# Help me understand this woman **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 10, 2010, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675 "2010-04-10T22:39:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/61 "2010-04-12T05:50:33Z")
Mmm, nerds. I got me a good one. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/62 "2010-04-12T06:44:06Z")
People who are flaky and inconsiderate re making appointments are telling you very clearly how valuable they feel your time is (ie not very). You really should not go chasing these people. If a woman or man really wants to make a date appointment you can be assured they will move heaven and earth to be there. Being treated like a disposable social Kleenex is an indicator of how they handle themselves personally. Unless you enjoy humiliation these people need to be avoided. ---
**Author:** ![Dolly\_Madison](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@Dolly\_Madison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dolly_Madison)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2010, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/63 "2010-04-12T21:04:08Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > With every year that passes, the scope of the internet increases. Twenty years ago only the nerdiest of the nerds were online. Ten years ago the scope had increased a bit. Now everyone and their mother is online. > > But I stress again, as a woman, you really have pick of the litter. I’m forced to date some 'tards. Tards with big tits tho! ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2010, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/64 "2010-04-13T03:48:14Z")
> [@DCnDC](#): > > Patience. Maybe she’s just got a lot of shit going on. Don’t push too hard; I would advise wait for her to contact you and set something up. Meantime, keep looking. Eggs in one basket… Yes, she has a lot of stuff going on: dates. Unfortunately, not with the OP. Flake-O-Rama. Wait a minute..I just saw the 'advise wait for her to contact you…" LOL. I think that that’s what the whole thing is about! Just get the appointment time from the back of the check when it comes in the mail. Best wishes, hh ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2010, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/65 "2010-04-13T04:00:25Z")
> [@Dolly\_Madison](#): > > Tards with big tits tho! Yes. And as shallow as that is, remember, I’m the one here complaining that I wish the girls I dated could hold a conversation. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2010, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/66 "2010-04-13T04:00:38Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > \ After a while, online dating starts to become sort of impersonal. Until I’ve actually _met_ you, I really don’t owe you anything. If I’m hanging out with my friends and they come up with a better invitation, I’m not going to dump them to go meet up with someone I don’t even know. Flaky, oh well- that’s online dating. It’s not right to blame this on the nature of online dating. If you stiff somebody after promising them something, it shows what kind of person that you are. Flaky. Well, not the first time, but, if you do it twice, you are a flake, and anybody that doesn’t cut you loose is a bigger dork than me. best wishes, hh ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2010, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675/67 "2010-04-13T05:24:14Z")
I’d say even the first time, without a damned good reason. Keeping your word is not all that hard. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-me-understand-this-woman/535675.md?page=3)