# Help me understand this woman **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 10, 2010, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675 "2010-04-10T22:39:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Valgard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/7feea3/32.png) [@Valgard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Valgard)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/41 "2010-04-11T07:51:14Z")
She’s a flake. Forget about her and move on. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/42 "2010-04-11T08:38:41Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I laughed. So did I. We share the same humour. I feel sorry for you. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/43 "2010-04-11T12:33:26Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > So, am I the only one who read the OP and figured she is married and trying to sneak around? > > She couldn’t take his call randomly (husband around). > She has to reschedule at the last minute (husband wanted to do something) > She has to check what her “friends” are up to (husband) > > Idk, maybe I’m cynical. I was going to post the same thing. This is probably the most likely explanation. ---
**Author:** ![Waffle\_Decider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/77aa72/32.png) [@Waffle\_Decider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waffle_Decider)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/44 "2010-04-11T13:29:25Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > So, am I the only one who read the OP and figured she is married and trying to sneak around? > > She couldn’t take his call randomly (husband around). > She has to reschedule at the last minute (husband wanted to do something) > She has to check what her “friends” are up to (husband) > > Idk, maybe I’m cynical. Umm, yes, I think that is one possibility… ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/45 "2010-04-11T13:33:43Z")
Hard telling, not knowing! You have yet to meet her so she could be any of those things. I’d find someone that does want to meet up. She might be going on a lot of dates and has some prospects already? ---
**Author:** ![Cubsfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Cubsfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cubsfan)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/46 "2010-04-11T14:37:01Z")
Bitch-ho. I’m telling ya… ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/47 "2010-04-11T14:57:38Z")
> [@Waffle\_Decider](#): > > Umm, yes, I think that is one possibility… ☹ If that really is a possibility, then you’ve already won first prize: her absence from your life. You are hurt. Yes… you need to work it out & get back into a happier and more confident place in your mind set. From there, her whims won’t define your life. I’ve been told that some women may find that attractive also (and if I’m wrong I sure hope someone will correct me). ---
**Author:** ![Waffle\_Decider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/77aa72/32.png) [@Waffle\_Decider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waffle_Decider)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/48 "2010-04-11T15:21:51Z")
In this on-going saga of online dating, I got a hilarious message from someone else this morning. I quote here in its entirety: > [@](#): > > How are you doing?Hope you are doing fine how is your day going?Hope you had a nice day?..Well mine is going fine but lonely and boring…I am lucy taylor 30 yrs old seeking my soulmate some one i can love and care for some one that i will treat like a king a man that i will adore till my death..I am seeking a simple loving caring down to earth adoring angel…I am simple and fun to be with and i down to earth and understanding and i love to go to the movies and to go swimming and having a walk in the park…Well your profile really caught my attention so i thought i should write you so we can get to know more about each other Okay and please kindly send me a mail to the my e mail address directly ok cos my subscription will soon end ok thanks…If you feel interested feel free to write me more about you to [lucy4taylor02@yahoo.com](mailto:lucy4taylor02@yahoo.com) i will be waiting to hear from you as soon as possible Okay…Have a nice Day > With Regards > Lucy A quick google of the email address shows that it is associated with a Nigerian scammer. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/49 "2010-04-11T17:16:43Z")
> [@Waffle\_Decider](#): > > A quick google of the email address shows that it is associated with a Nigerian scammer. Does that mean the $10,000 I sent her so that she could smuggle the famed Enugu Osprey and come live with me is just lost to a scam? “If they hang you, well, I’ll always remember you.” Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/50 "2010-04-11T18:20:16Z")
Well, my policy of not responding to people who can’t write in proper English would have paid off for that. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Waffle\_Decider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/77aa72/32.png) [@Waffle\_Decider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Waffle_Decider)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/51 "2010-04-11T18:51:37Z")
> [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](#): > > Does that mean the $10,000 I sent her so that she could smuggle the famed Enugu Osprey and come live with me is just lost to a scam? Sorry, dude, I think you’re SOL. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/52 "2010-04-11T19:31:32Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Well, my policy of not responding to people who can’t write in proper English would have paid off for that. 🙂 Which, by my own experience, is about 98% of the online population. The prose of the average online denizen is so painfully unreadable I just had to stop even trying. > [@Waffle\_Decider](#): > > Sorry, dude, I think you’re SOL. 🙂 “I hope you’re not letting yourself be influenced by the guns these pocket-edition desperadoes are waving around, because I’ve practiced taking guns from these boys before; so we’ll have no trouble there.” Stranger ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2010, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/53 "2010-04-11T21:10:13Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Well, my policy of not responding to people who can’t write in proper English would have paid off for that. 🙂 I wish men could have as high standards. Alas, I fall beneath the standard line for women who are attractive AND intelligent. The last girl I saw didn’t know what a “harem” is (don’t ask), didn’t understand what I meant when I said “testing the waters” and was completely confused by the entire movie _Shutter Island_. When I sighed, disappointed, at every question that she’d ask, she’d insist that she was actually very intelligent. Oh well. She had _really_ big tits. ---
**Author:** ![Cuckoorex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ad7895/32.png) [@Cuckoorex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cuckoorex)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/54 "2010-04-12T01:24:07Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I wish men could have as high standards. Alas, I fall beneath the standard line for women who are attractive AND intelligent. > > The last girl I saw didn’t know what a “harem” is (don’t ask), didn’t understand what I meant when I said “testing the waters” and was completely confused by the entire movie _Shutter Island_. When I sighed, disappointed, at every question that she’d ask, she’d insist that she was actually very intelligent. > > Oh well. She had _really_ big tits. Hey, there’s only so much blood to go around in the body; apparently hers diverted resources from the brain to mantain mammary integrity, which may be a valid strategy for procuring a mate. I’ve also had close encounters of the clueless kind; the other night I was at a bar, picking music on the jukebox, and a tall, fairly attractive blonde girl was standing behind me, waiting to use the jukebox herself. She asked me what I had played, an I said that I had picked a mix of modern music and classic rock, anything from Citizen Cope to Kansas. She had a puzzled look on her face and asked, “Kansas _what?_” I paused for a second, scanning the room for possible locations of hidden cameras, and said, “You know, ‘Dust in the wind’, ‘Carry on my wayward son’ Kansas?” At this she scrunched up her face and said she had never heard of those songs. She went on to pick two Lady Gaga songs in a row and some T-Pain or whatever autotune rapper it was. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/55 "2010-04-12T01:45:06Z")
> [@Cuckoorex](#): > > I’ve also had close encounters of the clueless kind; the other night I was at a bar, picking music on the jukebox, and a tall, fairly attractive blonde girl was standing behind me, waiting to use the jukebox herself. She asked me what I had played, an I said that I had picked a mix of modern music and classic rock, anything from Citizen Cope to Kansas. She had a puzzled look on her face and asked, “Kansas _what?_” I paused for a second, scanning the room for possible locations of hidden cameras, and said, “You know, ‘Dust in the wind’, ‘Carry on my wayward son’ Kansas?” At this she scrunched up her face and said she had never heard of those songs. She went on to pick two Lady Gaga songs in a row and some T-Pain or whatever autotune rapper it was. _sigh_ It sounds like the problem there wasn’t that she was dumb, it was that she’s too young for you – or is your age but doesn’t share your interest in classic rock. I don’t think there’s anything particularly dumb about not being into pop music from before you were born, and I say this as someone who actually does listen primarily to pop music from before I was born. Plenty of smart people listen to Lady Gaga, though. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/56 "2010-04-12T02:27:10Z")
> [@Cuckoorex](#): > > Hey, there’s only so much blood to go around in the body; apparently hers diverted resources from the brain to mantain mammary integrity, which may be a valid strategy for procuring a mate. > > I’ve also had close encounters of the clueless kind; the other night I was at a bar, picking music on the jukebox, and a tall, fairly attractive blonde girl was standing behind me, waiting to use the jukebox herself. She asked me what I had played, an I said that I had picked a mix of modern music and classic rock, anything from Citizen Cope to Kansas. She had a puzzled look on her face and asked, “Kansas _what?_” I paused for a second, scanning the room for possible locations of hidden cameras, and said, “You know, ‘Dust in the wind’, ‘Carry on my wayward son’ Kansas?” At this she scrunched up her face and said she had never heard of those songs. She went on to pick two Lady Gaga songs in a row and some T-Pain or whatever autotune rapper it was. _sigh_ I’m 24 and wouldn’t have known what you were talking about. _shrug_ ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/57 "2010-04-12T03:34:07Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > I’m 24 and wouldn’t have known what you were talking about. _shrug_ I’ve never heard of Citizen Cope… but even I have heard of Kansas. Come on. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/58 "2010-04-12T04:02:07Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I’ve never heard of Citizen Cope… but even I have heard of Kansas. Come on. I’d have put two and two together based on the fact that he was at ye olde music machine, but if you asked me to name one Kansas song, I would be unable to do so (well, before his post listing them, I mean). ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/59 "2010-04-12T04:17:37Z")
> [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](#): > > Which, by my own experience, is about 98% of the online population. The prose of the average online denizen is so painfully unreadable I just had to stop even trying. > \ I was online dating 10 years ago; maybe things have gone really downhill since then. It really didn’t seem that hard to only respond to people who could actually write a real sentence, though. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/60 "2010-04-12T05:37:02Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I was online dating 10 years ago; maybe things have gone really downhill since then. It really didn’t seem that hard to only respond to people who could actually write a real sentence, though. With every year that passes, the scope of the internet increases. Twenty years ago only the nerdiest of the nerds were online. Ten years ago the scope had increased a bit. Now everyone and their mother is online. But I stress again, as a woman, you really have pick of the litter. I’m forced to date some 'tards. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675.md?page=4)