some point wished they were straight. I know I did. FWIW, I did not (and still don’t). Sometimes I’d fancy having a wife and kids and a picket fence, but I like my life as is. Some of the freedoms I have, I’d miss if I had to live straight. ---
**Author:** ![Podkayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Podkayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Podkayne)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/9 "2004-10-21T19:34:27Z")
I’m a bit disappointed in myself for not being bi. It seems so _irrational_ of me to exclude women as objects of sexual interest. But girls just do not float my boat, sadly. ---
**Author:** ![Sofis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@Sofis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sofis)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/10 "2004-10-21T20:40:28Z")
Being bisexual would suit various of my attitudes much better than my current gynosexuality. ---
**Author:** ![tremorviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@tremorviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tremorviolet)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/11 "2004-10-21T20:50:25Z")
I used to think it’d be so much _easier_ to be a lesbian. I don’t totally _get_ guys. But my lesbian freinds seem to have just as much trouble with dating as I do. I still think it’d be really fun to be a gay man for a while tho’… ---
**Author:** ![SolGrundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bbce88/32.png) [@SolGrundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SolGrundy)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/12 "2004-10-21T21:14:55Z")
What **Otto** said, except for the pissing people off part. For a _long_ time, I really, really, really wanted to be straight. Now, I don’t mind it at all, and I definitely don’t want to change. And I wouldn’t go back in time and make myself straight, either. It was such a big deal to me for so long, and I would be a completely different person now if I hadn’t had to go through all that nonsense. ---
**Author:** ![Roland\_Orzabal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c2a13f/32.png) [@Roland\_Orzabal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roland_Orzabal)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/13 "2004-10-21T21:42:50Z")
Oh, God, yes. Many times, my best friend and I have mutually lamented the fact that neither of us is gay. It would make life _so_ very much easier…we get along perfectly, communicate as close to perfectly as two people can, have similar interests and tastes, etc. The only problem is that we’re, well…not. At all. No physical attraction. We’ve talked about it, and the thought, while ideologically pleasing, is physically and emotionally repulsive. Instead, we’re both stuck looking for a girl who fits in with (and can tolerate) our less-than-common personalities and mindsets. Let me tell you how successful _that’s_ been. Of course, it could be a whole lot worse…what if one of us was gay, and the other wasn’t interested? That would suck. Thankfully, that, at least, is not the case. ---
**Author:** ![11811](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/9d8465/32.png) [@11811](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/11811)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/14 "2004-10-21T22:29:15Z")
I met this really hot gay woman through friends of mine… She makes me want to be a lesbian. As it is, I’m a hetero man. Other than that, I’m fine with hetero ---
**Author:** ![kelly5078](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/6f9a4e/32.png) [@kelly5078](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kelly5078)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/15 "2004-10-21T22:31:33Z")
Only if I were turned into a woman first. ---
**Author:** ![Pride\_of\_the\_Peaches](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Pride\_of\_the\_Peaches](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pride_of_the_Peaches)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/16 "2004-10-21T22:36:20Z")
I’m a straight female but I kinda wish I was bi just . . . because, I suppose. Porn would be way better anyway, and my dating pool would open up a little. ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2004, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/17 "2004-10-21T22:53:31Z")
For myself, I think being gay for a while would be great fun, but then again I live near liberal San Francisco. I also wonder if asexuality wouldn’t be somewhat plesant, I mean not having to wory about sexual relationships at all would leave much more time for other things. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/18 "2004-10-22T04:01:52Z")
Sometimes I think I’d really like to be asexual. I’d be free of crushes and all that. Otherwise, I think being bisexual suits me just fine. I like to look at all the attractive folk that go by, since looking is all I get to do lately. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/19 "2004-10-22T04:10:12Z")
I’ve often considered being a lesbian. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452/20 "2004-10-22T04:28:09Z")
I never accepted my gayness (gaiety?) til my mid-30s. In all the years before that, I often had the idea of someday getting some kind of therapy that would make me straight. Yeah, right. Now, I’d like to experience - just once - what it’s like to be a lesbian, since being a woman and loving a women are so foreign to who I am. The only thing I’d never want to be is a straight man. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-ever-wanted-to-be-of-a-different-sexuality/270452.md?page=2)