Help me place a movie quote (oh, and find a certain book)

Question the first:

I’m sure there’s other ways to find this, but I am a lazy, lazy girl, and I know one of you will have the answer in moments most likely.

This has bothered me for, literally, over a decade. At the end of Marilyn Manson’s first album is what sounds like a sample from a film, most likely old, I’m thinking Bette Davis or something as it’s a woman shrieking:

“Go home to your mother! Doesn’t she ever watch you?! Tell her, this isn’t some communist daycare center! Tell your mother I hate her. Tell your mother I HATE YOU!”

Husband and I had dragged this album out this past weekend for a trip down memory lane, and got into a discussion about what this is from - any ideas (the film is, oddly, not credited in the liner notes as far as I can tell)?

Question the second:

I asked this question on the SDMB many years ago and never received a reply, but I’ll try again. Andrew Bird has a song called “Not a Song About a Train” in which he sings the following:

“This is just a song about a book I read
about a guy who goes to see his ex-lover who’s now dead
and what goes through his mind, if anything at all
as her ashes blow across the cemetary wall…”

What book is this?

Thanks!

Wiki says the quote is from Desperate Living.

Huh - well that’s odd, I’ve seen that movie.

Thanks!