# He Won't Kiss Me **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 14, 2011, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542 "2011-01-14T00:47:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![DMark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@DMark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMark)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/41 "2011-01-15T17:35:45Z")
Herpes? ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/42 "2011-01-15T17:46:43Z")
Kissing is one of the great joys of life, IMO; if he refuses to give you what you want and need and will not give you a straight answer as to why, drop him like a hot rock. A puppy would be a big improvement over what you have now. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/43 "2011-01-15T17:49:11Z")
> [@DianaG](#): > > For serious. > > You want something. He won’t give it to you. \*\*Who cares why? \*\* You either want him enough to live without kissing, or you want kissing enough to find someone else. > > For what it’s worth, I’d strongly advise choosing the latter. My biggest waste of time ever in relationships (and even in life) is trying to figure out why Man X does Thing Y. So I agree. Not once have I ever figured it out and had it do any good. And usually I don’t even figure it out. Like I said, I am not a big fan of kissing either. But I’ll still do it for the man, and if he wants to talk about why it’s not my favorite activity ever, then I’ll talk about it (even though it makes me uncomfortable). ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/44 "2011-01-15T17:51:23Z")
> [@SecretaryofEvil](#): > > I’m going to disagree with pretty much everybody else in this thread. Kissing does not equal emotional intimacy. To _some_ people. To others it does. I don’t know exactly what is going on in this guy’s head, but I’ve known two people who did this, one a guy, one a girl. In the case of the guy’s part, the guy and his ex-girlfriend hooked up and had a brief affair (at least one of the two was in another relationship) years after they stopped dating. They had previously been in a perfectly normal, kissing relationship. The guy had sex with the woman, but refused to get into any kissing, presumably to maintain a bit of emotional and intimate distance. The other one was a girl I dated. It eventually turned into a normal relationship, but the first few times we fooled around, she wouldn’t kiss me. It was some sort of emotional issue for her–she was leaving the country soon and didn’t seem to want to get emotionally attached. Anyhow, eventually we kissed, and then the relationship proceeded in a normal manner, but it was odd and frustrating, to say the least. So, yeah, to some people, it does equate with emotional intimacy. To _me_ it certainly does. ---
**Author:** ![pezworld](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bb73d2/32.png) [@pezworld](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pezworld)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/45 "2011-01-15T19:13:00Z")
[Hey kids, hate to burst your bubble, but she’s seeking advice all over the internets (to spam her URL, methinks).](http://www.politicalstew.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=95286) (Helpful boyfriend found this post.) Nice board you have here. Luv, Pez (a Stew mod) ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/46 "2011-01-15T19:24:03Z")
No kidding. At least 3 other places too… [http://forums.nonewbs.com/showpost.php?p=9776191&postcount=4](http://forums.nonewbs.com/showpost.php?p=9776191&postcount=4) [http://www.unleashedarcade.net/viewtopic.php?t=48](http://www.unleashedarcade.net/viewtopic.php?t=48) ---
**Author:** ![may\_be\_ignorant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c5a1d2/32.png) [@may\_be\_ignorant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/may_be_ignorant)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/47 "2011-01-15T19:37:52Z")
> [@minlokwat](#): > > I mean this with all due respect –seriously- but might it be a question of bad breath? As in yours perhaps. > > Just a thought. Evidently there are folks walking around with nary a thought that their exhalations could –what’s the expression?—knock a buzzard off of a shit wagon. > > Really. Some weeks ago my wife and I were out and about and both noticed the occasion waft of a dank, shit-smelling reek. We determined it was some guy a full ten feet away from us casually chatting it up with his companion. We had no idea how either could tolerate such an existence. But I digress. > > Again I am not trying to be an ass but it’s worth at least a cursory consideration. This may be it, but its probably this: > [@](#): > > The ONLY time i’ve heard of this no kissing thing is when a guy is having sex with a girl he doesn’t find attractive. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/48 "2011-01-15T19:51:48Z")
Ask someone if you have bad breath. Someone who will tell you the truth. As for your boyfriend, dump him. Cuz he is either a selfish turd or won’t tell you that you have bad breath. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2011, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542/49 "2011-01-15T19:52:45Z")
> [@pezworld](#): > > [Hey kids, hate to burst your bubble, but she’s seeking advice all over the internets (to spam her URL, methinks).](http://www.politicalstew.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=95286) > > (Helpful boyfriend found this post.) > > Nice board you have here. > > Luv, Pez (a Stew mod) > [@Morgenstern](#): > > No kidding. At least 3 other places too… > [http://forums.nonewbs.com/showpost.php?p=9776191&postcount=4](http://forums.nonewbs.com/showpost.php?p=9776191&postcount=4) > [http://www.unleashedarcade.net/viewtopic.php?t=48](http://www.unleashedarcade.net/viewtopic.php?t=48) Thanks. Since the user disappeared after posting the OP and hasn’t been back since, I’ll lock this thread and ban the user. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/he-wont-kiss-me/567542.md?page=2)