# Have you flirted with somebody you probably shouldn't have?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [February 3, 2010, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601 "2010-02-03T23:04:24Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Harmonious\_Discord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harmonious_Discord)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/1 "2010-02-03T23:04:24Z")
Post stories if you feel like sharing.
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### Author:  [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/2 "2010-02-03T23:10:33Z")
Every day.
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### Author:  [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/3 "2010-02-03T23:12:56Z")
Flirting is not something I do.
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### Author:  [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/4 "2010-02-03T23:24:41Z")
A couple of gay guys’ wives.
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### Author:  [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/5 "2010-02-03T23:41:03Z")
The great thing about flirting is that it’s acceptable even when you’re married.
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### Author:  [@Gestalt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gestalt)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/6 "2010-02-03T23:44:41Z")
A couple of times, I knew that male friends of mine were interested in me romantically, and I knew that the feeling was not reciprocal. However, I guess enjoying the attention, I would flirt with them and generally act in a coquettish feminine manner. This was probably not good of me, as I feel I was leading them on.
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### Author:  [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/7 "2010-02-03T23:57:35Z")
> [@PunditLisa](#):
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> The great thing about flirting is that it’s acceptable even when you’re married.
Yes! Who shouldn’t you flirt with (children and animals aside)?
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### Author:  [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)
#### Post date: [February 3, 2010, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/8 "2010-02-03T23:59:01Z")
No. I am barely capable of flirting in ideal circumstances (ie someone I want to date), and for 5 years I haven’t done it at all because I’m in a LTR and it would feel disrespectful to my partner.
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### Author:  [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/9 "2010-02-04T00:49:45Z")
Nope. I don’t know how to flirt. I’m still learning how to be social in general.
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### Author:  [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 1:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/10 "2010-02-04T01:18:52Z")
Yes, with an attractive redhead who later turned out to be my female boss’s partner. Now that’s a whoops and a half.
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### Author:  [@statsman1982](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/statsman1982)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/11 "2010-02-04T01:23:58Z")
Yes, definitely. I flirted with this person for quite some time, although I convinced myself that I wasn’t by some convoluted, illogical line of reasoning.
It led to a one-night stand.
It cost me dearly.
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### Author:  [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/12 "2010-02-04T01:27:45Z")
Yep. I’m great at flirting with girls who are interested in me but I don’t want to date. It’s not so much a problem now that I’m not single, but when I was, I led a couple girls on more than I should have. I feel bad about it now.
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### Author:  [@Balthisar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Balthisar)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/13 "2010-02-04T02:16:09Z")
I’m good at flirting with people I know I couldn’t possibly ever get, even if I weren’t married. I guess it works as practice for my backup plan.
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### Author:  [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/14 "2010-02-04T03:10:16Z")
I love to flirt and I used to be pretty good at it. But I doubt I’ll ever flirt again.
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### Author:  [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/15 "2010-02-04T03:21:21Z")
Why shouldn’t I have?
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### Author:  [@Kyla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyla)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/16 "2010-02-04T03:33:38Z")
In my defense (?), I was totally wasted.
Several years ago, an ex-boyfriend got in touch with me several years after I had dumped him and totally broke his heart into a million pieces. I felt like shit about it for ages because he’d been a good friend first and he was genuinely a good guy, but it wouldn’t have worked for the long term and ugh, I feel shitty just thinking about it, even now. I thought maybe we could be buddies again now and I agreed to go out to out with him and a bunch of friends to a bar. Where I got completely drunk and ended up flirting with…his best friend. For several hours.
I felt like the world’s biggest asshole the next morning.
My ex-bf didn’t contact me again for another couple years.
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### Author:  [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/17 "2010-02-04T03:47:03Z")
> [@LouisB](#):
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> I love to flirt and I used to be pretty good at it. But I doubt I’ll ever flirt again.
I think you’re still a bit of a flirt. 😉
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### Author:  [@Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuzzy_Dunlop)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/18 "2010-02-04T03:47:14Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#):
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> Yes! Who shouldn’t you flirt with (children and animals aside)?
Well you shouldn’t flirt with employees or even worse, someone impressionable and inexperienced like an intern. I’ve done both and although I don’t think I ever made anyone uncomfortable I really shouldn’t do it. I can talk to someone professionally for hours and hours and it doesn’t make one bit of difference if they’re a man or woman but when I interact on a social level I eventually break down and flirt. It’s instinct!
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### Author:  [@Raguleader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Raguleader)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/19 "2010-02-04T04:26:40Z")
I’ve flirted with a couple of female NCO’s and officers (junior enlisted here), but most of the time it was because I did not know yet that they were NCOs or officers (PT gear has no rank on it, and the Army uniforms don’t have rank you can read from the side).
That said, I disengage promptly once I realize the rank of who I am talking to.
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### Author:  [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)
#### Post date: [February 4, 2010, 7:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/have-you-flirted-with-somebody-you-probably-shouldnt-have/527601/20 "2010-02-04T07:41:30Z")
What, no option to answer both yes statements?
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