# Help test my psycho-social theory--describe yourself **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 3, 2004, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301 "2004-07-03T00:35:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![1010011010](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/ea666f/32.png) [@1010011010](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/1010011010)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2004, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/41 "2004-07-03T21:03:47Z")
**1.) Tell me a little about yourself.** I grew up in Tennessee, though I was born in Texas and live there 'til i was five or so. I’m currently in the US Navy, Nuke program, Engineering Laboratory Technician. I went to University of Tennesse, Knoxville, for a few years before I got tired of paying them to teach me things I already knew- biochemistry and molecular biology major. I generally get viewed as smart and/or arrogant… which is all a product of being able to make up convincing sounding explanations and speak with an authoratative voice. **2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple?** To whichever one it was primarily directed at… or “FirstName and FirstName LastName”. None of that “Mr and Mrs Husband’s Name”, thank you. **3.) How do you put your return address on mail?** Upper left corner of the front of the envelope… Name (Imaginary Company if I suspect junk mail will result) Street Address State, Zip+4 I’m thinking of just doing ZIP+4+2 to see how that works, though. **4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status?** Wanna cyber? 😃 24, male, Married. ---
**Author:** ![Fretful\_Porpentine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fretful_porpentine/32/2873_2.png) [@Fretful\_Porpentine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fretful_Porpentine)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2004, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/42 "2004-07-03T22:12:17Z")
1.) Tell me a little about yourself. Grad student, but a very lazy one. Like to read and travel, don’t like most of what’s on TV. Left-leaning feminist, but much more interested in Not Getting In Any Fights than in advertising my politics. 2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple? “Helen and Walter Smith” or, as the case may be, “Helen Jones and Walter Smith.” 3.) How do you put your return address on mail? Er … with an address label? I suppose it would be “F. Porpentine / street address / city, state, zip” if I were to write it out by hand, but I never do. 4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status? 28, female, single. ---
**Author:** ![MinniePurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@MinniePurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MinniePurl)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2004, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/43 "2004-07-03T23:53:55Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > I’ve got a little theory I want to test, so I’m starting a poll of sorts. Since I don’t want to risk skewing the results, I’m not telling you what the theory is just yet. > > 1.) Tell me a little about yourself. College dropout, stay-at-home mom, aspiring knitwear designer curretnly thwarted by a bad case of carpal tunnel syndrome. Mother to a teenager and a small child. I read a lot, mostly non-fiction like knitting books, cookbooks, Etc. I like the sorts of TV shows that are either big hits in England, or cancelled really quickly in America. Except “The Office”, it just makes me cringe so much that I can’t watch it. I despise reality TV, and the willfully ignorant. People who name their children awful things like Maddicynne and Jakub irritate me. > [@](#): > > 2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple? Bob & Jane Doe, unless I have some reason to beleive they would prefer something else. For the most part, I don’t send much mail to married couples, or much mail at all, apart from bills. > [@](#): > > 3.) How do you put your return address on mail? M. Purl Street Town, ST 12345 > [@](#): > > 4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status? 33, female, married for the second time ---
**Author:** ![Hrd2hndl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8dc957/32.png) [@Hrd2hndl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hrd2hndl)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/44 "2004-07-04T00:29:05Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > I’ve got a little theory I want to test, so I’m starting a poll of sorts. Since I don’t want to risk skewing the results, I’m not telling you what the theory is just yet. > > 1.) Tell me a little about yourself. 31 SWF NM > > 2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple? The “last names” > > 3.) How do you put your return address on mail? FN, MI, LN > > 4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status? See #1 ---
**Author:** ![aquasunset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a587f6/32.png) [@aquasunset](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aquasunset)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/45 "2004-07-04T00:40:25Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > I’ve got a little theory I want to test, so I’m starting a poll of sorts. Since I don’t want to risk skewing the results, I’m not telling you what the theory is just yet. > > 1.) Tell me a little about yourself. > > I am in advertising, my passion is the beach life…still searching for my hut on the beach. > > 2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple? > > Mr. and Mrs. Lastname > > 3.) How do you put your return address on mail? > > Lastname > Address > > 4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status? 42,Female,Single ---
**Author:** ![Bill\_H](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a5b964/32.png) [@Bill\_H](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bill_H)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/46 "2004-07-04T00:43:02Z")
What’s the theory? What’s the theory? ---
**Author:** ![TitoBenito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2acd7d/32.png) [@TitoBenito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TitoBenito)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/47 "2004-07-04T00:46:31Z")
1. I do not like relish. 2. Depends on the relationship. Mr. and Mrs. Doe if they are older then me or i don’t know them well Jane and John Doe if I know them pretty well 3. Just the adress never the name unless its to someone I don’t know at all 4. 22, M, Married ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/48 "2004-07-04T00:57:17Z")
1.) **jackelope** is a Scorpio who enjoys pina coladas and getting caught in the rain… 2.) “The Lastnames.” If they’re good friends of mine I’ll do something jokey like “M. et Mme. Lastname” or “Sr. y Sra. Lastname.” 3.) Top-left corner of front of envelope: Mylastname (I don’t use my first name in the return address) Number, Street, Apt. # City ST, ZIP 4.) 32, male, engaged. ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/49 "2004-07-04T01:26:55Z")
1.) I was raised by hermits and am still learning how to do the connect to people thing, which is odd because if you do one of those workplace diversity tests, I test as a relater. I have a difficulty with deadlines and other people’s expectations. I was a stony broke reentry student, single parent with three kids for so long that I’m still adjusting to having a cash flow. I’m the oldest Jr. Engineer in the Public Works Department for a City in California. I have a house but my knees are dicky enough that I haven’t gotten the lawn and flower beds the way I want them yet, which annoys me. Three sons are grown and living nearby, but on their own. 2.) However they prefer. If they’re older, I’ll do Mr. and Mrs. Hisfull name. If not Bob and June Lastname. I often wimp out and address to the Lastname Family. 3.) Lately I’ve been using Firstname Lastname, complete address. For decades I used Streetaddress, Zip Code (no city or state), but that faded out about after I got my own place. 4.) 48, female, divorced ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/50 "2004-07-04T02:04:00Z")
1.) I’m a high school teacher of AP European History and Debate. I brew, shoot, and like to blow things up. Our cat’s name is Bijou. 2.) If we know them well, MaleFirstName & FemaleFirstName LastName. If we don’t, Mr. & Mrs. LastName. If they have kids, then The LastName Family. 3.) I peel off one of the little stickers that every person and their brother send us at Christmas in an effort to get us to donate. Then I stick it on the envelope. 4.) 49, Male, Married, No kids. ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/51 "2004-07-04T02:29:55Z")
[QUOTE=CrazyCatLady] I’ve got a little theory I want to test, so I’m starting a poll of sorts. Since I don’t want to risk skewing the results, I’m not telling you what the theory is just yet. \*\* Tell me a little about yourself. \*\* I work as a Web Page Tech/Systems Administrator for a school district in SW Michigan. I have a black belt in Karate, and I’m a part time professional magician. \*\* How do you typically address mail to a married couple?\*\* It depends on how formal we decide to go. If it’s just a regualar letter or a card, we won’t go so formal and say something like, “Ann and Mike Smith” or “Jon and Betty Jones”. If it’s something that is formal, we will do something like, "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. Now if it’s a married couple with children, we will say something like, “The Smith Family” or Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family. \*\* How do you put your return address on mail?\*\* We either write, “Smith” with our address below that, or we use a pre-printed return label that says, “The Smith Family” with our address below. **hat are your age, gender, and marital status?** I’m 35, Male, and married. ---
**Author:** ![NinjaChick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@NinjaChick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinjaChick)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/52 "2004-07-04T02:39:15Z")
1. Just graduated high school, starting in August as a liberal arts/classics major at a tiny obscure school far from home. Writer and semi-cartoonist, been referred to as a “mad genius” type. Very introverted. 2. Mrs. and Mr. X. If they’ve got different names, Mrs. X and mr. y. Woman first, always, because I’m stubborn that way. 3. Preprinted label with name (usually ones from PETA or ASPCA), or just address. 4. Will turn 18 in a month, single, female. ---
**Author:** ![vl\_mungo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/bc8723/32.png) [@vl\_mungo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vl_mungo)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/53 "2004-07-04T02:44:59Z")
1.) Record store owner. Scarily similar to the movie High Fidelity, only without the yelling in the rain parts. 2.) By their first names unless they’re a million years old. 3.) I either use my business address or if it’s specifically from me… V. Mungo + full address. 4.) 39 / M / Married ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/54 "2004-07-04T03:10:00Z")
1. I’m the last of four kids in my family (boy, girl, boy, me). I’m the unemployed mother of a beautiful 13 month old boy named Alex (NOT ALEXANDER\*!!!) James. I’m a Pisces with a nose ring and 11 tropical fish. I’ll be a student in the fall, but I have no real idea what I want to be “when I grow up”. I don’t really have a favorite color. I’m currently living with the father of my son until I’m more prepared to do otherwise. 2. Formal: Mr. and Mrs. Johnson Informal: Frank & Lisa Smith 3. Business S. Fire 123 My Street My Town, MN 12345 If it’s personal, I’ll use my full first name. 1. 21, female, single ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Fire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Silver\_Fire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Fire)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/55 "2004-07-04T03:13:30Z")
Damn it, I forgot about the \*… \*Surprisingly enough, I haven’t had many people try to call him Alexander, which is nice. I don’t even really hear a lot of “A.J.”, unless it’s my dad trying to piss me off. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jeevwoman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de053/32.png) [@jeevwoman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jeevwoman)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 2:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/56 "2004-07-04T14:18:39Z")
1.) Tell me a little about yourself. Born in NJ, now living in Chicago. BA in English, minor in Spanish. MA in linguitics. Spent many years in the non-profit field, now working at a public university doing educational administration. Raised by public school teacher parents; have one older brother and one older sister. Lived in Spain, Mexico and Croatia, for a total of about 18 months. 2.) How do you typically address mail to a married couple? Depends. I generally do Mr. X Jones and Ms. X Smith, unless I know for a fact that the woman has taken his last name. (I kept mine so I am sensitive to this.) If it is a family with children, I put The Smith-Jones family. If she has taken his name, then I write Mr and Mrs X Jones or Mr and Mrs Jones. 3.) How do you put your return address on mail? We have return address labels that have our last names (no room for first initials) so they say Smith/Jones and our address. Or I address it from the dogs (who have my last name.) 🙂 4.) What are your age, gender, and marital status? 32, female, married, two dogs ---
**Author:** ![Red\_Stilettos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/fbc32d/32.png) [@Red\_Stilettos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Red_Stilettos)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/57 "2004-07-04T14:45:06Z")
1. I’m an only child, which explains my tendency to be a bit of a loner. I’m overeducated and underpaid with a Ph.D. in molecular microbiology. I’m an animal lover (no, not _that_ way :eek: ) and I’m headed to vet school. Apparently, my goal in life is to be super-over-educated. 2. I usually address mail to John and Jane Doe. I never use Dr. for a PhD outside of a professional setting, but I do address M.D.'s as Dr… I only do the Mr. and Mrs. thing for newlyweds, kind of a recognition of their commitment. But then it’s back to Dick and Jane. I think changing one’s last name is good, but I hate leaving out the woman’s name entirely. 3. My first initial, my last name, then my address. 4. 28, F, single P.S.- When are we going to get to hear you theory? ---
**Author:** ![The\_world\_s\_most\_deadliest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@The\_world\_s\_most\_deadliest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_world_s_most_deadliest)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/58 "2004-07-04T15:25:51Z")
1. I’m a web designer, graphic designer, and all around artsy-fartsy. I also enjoy music, video games, cooking, and recreational marajuana. 2. We don’t have a lot of married friends to address letters to. Usually its Christmas cards, in which case it’s addressed to the entire family, i.e. The Baker Family. However I would probably use Mr. and Mrs. Whatchamacallit. 3. Return address is always just our last name, no Mr or Mrs., plus address. In the interest of brevity. 4. 27, female, married. I’m dyin’ to hear what your theory is… ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2004, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/59 "2004-07-04T18:14:50Z")
1. Intelligent, creative, bipolar, humorous, sensitive, romantic, shy, inquisitive, obsessive, philosophical, logical, artistic, musical, passionate and right now, exhausted. 2. “Jane Smith and John Jones” (depending on whom I know better), or “Jane and John Jones” (also depending on whom I know better). 3. Full name & address. 4. 58, male, partnered with the most wonderful man in the world. ---
**Author:** ![sugaree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@sugaree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sugaree)\ **Post date:** [July 5, 2004, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301/60 "2004-07-05T01:09:20Z")
1. Negativedomus. I’m sick of fishing condoms out of my vagina. 2. Homer and Marge Simpson. Homer Simpson and Marge Bouvier. Which spouse goes first usually depends on which spouse I know better. Sometimes “The Simpson Family,” especially if they have kids at home. If I don’t know them well enough to start the letter with “Dear Homer and Marge,” and I don’t know which title the lady prefers, I write something akin to “Dear Simpsons.” Miss, Mrs., and Ms. are landmines, I tell you, _landmines_. 1. I use the little address labels that charities send you in the mail. I don’t care if they are in my name, my husband’s name, both names, or no name/just address. I sometimes put the label in the upper left corner of the front of the envelope, but more often, I stick it on the back, as if it were a seal. 2. 34, female, married. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-test-my-psycho-social-theory-describe-yourself/253301.md?page=4)