# Help us find a wedding song that hasn't been done to death **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [April 19, 2005, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110 "2005-04-19T19:30:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/21 "2005-04-19T21:12:58Z")
\*Smack My Bitch Up? \* 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/22 "2005-04-19T21:14:34Z")
_Why Don’t We Do It In The Road_ (Beatles). I once went to a Sunday breakast buffet at a swanky place that had a _harpist_ performing. It was all I could do to resist the temptation to make that song request. ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/23 "2005-04-19T21:40:51Z")
If there’s a shotgun involved in this wedding, _Havin’ My Baby_ might be apropos. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_Torque](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Max\_Torque](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_Torque)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/24 "2005-04-19T21:46:59Z")
Dunno if this helps, but “our song” (because it happened to be the one playing when I proposed to her) is “Tupelo Honey” by Van Morrison. When we got married, our recessional song was “It Had To Be You”. ---
**Author:** ![ChockFullOfHeadyGoodness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chockfullofheadygoodness/32/511_2.png) [@ChockFullOfHeadyGoodness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChockFullOfHeadyGoodness)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/25 "2005-04-19T22:21:00Z")
“Absolute Beginners” by David Bowie. For dancing you’d want the single version, as the original soundtrack version is over 8 minutes long and has some abrupt time changes which may make dancing sort of awkward. Sensitive relations may object to the line “As long as we’re together the rest can go to hell”, but otherwise the [lyrics](http://www.lyricsdepot.com/david-bowie/absolute-beginners.html) seem to fit what you’re looking for. ---
**Author:** ![Zahava424](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/76d3ee/32.png) [@Zahava424](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zahava424)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/26 "2005-04-19T22:27:31Z")
Everclear’s “Annabella’s Song” was written as a lullaby, but it’s beautiful, with the violins and the loving tone of the words. I think it could easily be a love song. Is “Come What May” from the Moulin Rouge Soundtrack too cheesy? Semisonic’s “FNT” is fun and the lyrics are full of adoration. ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/27 "2005-04-19T22:28:25Z")
Another vote for the Cure’s _Lovesong_. It’s the ultimate wedding song, singer Robert Smith wrote it as a wedding gift for his wife. If you’d like a more up-tempo version, 311 did a cover with a Hawaiian guitar. ---
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/28 "2005-04-19T22:34:17Z")
Ooh, another one – kinda corny, but one of our faves that we always dance to at weddings (and we DON’T dance well): [url=http://www.lyrics007.com/Anne%20Murray%20Lyrics/Could%20I%20Have%20This%20Dance%20Lyrics.html]Anne Murray, “Could I Have This Dance?” Nice waltz beat too. ---
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/29 "2005-04-19T22:37:49Z")
Crap. [Fixed Link.](http://www.lyrics007.com/Anne%20Murray%20Lyrics/Could%20I%20Have%20This%20Dance%20Lyrics.html) ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/30 "2005-04-19T22:47:47Z")
If I Could Turn Back Time -Cher I Hate Myself For Loving You - Joan Jett Heartbreaker - Pat Benatar Masochism Tango or I Hold Your Hand In Mine - Tom Lehrer I Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor Miss Otis Regrets - Kirsty MacColl and the Pogues Now the serious suggestions: We Belong - Pat Benatar They Don’t Know - Tracey Ullmann Come Rain or Come Shine - Billie Holiday Heart - The Pet Shop Boys These Dreams - Heart ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/31 "2005-04-19T23:07:20Z")
I think it’s highly unfair that no one ever has [Aqualung](http://www.towerrecords.com/product.aspx?pfid=1033921) performed at their wedding. You could be the first, **gonzoron**. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Delly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/85f322/32.png) [@Delly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Delly)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2005, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/32 "2005-04-19T23:57:27Z")
If I ever get lucky enough to meet someone I would like to marry, this is the song I would like. Its clearly a love song, but a lot of people think its also quite sad, probably because of the tempo. Anyway, the song is [The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face](http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/The-First-Time-Ever-I-Saw-Your-Face-lyrics-Stereophonics/7050BA29D403DD0448256FD3000BA121) by the Stereophonics (originally by Roberta Flack I believe, but its this version I prefer). Not a lot of people have heard this version, I think you can download it legally from this site. ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/33 "2005-04-20T00:48:22Z")
Keep it sweet and simple. Go with “Love Me Tender” by Elvis. _Love me tender, Love me sweet, Never let me go. You have made my life complete, And I love you so._ We used Amy Grant’s cover from the _Honeymoon In Vegas_ soundtrack for the last dance at our wedding reception. ---
**Author:** ![rjung](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/45deac/32.png) [@rjung](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rjung)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/34 "2005-04-20T00:54:11Z")
“You Make Me,” by “Weird Al” Yankovic. Now _that’s_ love. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/35 "2005-04-20T00:57:06Z")
> [@jujitsuka](#): > > My brother also played the Star Wars Imperial March on an acoustic guitar as I walked down the aisle. You mean the Darth Vader theme from _Empire Strikes Back_ and _Return of the Jedi_? Ooh, did he also sing the lyrics? You know: _“We’re the evil galactic empire, We’re the evil galactic empire. DON’T ask US to be merciful … with you, To be merciful … with you, You pathetic vermin scum; WE’LL crush YOU like a bug beneath … our heels, Like a bug beneath … our heels, A-and then, scrape you off.”_ ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/36 "2005-04-20T01:00:16Z")
You mentioned Tool. How about _[Parabol](http://www.seeklyrics.com/lyrics/TOOL/Parabol.html)_? _So familiar and overwhelmingly warm This one, this form I hold now. Embracing you, this reality here, This one, this form I hold now, so Wide eyed and hopeful. Wide eyed and hopefully wild…_ Knowing Keenan, it could mean anything (and probably doesn’t mean what it looks like) but it’s still a beautiful song at face value. [_Parabola_](http://www.seeklyrics.com/lyrics/TOOL/Parabola.html)’s also good but not really a first dance kind of song. You could use it as a segue though. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/37 "2005-04-20T01:06:11Z")
Staind’s [_So Far Away_](http://www.lyrics007.com/Staind%20Lyrics/So%20Far%20Away%20Lyrics.html) just came on the radio as I posted my previous entry and considering some of the other bands in your OP, I thought it was worth consideration as well. _This is my life Its not what it was before All these feelings I’ve shared And these are my dreams That I’d never lived before Somebody shake me Cause I, I must be sleeping…_ ---
**Author:** ![MagicEyes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@MagicEyes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MagicEyes)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/38 "2005-04-20T01:45:26Z")
[QUOTE=gonzoron] [li][Runaway](http://www.lyricsdepot.com/the-corrs/runaway.html) by the Corrs (It was sounding great until the “by candlelight, make love to me through the night” which is a bit too evocative for our relatives)[/li][/QUOTE] If that’s too much for your relatives, then I guess _Closer_ by Nine Inch Nails wouldn’t work, either. 😃 My all-time favorite love song is Peter Gabriel’s _In Your Eyes_. Not the really bad remake–that was just nasty. I also like _Head Over Feet_, the Cranberries’ _Dreams_, _Yellow_ by Coldplay, and _All I Want Is You_ (U2). I’m going to add another vote for The Cure’s _Lovesong_. It’s kind of mesmerizing. ---
**Author:** ![Ranchoth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranchoth/32/1066_2.png) [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/39 "2005-04-20T02:05:29Z")
Hmmm…I’d suggest: _Love song for a Vampire_ (Second it, that is. Good song. And no real “vampire” references that’d put off anyone listening to the lyrics) _Last Man in my Life_—Sarah Brightman (This won’t work if it’s a lesbian wedding, though. 😉 ) _Together_—From the anime _Robotech_ soundtrack. (Good luck finding it, though.) _…And Forever_—From the _Big O_ soundtrack. (!) _Make Someone Happy_—Jimmy Durante _Barefoot_—K.D. Lang _I Love You_—Sarah McLachlan _The First Time Ever I Saw your Face_—Celine Dion (Johnny Cash also does a version, which is…interesting.) ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2005, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110/40 "2005-04-20T02:22:52Z")
Not that I’ll ever (probably) get married, but if I were to get married and had a reception, my first dance song (which you may use if you want) will be: Marvin Gaye’s “Let’s Get it On”. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/help-us-find-a-wedding-song-that-hasnt-been-done-to-death/300110.md?page=3)