# Help! My cats are afraid of me! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 29, 2021, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-my-cats-are-afraid-of-me/951598 "2021-09-29T19:33:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 20
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2021, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-my-cats-are-afraid-of-me/951598/20 "2021-09-30T19:21:35Z")
Every case is different of course, but I made friends with a pair of feral kittens. They would hang out around the house anyways, and I was feeding them wet food every day. I got them to warm up by scratching that lower back/right-in-front-of-the-tail spot while they were busy eating. I think it helped them to associate myself with good things. I would feed them and just hang out with them for 20-30 minutes a couple times a day. Eventually they’d come to me just for attention and that’s when I knew I had them. Took a good few months. Also their mother didn’t seem to be around anymore, it was always just the two of them, so they may have had a recently developed maternal hole in their lives at the time. Brought them inside after about 4-5 months and they are my excellent little buddies now. However at some point they’re going to get too old and will never warm up to you, so you’ve got a very limited window. My old thread about bringing in little Opal and Willa: [Anyone have experience taking in feral cats?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anyone-have-experience-taking-in-feral-cats/840713) --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-my-cats-are-afraid-of-me/951598)._