# Help me build a Sex Box. (Gals and non-slobbery guys only) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 4, 2001, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858 "2001-12-04T17:25:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![magdalene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df788c/32.png) [@magdalene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/magdalene)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/1 "2001-12-04T17:25:17Z")
A good friend of mine is 34, and she does not know if she’s ever had an orgasm. She’s had a fair amount of lovers and enjoys sex very much. We had a frank talk about masturbation, and I told her that I had trouble with the big O until I learned how to create it myself. One of the things that helped me in my quest was the surprise arrival of a Sex Box, sent parcel post by my lover at the time. He went on a shopping spree at Good Vibrations in San Francisco, consulted with the nice ladies who run the place, and bought me a little of everything. Some things were strictly for laughs or designed for use with a (kinky) partner, and some have become Maggie’s trusted little helpers. I want to make a similar box for my friend. For the basics, I’m thinking: Jelly vibe Waterproof massager or vibe for tub or shower Silicone dildo Lube What else should I throw in there? Some Anne Rice erotica? An Anais Nin reader? A copy of the film _Bound_ (I’m straight, but Gina Gershon never fails to do it for me). Aren’t there some books like Sex for One out there? Any other toys or notions you can suggest? What would be in YOUR ideal sex box? See, don’t you all want to be my friends now? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![belladonna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9fc29f/32.png) [@belladonna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/belladonna)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/2 "2001-12-04T17:48:46Z")
**magdalene** –you’re a good woman ::wipes tear from eye:: Will you be my friend too? 🙂 As for your box, I’d definitely throw in some erotica writings. That flushed, squirmy, can’t wait to turn the page feeling is delicious, and should lead to interesting things, especially if your friend has trouble getting “in the mood” for self-love. Anal beads and Ben Wa balls can be fun too, depending on how open-minded your pal is. Also, maybe you could include a catalogue from an adult toy supplier, so your friend can browse a little after she’s tried what you supply. Good luck! bella ---
**Author:** ![Inky\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7feea3/32.png) [@Inky\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inky_1)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/3 "2001-12-04T18:02:04Z")
For fun, throw in a few things that will _really_ get her confused! For instance: [ul][li]A jar of hot mustard.[/li][li]A feather duster.[/li][li]A length of barb wire.[/li][li]A rubber fish.[/li][li]A plastic dropcloth.[/li][li]An oversized zucchini.[/li][li]An eggbeater.[/li]A priest collar/nun’s habit[/ul] ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/4 "2001-12-04T18:08:32Z")
An 8 inch piece of PVC pipe for use as a gerbilling tube is always fun for beginners. ---
**Author:** ![LiquidLobotomy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/898d66/32.png) [@LiquidLobotomy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LiquidLobotomy)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/5 "2001-12-04T18:09:18Z")
You might also want to consider getting a massage attachment for the shower. There’s all kinds of them out there, and most are small enough to include in a medium to large size box. If that fails tell her to mount her washer/dryer and set it on heavy load. ---
**Author:** ![jmonster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dbc845/32.png) [@jmonster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jmonster)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/6 "2001-12-04T18:23:51Z")
One of them fancy pyrex dildos. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/7 "2001-12-04T18:27:47Z")
A plastic dropcloth? Aw man, that’s rich. ---
**Author:** ![Scylla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a5b964/32.png) [@Scylla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scylla)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/8 "2001-12-04T18:32:42Z")
Livestock. ---
**Author:** ![Globe-trotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cab0a1/32.png) [@Globe-trotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Globe-trotter)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/9 "2001-12-04T18:43:21Z")
Now you’re what I call a great pal, Mags! Your friend is bound (ha!) to love the box. Hell, I love it myself. I strongly suggest Anaïs Nin. Let me put it this way: it works. 😃 How about chocolate? That’ll put her in the mood, too. You seem to have covered all the bases, it’s a great ‘start-up kit’. And just to be practical: plenty of batteries. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/10 "2001-12-04T18:43:35Z")
… pyrex? ---
**Author:** ![Parisx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bb73d2/32.png) [@Parisx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Parisx)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/11 "2001-12-04T18:47:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by magdalene \* \*\* I 've got everything I need in the kitchen. ---
**Author:** ![Why\_A\_Duck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/13edae/32.png) [@Why\_A\_Duck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_A_Duck)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/12 "2001-12-04T18:51:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ethilrist \* > \*\*… pyrex? \*\* For that freezer to oven to table convenience! Wait, what were we talking about again? [Emily Litella]Never mind[.Emily Litella] Howza bout a good porn film? ---
**Author:** ![magdalene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df788c/32.png) [@magdalene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/magdalene)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/13 "2001-12-04T18:58:51Z")
I wonder if this counts as my community service under the SDMB Holiday Challenge. > [@](#): > > and Ben Wa balls can be fun too, depending on how open-minded your pal is. **belladonna** , a pair of these were in my original Sex Box, and I just don’t get them. Can you explain? **Inky-** , all that plus safety goggles. **Scylla** - Ick. Ew. Ewe. **LiquidLobotomy** , I need to get one of those for ME! Excellent idea, although are they easily bought without knowing anything about the person’s shower? **Globie** , Anais Nin, rich dark chocolate, and batteries…I wonder what other things they left off those “be prepared!” lists in Girl Scouts. **Why A Duck** - can you recommend a porn film that would elicit arousal rather than laughter upon solo viewing? ---
**Author:** ![Pablito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ed655f/32.png) [@Pablito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pablito)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/14 "2001-12-04T18:59:23Z")
Well, masturbation guru Betty Dodson says don’t leave home without your Hitachi Magic Wand (check her website). I know you’ve already listed a massager, but your friend might need something with a little more staying power (plugs in rather than using batteries). I bought one for my wife and she loves it when I use it on her. Or recommend that she find a lover who will go down on her. I’ve found that cunnilingus will help even the most reluctant clitoris to stand up and have a fit. And remind her that it might take some time and the proper atmosphere: no distractions, time pressures, rug rats nearby, etc. ---
**Author:** ![AtomicBanana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@AtomicBanana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AtomicBanana)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/15 "2001-12-04T19:00:09Z")
I’ve got a great idea, you could put me in the box! I’m quite sure that would solve all of your friends problems. 😃 Oh wait…non-slobbery? Dammit! Nevermind… ---
**Author:** ![ejolen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce7236/32.png) [@ejolen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ejolen)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/16 "2001-12-04T19:03:26Z")
A bottle of a tasty, viscous fluid- maybe grape jelley- and a Black Lab. Nuff said. “here rover, here boy…” ---
**Author:** ![Zanshin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e274bd/32.png) [@Zanshin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zanshin)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/17 "2001-12-04T19:37:18Z")
**mags** , what about lingerie? I’m not talking the crotchless-panty, latex-and-leather variety necessarily, but something like a chemise or something that she can wear to put her in the mood and make her feel pretty without being over the top? Possibly some fragrant oils like patchouli (if that isn’t too hackneyed)? ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/18 "2001-12-04T19:57:51Z")
a small candle would help set the mood a CD of some atmospheric music some incense bath salts My SO and I put together a “bag of tricks” and some of these things got included (in addition to the other playthings). ---
**Author:** ![jmonster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dbc845/32.png) [@jmonster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jmonster)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/19 "2001-12-04T19:59:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ethilrist \* > … pyrex? [http://www.pyrexdildos.com/](http://www.pyrexdildos.com/) (natch) ---
**Author:** ![Ayesha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c0e974/32.png) [@Ayesha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ayesha)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2001, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858/20 "2001-12-04T20:22:26Z")
This [http://www.discreetpleasures.com/Devinn\_Lanes\_Pearl\_Dolphin.html](http://www.discreetpleasures.com/Devinn_Lanes_Pearl_Dolphin.html) (There are no pictues on the page this lin goes to, only a written description ) I would like for a friend to send me one, even if I do own a blue BOB with a light in the tip. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-build-a-sex-box-gals-and-non-slobbery-guys-only/96858.md?page=2)