What are your long term goals for her? When she applies to colleges, are you seeing her filling out applications for Michigan State or Stanford?
Kind of crazy to think about that in regards to a four year-old, but it comes down to what you value the most for her: a top-notch but focused education with kids similar in goals and attitudes, or a good education with more diversity in both students and extra-curricular activities?
We went private (Catholic school) for our daughter and have never regretted it. Sophia has done nothing but blossomed in the environment and I’m prouder of her than I can say.