# Help me not be upset with my wife **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 22, 2004, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462 "2004-05-22T01:02:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Blue_Sky)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2004, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462/41 "2004-05-23T21:36:46Z")
> [@CalH](#): > > Do not be upset with your wife. Does that help? :smack: Why didn’t I think of this in the first place? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![CalH](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3ab097/32.png) [@CalH](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalH)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2004, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462/42 "2004-05-23T21:46:31Z")
I hope that you know this is totally out of character for me (so I hope you appreciate that I’m gonna totally spoil my hard-man image when I) ``` :p ``` ---
**Author:** ![pesch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pesch/32/4925_2.png) [@pesch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pesch)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2004, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462/43 "2004-05-23T21:47:02Z")
So long as she doesn’t slip him the $45 to bail him out. I sympathize \Blue\, I really do. My wife and I have three kids and we’ve had to work through our discipline styles. At the very least, we leave each other alone (that is, if I have to send a kid to his room, she can’t be appealed to for a Get Out card). If we have an issue about it, we talk to each other about it, later, out of earshot of the kids. Unfortunately, I can’t suggest how to get your wife to understand that. But on the whole, I think you’re doing the right thing. As for our kids, we’ve given them the options for post-high school life: get a job and pay us rent, go to college (even though they’ll have to pitch in to help pay for it), or join the military. And when the last one leaves, we’re moving and not leaving a forwarding address. (“Had a tough day with the kids, pesch?” “Why, yes, how could you tell?”) ---
**Author:** ![MrFantsyPants](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ba0ec/32.png) [@MrFantsyPants](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrFantsyPants)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2004, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462/44 "2004-05-24T00:07:40Z")
> [@Mr. Blue Sky](#): > > It’ll be interesting to see the reaction when they get home. Good luck, man. Let us know how it goes with your wife. I think that is likely to be your most interesting hurdle. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2004, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462/45 "2004-05-24T06:22:47Z")
> [@Mr. Blue Sky](#): > > She will absolutely not discipline him! I may be interjecting too much here. but I hope you DO realize that you are well with in your rights to discipline the kid yourself. I’m also gonna have to ditto. A 15 yo. with a key lock?? [Eric Foreman"s Dad] “What are you? some kind of DUMBASS!?” [/Eric Foreman’s Dad] (kidding here) My Ex-wife wouldn’t ever discipline her kids either. Poor little tikes went through a culture shock when I entered the picture. Parenting can be fun sometimes. (heh, heh,) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-not-be-upset-with-my-wife/246462.md?page=2)