# Hetero anal sex: depth **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [December 9, 2013, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878 "2013-12-09T06:48:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/21 "2013-12-10T22:41:40Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > And that came off as much snippier than it needed to. Sorry. We’re used to it. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/22 "2013-12-10T23:21:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Quoth **Malacandra** : > > Did you read the part about acting out an anal-rape fantasy…? Consensually acting out a rape fantasy is in no way the same thing as rape. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2013, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/23 "2013-12-10T23:41:38Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > Consensually acting out a rape fantasy is in no way the same thing as rape. depending on the extent to which one takes that fantasy - it could cause the same ‘damage’ however. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/24 "2013-12-11T00:04:22Z")
before people engage in play they have to be in shape for it. buttee should be able to relax at will and instantly before and do all levels of grippage desired; practice butt discipline. athletes practice, practice, practice; weekenders get injured. ---
**Author:** ![stui\_magpie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stui_magpie/32/11010_2.png) [@stui\_magpie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stui_magpie)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/25 "2013-12-11T00:07:14Z")
IIRC according to Chopper Read, 22 inches is where it gets bad. ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2013, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/26 "2013-12-11T04:52:37Z")
> [@Exapno\_Mapcase](#): > > It is written entirely from a man’s point of view, and even though that was an extremely enlightened pov for the time later editions had to add much more detail about women’s wants and needs. FWIW, the current edition was updated by a woman. ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2013, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/27 "2013-12-18T05:22:53Z")
Checking back in (wow, has it been a week?) I’ve finished reading the latest edition, and the “one inch/glans-deep” advice is gone. The current advice is lots of lube and take it slow. Though there are still the warnings about knocking against ovaries (and other internal organs). ETA: Also, there is no reference to rape fantasy, anal or otherwise, in the current edition. ---
**Author:** ![MathGenios](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MathGenios](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MathGenios)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2013, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878/28 "2013-12-19T04:44:22Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > Consensually acting out a rape fantasy is in no way the same thing as rape. Tell that to the judge. No, but seriously, I dated a very crazy girl once and she wanted to do this thing. I would normally be into this kind of stuff but she has history with real rape and the whole thing turned me off completely, didn’t even follow through. Didn’t matter because a few days later I broke up with her for unrelated reasons and a week later was served with a temporary restraining order. One of the reasons she gave was kidnapping (due to tying her up) and rape. She had bruises because she was anemic and other self-inflicted wounds but I was still in a world of pain. Luckily, because she had just spent 3 days in a loony bin for a suicide attempt, nothing came of it - but this still lead me to do a lot of research into this kind of stuff. Basically, the general rule of thumb is, don’t do anything of the sort unless you’re like… a thousand percent certain your partner is not a psycho. If anything goes wrong, despite it being consensual, you’re still in a lot of trouble. Really made me rethink my later approaches towards my various sexual acts that I used to perform. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/hetero-anal-sex-depth/675878.md?page=1)