# Help me make it through the night... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 30, 2003, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249 "2003-06-30T00:09:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/1 "2003-06-30T00:09:46Z")
Hey guys and gals, Having passed my exams and just started on my incredibly long summer holiday, I was looking forward to some nice relaxing good times. Alas, it was not to be - a few hours ago my long term girlfriend broke up with me. Not entirely unexpected, but still highly unpleasant. Now I know this is for the best, neither of us was as happy as we should be and I am kinda glad it’s over and I can get on with my life. That doesn’t stop that horrible feeling in the pit of the stomach and the yawning emptiness of the night…all the fears and doubts creep in and by morning I’m usually reduced to a quivering puddle of lukewarm jelly. So I’m sending out a plea to anyone who feels my pain - words of encouragement, things to make me smile, sympathy, empathy, anything you got, I’m here all night… ---
**Author:** ![lightingtool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/57b2e6/32.png) [@lightingtool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lightingtool)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/2 "2003-06-30T00:12:41Z")
May I suggest a bottle of tequilla? Rum, perhaps? Ok, not the most helpful suggestions, but it’s a start. Just keep telling yourself that you’re better off, and know that this will pass, other fish in the sea, and so on. Good luck, and I’m sorry to hear things went sour for you and the other half. -tool ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/3 "2003-06-30T00:19:03Z")
I second **lightningtool** Get pissed. you deserve it. I hope that after a couple you’ll be concentrating on the long-term (having passed exams) rather than the short term (losing a girlfriend) DOn’t take this the wrong way - but losing a girlfriend is a trivial part of life’s tapestry. Passing exams is not. I expect she was waiting until you had finished your exams so as not to hurt your chances. She cared enough to do that (if it was the case). [sub]In the UK (and the Isle of Man) ‘pissed’ means drunk - for those confused Americans reading this post[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/4 "2003-06-30T00:21:31Z")
Keep telling yourself that the horrible feeling you are experiencing is temporary. Try to look at it as if someone else is feeling it. (being mindful) Imagine you are reading a book about your life, and this momentary depression is just one paragraph. ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/5 "2003-06-30T00:23:00Z")
Good advice, all apart from the drinking - I don’t drink, all part of the martial arts vibe, although I’ve gotta admit I came damn close about an hour ago ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/6 "2003-06-30T00:28:20Z")
If you don’t drink. Don’t start! I’ve known people who don’t drink/smoke to take it up temporarily during bad times, and then give up afterwards. but it’s too much of a risk. DOn’t risk it. If I were you I’d take my frustration out on something. Break something. Go for a run. Anythjing. ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/7 "2003-06-30T00:35:15Z")
Hmm…well I DO have the keys to the martial arts school - bricks and punchbags await my fury! On the other hand, waiting eagerly for replies to my little self pity thread is actually kinda relaxing. Maybe I’ll smash up bricks in the morning… ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/8 "2003-06-30T00:40:54Z")
What were you studying? Where at? (If you don’t mind me asking) ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/9 "2003-06-30T00:43:29Z")
University? Studying maths and physics, Warwick uni. Broken up for summer, got one year left in which I will actually, apparantly, have to do some work 🙂 Or perhaps you were asking about martial arts? ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/10 "2003-06-30T00:52:08Z")
Well no, but you can answer that too if you want. If I remember rightly you were studying a combination of different martial arts, at the Isle of Man something-or-other. ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/11 "2003-06-30T00:55:54Z")
You’re spot on, and I’m spending at least 4-5 hours a day down at the something-or-other (aka Martial Arts Academy) now that I’m home. BTW, why did you ask about my studying? ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/12 "2003-06-30T01:07:34Z")
Well you mentioned exams so I thought it would be something to talk about while we’re here. ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/13 "2003-06-30T01:09:33Z")
Ah, jolly good. On the subject of talking points, any seagulls crapped on your head lately?😉 ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/14 "2003-06-30T01:10:44Z")
No, but just yestarday one circled at least four times round me (above of course) I had some chips at the time. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/15 "2003-06-30T01:16:15Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by green\_dragon_ > Now I know this is for the best, neither of us was as happy as we should be Well, there you go then. You have to move beyond the people that aren’t right for you before you can get to the one who is! Trust me, I went through my share of doomed relationships, and they did hurt when they ended. But I’m now happily committed (20 years involved, 15 years married), and I never would have gotten to him if I hadn’t had the heartache of breaking up the relationships that weren’t working. If I’d married one of those guys, I’m sure I’d have been miserable! But here I am, all these years later, no regrets! No reason it can’t be the same for you. ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/16 "2003-06-30T01:17:05Z")
With mayo? Yes? Did you _order_ mayo? 😉 The thing I love about the sdmb is that it always makes me smile, no matter how shitty life is. ---
**Author:** ![Lobsang](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobsang/32/4067_2.png) [@Lobsang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobsang)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/17 "2003-06-30T01:25:54Z")
Or how shitty my chips are… Thanks mr seagul. I forgot to ask for mayo. Thing is, your ass-mayo does not quite taste the same. ---
**Author:** ![LolaCocaCola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@LolaCocaCola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LolaCocaCola)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/18 "2003-06-30T01:32:26Z")
This is turning into a very cute thread. Well, except for the “ass-mayo” part. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/19 "2003-06-30T01:32:33Z")
Dunno - depending where you got the chips from, the ass-mayo could well make em taste a little better 😃 They’re damn good chips down at Flamin Great though. ---
**Author:** ![green\_dragon\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/13edae/32.png) [@green\_dragon\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/green_dragon_1)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2003, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249/20 "2003-06-30T01:35:33Z")
Yeah, I think **LolaCocaCola’s** right. The ass-mayo thing is a little weird, and in an effort to keep her posting here I think we should try and avoid mentioning it… A very ‘cute’ thread? I’m kinda flattered, although I have no idea why. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-make-it-through-the-night/185249.md?page=2)